Forum Activity for @tigerlily

TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 06:40:16PM
343 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

It's really hard to stay positive in life sometimes. Right now some events at work and in my personal life make me feel everyone is against me. What i mean, is these are not my problems. People are not wanting to fix there own and it somehow comes back to me to fix. I keep pushing back and set boundaries and they are constantly overstepped.
Is it possible that all the negativity around me is what is causing my world to feel like it's crashing and everything against me? These are things that I'm in no position or authority to fix. Or is it that it is something I can fix and that is why the universe is doing this to me??
updated by @tigerlily: 11/25/17 11:08:38AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/16/17 01:37:31PM
343 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

Is it possible you are picking up his tiredness? There are days I'm so tired I can't move and I don't know why either. Then I learn that evening my dad has been the same way all day. I'm very close to my father. I have to force myself to do things to get some energy back. Even if it's 5 minutes on a jump rope lol. Maybe go for a walk and listen to music that makes you happy? That helps me too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/16/17 05:51:49AM
343 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

@ Zacharias.....you said it perfectly! We all say we need to take better care of us, but then we dont. I think we can learn from the narcs that ourself is #1, we can help after we have helped ourselves first if chosen to do so.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/14/17 07:32:08PM
343 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

Yes. I always had this, but not to the level as now. I was diagnosed with PTSD, refused anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. I learned exercise and nature and a diet to help me. Otherwise, I'd be an alcoholic. The really hard days I drink, when I'm just to emotionally drained to push myself to exercise. After a night of drinks, I feel recharged. The nights I drink when I feel great and not emotionally drained, wow hangover! It's weird right?

I think the trauma just makes us more sensitive instead of desensitized. Like wakes us up.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/14/17 07:26:00PM
343 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Thank you everyone. Now I'm seeing this is more as an empathic trait.

Honestly, I have a hard time looking people in their eyes for this reason! I look away alot, and of course I get from people "I'm trying to hide something" by doing so. Not at all actually. However, Those are the same who say it's "judgy" that im judging. How can i when I see who they are by their eyes? Well if I look long enough I see beyond the shutters and all that inside, and will start absorbing their energies really quick, which actually causes me quite anxiety and disturbences. Unless the person is just genuinely happy then I can't stop laughing.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/11/17 04:52:21AM
343 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I've met alot of people like that who have that "blank look" in their eyes. Some I did get a good feeling, others not, and some just nothing. I got to know each and every one dispight that judgement of feeling I got as well. After that I learned why I did or didn't like that person initially. This is why I tend to run from those right away, and my friend says it's judgy. Not sure how I'm being judgy when each time I guess I see it right away.

With your motorcycle guy, he sounds a little intense of bottled emotions. How do you handle being around that?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/07/17 05:53:50AM
343 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I haven't been wrong yet let's say. It's not that I'm trying or wanting to be judgy, it's the reason why I won't associate with them. It's proven me right every time. Example, The last guy I was with I saw in his eyes that first night i met him he was going to hurt me. I also saw alot of uncertainty
But a good heart. I didn't allow for it to bother me so I waa with him for a while based on that goid heart, and in the end he hurt me pretty bad. Another example, a coworker. Lost and confusion and not very bright I saw. I thought showed me wrong as I did see was kind of bright at doing her job. Well, that was proved wrong again as she tried to get in me trouble, by her not being so bright I had all the necessary documentation to back it up and it backfired on her. Later I heard she just wanted a promotion, which by the lost and confusion I saw in her was where she went the wrong way to get promoted.

Does that make sense? I'm not here to judge them, it's what I see. Do both those people have deep rooted issues in themselves that I cannot see based on that curtain, probavly. It's only helped me recently on who new friends would be or how I am at work.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:46:43PM
343 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Do you all feel by looking in someone's eyes you can tell what kind of person they are? My so called best friend said I'm just judgy. Of course I defended myself and gave examples. I'm taking this as an empathic trait or another type of gift . Would love to hear your stories or experiences around the eyes and that it's not being judgy.
updated by @tigerlily: 11/29/17 01:23:06PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:41:37PM
343 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

Congratulations on your sobriety!!! I'm so happy for you :)

I did the same, I drowned myself in alcolhol and cigarettes and frozen pizza and doritos and cookies. I gained 60lbs from it. I always knew I had a problem with and needed to stop. I can stop for good time, then I slowly trickle back. Everyone always said I had a problem with people. Then as years went and I matured, I realized I wasn't the problem. But all that did emotionally damage me. For years and years people in the group took advantage of me. As I let loose and met new people, same thing. I learned how to set better boundaries and now people come to me again, to fix. It's like I can't avoid it. I to feel alone in this world and uncomfortable with all these feelings that rumble inside. No heeling could permanently fix it, but routine maintenance could for a bit. Until something else in me broke.

I think instead we need to see how strong we are deep inside and ride that. Always remember that when we feel down from all the emotions to rise again. I know how tiring it is, and I get fed up to. I'm trying now to just accept things and let it go, when I have it mastered I will share :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:28:59PM
343 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

I actually like calling them out on their BS. Maybe it is all the years of being taken for granted. Even when they overstep, I say it too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/04/17 08:57:16PM
343 posts

Empath meme


Empath

I saw this meme and wanted to share....

"Oh you're a narcissist well I'm going to introduce you to an empath to humble you so you know what it's like to value, respect, and love someone other than yourself.
So you're an empath, we'll I'm going to surround you with narcissists so you can toughen up, realize your ego and value yourself more than you value others."
updated by @tigerlily: 11/10/17 06:20:51PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/28/17 08:38:07PM
343 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

@raindancer this all makes sense and I understand. Yes, it does feel like I'm drowning or like someone playing with me. As a kid remember we would dunk each other and think it was fun until someone got hurt? It is like people are deliberately doing this to me as it is fun for them, toying with emotions as it makes them better. Then I'm hurt. I feel like my power is sometimes being taken from me for their own joy. This is why I want to stop the empathy. The unbalance of emotions causes great destress.
I've seen a few different therapists recently to just get opinions, and each one talks about the negativity in my life. To stop worrying and stop helping others, and to focus on me. I feel my power of positivity and joy being stripped by a current that I can't escape as others keep holding on to me like the fireants to save them. Only they will be the first to let me drown if they can. Feels also like those that need help are just bwing put in my way that I can't avoid. Normally I can hold and not need anyone and be fine. But lately I feel like I need someone. All that stress, negativity just builds inside, I feel like I'm a vortex in my head spinning and need someone to stop me. I don't like this and normally turn to physical activity and nature to release. However, this past week, it feels like they are pulling me to them and I'm trapped. Make sense?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/20/17 07:44:17PM
343 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

It still feels great to put energy to myself. It's draining to help someone if you can't help you first. I'm not here to be selfish or anything, but no one has really helped me when I needed it. Probably neither of you either. They all just run. Great friends right? Same for those at work and acquaintances right?

I've been in those deep waters many times, and this past time around that gave me the health scare, I felt I was dying inside. I started noticing some signs and followed them, and that's how I feel I was able to come back above water and breathe. I feel I was being told my gift was being misused by people hence the signs. If that makes sense. I am tired all the time now, but a good tired where I need sleep and wake rejuvenayed. Not like before.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 08:47:05PM
343 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

Is this why I have a hard time trusting people? Because many lie ALL the time?

I call out the BS when I smell it. Some days I just can't smell it. If I feel trusting, it all goes overy my head. The days I'm super bitchy for some reason I smell that BS more.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 06:07:46PM
343 posts

Men


Empath

Girl I hear ya! Same thing happened to me. I don't talk to the one guy who I thought was the one anymore, and now when I reflect back. I clearly just filled some emotional void he had, which was lonliness. I often thought if he had recognition too. But when I would ask "why are we doing this" his response "I don't know" This other guy, we'll he just intimidates me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 04:14:24PM
343 posts

Men


Empath

@Nikler I completely understand all you are going through. I can tell you that I've been dating around for years and have had no issues telling a guy goodbye amd washing away with it. Like angel says, it's that empath connection right? I have met men that I can relate too and think this is great! But unfortunately I'm not the girl for those guys. The ones that "wow'd" me that I speak of in my post, are the ones I can't shake. I honestly thought it was me, so I questioned myself "am I that lonely desperate myself" it's a "no" now, because I look back at all my dates and nothing hit like that. I guess if it really is lonely and desperation, we would have settled.

I did have a dream that man I know came into my house and met my parents , weird dream to me. Well he didn't meet my parents but he did come to my house, like 2 months later. Which I usually don't invite people over, I just meet them out. But his gentlemen charm wanted to pick me up. So of course that dream hit me later in the evening and I thought shit omg. I know he was dating someone and we agreed to be friends, and if he is a soul mate, I'd like to have him as a friend if nothing more comes from it. Although that hard in itself.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/13/17 05:13:49PM
343 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

I had a minor health scare recently that made me rethink things, ALOT. I know we all talk about taking in others emotions, stress, etc. And how to stop it or can we etc. I know you all have heard me vent about work and friends, and after all the pounding in my head and rapid heart rate, I felt like I was dying inside. I believe I met another soul mate in life, and something again just popped in me. As I'm not "worrying" or "caring" so much and taking in people's stress at work, I've been feeling better. I Like I'm giving them there stress back. Same for friendships, I refuse to be there punching bag of emotions.

I feel like I'M FINALLY taking care of me and falling in love with myself again. I have energy now to work out, dress up, put on make up, eat better, do things around the house, and want to go out. I feel like I'm glowing again, and I must be because I'm getting lots of compliments from people.

I know my coworkers feel more stressed more than ever and still want to vent and push things off on me, but I'm getting good at the "no" and the boundaries. Lot of my friends barely talk to me anymore as they have nothing positive to say.

I seriously never knew how good it feels until now. Yes I miss helping, and still can feel their pain or sorrows or stress and it hurts. But I feel "healthy" again.

So now bigger question, why do I still "feel" bad for not helping? I mean, I seriously haven't felt this happy and healthy in years.
updated by @tigerlily: 11/07/17 05:55:30PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:07:06PM
343 posts

Where does our Empath Gifts come from?


Empath

I agree with Trevor. Look at animals or our pets. They always know when we are not feeling well or our moods. How danger is close. Maybe it is that the sense is suppressed by society.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:04:12PM
343 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

Hi, I have alot of friends like this as well. As for selfish, I picked up on that to lately. And I agree the social media is bringing out the worse. It's been driving me crazy. And I know 150% how you feel where people call you to tell you something stupid like that but then never want to listen to you or acknowledge what you say.

I think it's an empath trait, we are always there and people just become codependent on us. It really is up to us to set better boundaries, I haven't mastered it yet. But I have been saying no more, and that's hard really hard. It bothers me all day and I keep thinking about it because I know I can help them, but no one is helping me but me so I'm just trying to focus my energy on me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/01/17 04:54:29PM
343 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

Yes, the adrenals are actually a "medical" thing I have. I get tested for them and even my dr doesn't understand why they are elevated on some tests, and other tests not. Looking back now, I can see how the stress is causing it. The bloat gets to me sometimes cause as you know it can hurt and be uncomfortable. I'm hoping now a consistent workout schedule will help with this. I usually run/bike ride through a forest by my house and I always feel great.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/31/17 07:08:51PM
343 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

So when people loose weight from stress and depression, would that mean they are a narc???? This is just fascinating to me now that you all can relate.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:08:05PM
343 posts



Sometimes dreaming about death is the end to something. Whatever hardships you are going through could be coming to end and for the better. Maybe the angel in your dream is pointing you to your niece and mother as a way for them to help you?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:04:18PM
343 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

It's people negative energy. And yes, the stress has had me off a bit trying to focus on me as I'm too mentally exhausted at the end of the day. I tried finding the "joy" to help others, as it can be rewarding. But then they just cling to me like a leach. Leading me to then turn very negative. It took ALOT of motivation to just get up for a run and a bike ride. And the negativity I got from friends about that too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 06:35:58PM
343 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

This is a weird one, but has anyone experienced weight gain from negative energy? I've had a lot of negativity with some friends recently and basically had to take a break from them, same with work I'm taking a lot of vacation time. I feel like my gut is bloated, and the scale has gone up. My digestion is off too.
I get it has to do with your third chakra. I'm trying this "I don't care" attitude, but that's hard because I start shaking if I don't help. Then I'm stressed all day if I don't help, like it lingers. I started exercising again, and I can honestly say that is the best energy cleansing for me. All that pent up energy I guess and I can run and bike for miles and miles, and not feel tired.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/18/17 03:33:32AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/11/17 08:14:15PM
343 posts

Strong sensations???


Empath

My empathic skills and intuition has grown tremondously the past few months. It's so strong that I almost can't function. People at work and in my personal life are questioning what I am doing. Even though something logical to do, my gut says no. So I follow it and I'm right. So now naturally I'm so impressed with my intuition and fascinated more by it. People are asking me to justify myself. What???
updated by @tigerlily: 09/10/17 10:31:54AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/11/17 07:57:57PM
343 posts

Advise please


Empath

Don't do it. I get it logically it sounds right to you. But it's your boss. Whatever she is charging for rent, she'll profit. And the appreciation of the home in a year of rent. She's only asking you so you take care of the house and won't trash it. That's what my gut says. Protect you first :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/17 04:08:17PM
343 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

My ex fiance was a narc. Typical narc as he just sucked the life out of me. Taking and taking but not giving back. They are drawn to people who can help them as they can't help themselves, the empath. In person they may act like an angel, on social media I agree it's what they post or say. I'm starting to notice the wording they use when they speak or write, and that stench of BS makes me sick.

I'm all for helping others, and now I'm making myself more aware and will just cut the BS they give. After years of being taken advantage of you can't help but to grow a tight backbone. I look like the jerk to them, and I don't care. I tried to help, but I can see taking advantage of starting to happen. I'm starting to think my best friend is a narc, although I'm still in denial about it, hard to ignore the signs. I cut contact back with her this year and she flipped out on me a few times. It really bothered me that she's doing that, but I stood up for myself.

Putting up a stance to a narc I've noticed is this feeling of powerless from them and some kind of sadness. It's a battle of emotions I feel inside too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/18/17 06:45:43PM
343 posts

Men


Empath

Yes I've read about soul mates and soul connections, I guess when it happens to me I almost can't believe what I read or what you all have said. That attraction is intense! Maybe my logical side kicks in too much.

I don't think I've ever felt a bad feeling from him, but I do feel like he is lonely or empty. As from anything I did learn from him is probably what the dr ordered about stress mgnt. As I'm letting things go, but yet feel it come back I think of him. As for my dreams, it doesn't seem he's been a past lover, but maybe a protector of some kind.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/16/17 07:09:39PM
343 posts

Men


Empath

What do you do when you have met someone that you have some soul recognition? I've met several men over the past few years and feel like "I know you" These are the men that I feel maybe I try to hard with and they leave? It's an over bearing emotion I get of "don't leave me" One in particular I felt was the one, and he came in and out of my life alot. But last year I met another man, and after several dates he said there wasn't a connection and my heart/stomach dropped to the floor. I was upset, but tried to get over it and just continued dating and eventually forgot about him. About 2 months or so ago he came to my mind for no reason and i wondered how he was, and then to my surprise I get a text from him 2 weeks later. Wow! Creepy I thought. He has said many times since we met again that I'm an amazing woman. But we are not dating or anything. We went out once a few weeks ago. I want to ask him to meet up again, but I feel like I'm pushing it. I also get a feeling he's not interested anymore or is just lost?? I even had a few dreams of him which didn't feel like this era. Same kind of dreams that I had with the other guy who I thought was the one.

This really bothers me and I feel very uneasy. Any other man I would just write off. Why do they come back?
updated by @tigerlily: 10/12/17 07:07:11PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/30/17 08:43:16PM
343 posts

How do you perceive others emotions?


Empath

I don't know how to explain it except for like a vacuum. I just suck it right up. It's an intense feeling of happy/sad/anger/etc emotion that the person is feeling. When I've totally destress ed and grounded is when I feel it hit the hardest, but if I'm bottled up it mostly makes me dizzy/light headed sometimes a chest tightness if it's just negative emotions. The negativity clearly affects me and I'm sure everyone else the most.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/30/17 08:36:13PM
343 posts

emotional highs and lows


Empath

@ kit-kat. I would like to say first, don't allow this situation to doubt who you are as an empath. You are going through a rough bump right now and are actually feeling your own feelings for a change. Which is a good thing. Take the time now to just focus on you. I know easier said than done right? What is it that you want, that maybe you didn't have the opportunity to before?

As for Co dependent. I'm not sure on this because I've been single for years, but I have dated alot but that's it. Being single does get lonely, and I do like being around others (sometimes) But the one good thing about it, I answer to no one. I never have to worry about someone getting upset about anything in the house, except for myself for not doing it. Then I do it and then feel better lol.

As for thinking about him. That's hard, I still struggle with this and dating!!! You are used to this person and have had them in your life for some time. It's only natural. You miss them. Over time it will go away. People always say "pick a hobby" "try doing xyz to get your mind off of it" Those things never helped me, the only thing that did was being around friends and family as much as I could. I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this and my heart goes out to you.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/15/17 06:54:02PM
343 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

I agree, but to me I feel as a human on this earth, it feels like my energy dictates that person. And I have to keep working hard to keep me up to bring others up yet battle the negativity that person is feeling so I dont absorb it. And if im down, they are down. The energy needed to have to put back in us to bring my sunshine smile while someone takes it. Guess it's a "life is not fair" Where we work hard to bring us up/ground/etc and those around us don't and just continue to take. Yet if I take or just feel their energy to feel good is wrong, we all know that. I'm getting sucked dry by people, and when I need my space they are mad. I'm exhausted with this battle.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/15/17 05:53:35PM
343 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

I have a question. Maybe this is a separate discussion. Why is it that we need to lift ourselves up for our partner to be? What if it is there negative energy bringing us down, and then making them more negative? We all know this is exhausting, and if it's the "gift" it's alot of work lol. Sorry I'm emotional and physically exhausted these days.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 07:34:38PM
343 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

Things were going great for years and I was able to finally feel relief. Then that tidal wave came again. I'm not sure what I did to cause this, but I've been trying to follow my gut more the past year. I know of times when I didn't and did. I truly learned alot. Right now, somethibg just feels awful in my gut at work but I'm in a tough situation where I have to and I know it's wrong. I feel like I need to just quit and start a whole new life elsewhere. But we all know we need financials in this world.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 06:47:49PM
343 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

How do you know what your karma is? I thought I had resolved it as things got better then I got hit with a tidal wave, and another and another. I'm drowning here.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 05:45:46PM
343 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

I am not sure ig something is in the air or if this is another empath thing. Life keeps giving me lemons to make lemonade and I'm tired of making leamonade. I feel like I've learned alot and enough. When does it stop?
updated by @tigerlily: 07/22/17 10:42:44PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/12/17 08:24:49PM
343 posts

My gift is gone


Empath

I notice when I wrap myself in my own bubble and focus on me, everything is gone. Not in a bad way, but take care of me and say forget others. Like isolation almost, but not. I struggle now with focusing on me, and honestly I just feel like shit. Yet everyday I say I'm going to stop and everyday I dont.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/12/17 08:20:37PM
343 posts

Empaths and NDE's or Near Death Experiences


Empath

My NDE was about a decade ago, and after that I felt my central nervous system was shot. I thought it was because of that, about 2 years after something triggered and I started havibg full blown attacks. Started seeing a therapist and from then on I learned about my gifts. It made sense how growing up I'd hear and see things not there, but as a kid who doesn't like a good ghost story right? Then again I always thought people could feel and sense otheRS emotions.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/03/17 11:04:44PM
343 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

My relationship history with men. Hmm my ex was a narc and did me all kinds of wrong to me, and I loved him deeply. The one after him, completely controlling. Ever since those relationships ended, I noticed I "attract" men who have some type of emotional issue that needs fixing or are typical momma type boys who want a woman to take care of them. Ok yes so narcs. Of the few "nice boys" I was not attracted. I could not bear the thought of settling as I knew I'd be unhappy. I guess you can say I am still and will always be attracted to the "bad boys" So, I shifted my search to older men and the maturity I adored. Which i know family would not approve. But, none of those lasted either.

The ones I've met who have a "familiarity" about them are the ones I try to keep, and we'll I just sound like a stupid women who doesn't see the signs that they are not interested. But that familiarity and goosebumps tell me something inside that is special and to hang on. I'm assuming those are past life related. Go figure as somehow they return or keep some slight contact.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/03/17 11:07:00PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 07:21:34PM
343 posts

Sleep issues


Empath

If you like coffee try decaf. I drink coffee alot, but it's mostly decaf. I forgot I used to use nature sounds at night. Pandora has a station and it will shut off after a few hours. Nature always calms me and grounds me. I used to also have a station with all kinds of soothing piano music, as well.

And I agree with the social media and news. It really makes my blood boil reading all those things. It got to the point I was so mad they were recording waiting for the giraffe to give birth. It's like "give this poor creature that is locked up in this small area some privacy" I think birth is amazing and new life, but I don't know why it just bothered me? Also, try not talking or texting or emails before bed. Unless you are here chatting with us :) no one here wants you to feel burdened or upset :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 05:49:51PM
343 posts

Relationship Between Stress And Empathy?


Empath

I do agree with what everyone is saying. It all makes more sense now. But that darn anxiety with stress then makes my mind wander causing me more stress lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 05:43:09PM
343 posts

Sleep issues


Empath

My sleep issues improved when I started working stable hours, where I can go to bed every night about the same time and wake up the same time. It took many months, but it eventually worked. Right now with a health issue I'm just tired all the time anyways, but I cut out alot of caffeine/sweets/carbs which has also helped. The nights I can't sleep I use lavender oil. The good kind that is pure. I shake the oil all over my bed and I'll knock out. If that doesn't help still, I'll drink some wine :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 05:35:36PM
343 posts

Relationship Between Stress And Empathy?


Empath

@hop-daddy, I like to think "positive" that the spirits are around to comfort us and that it will be ok. But it kind of freaks me out more in a way when I'm that heightened that we can feel or see them. I'm still spooked by them. I guess since I had one attached to me once (I was told that the spirit safe and protected with me) But, as for the dreams I've had about spirits, they all have been good.

The other thing I heard, is all that stress we have alot more energy which the spirits like as well. But I think that stress energy is more negative attracting negative. Please tell me if I'm wrong on that, because I really like to the more positive approach on it I mentioned in the beginning lol.

And yes, that much stress is just awful, but I pick it up at work. Which I'm looking to get out of.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/27/17 05:28:31PM
343 posts

Relationship Between Stress And Empathy?


Empath

This is a interesting topic. Does the stress just heighten our sensitivity?? I recently saw an apparition the other day, and I haven't seen anything in a while. But I was under a lot of stress where my chest hurt and thought the stress was that high I was seeing things. I've also been having alot of vivid dreams again and my gut has been spot on. But sometimes there days wherelated I just feel like a tornado from all the stress amd emotions in a given situation. Feels like I was at a rock concert or night club when I'm finally alone.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/27/17 04:32:30AM
343 posts

advise needed, has anyone dealt with this?????


Empath

I'm really happy you had a great time :) I'm happy that you brought someone with you :) Maybe your gut/instincts told you to bring that friend?

I've started reflecting back on the past year and a half and my "gut instincts" and when I did this, alot I remember didn't make any sense at the time. Now fast forward it completely does. It's especially hard when the gut says no to somethibg that you desire and would cherish. But as I JUST learned, when I passed it up, the next day something better came along. I couldn't believe it and I still think about it. It really was very very hard passing up the first thing because it was such a great deal and didn't think I could find better, and the very next day I found better. The universe did step in and prevent it, as I was defying gut and thinking it was stress. I think this recent experience alone has made me fully be 150% inclined to follow it.

Moral of story, follow gut. No matter how difficult it may be to defy it. The universe sometimes has an alternate plan to point you in the right direction. :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/27/17 04:16:14AM
343 posts

Health worries


Empath

Thank you for the article! I can relate to a few of those!

There are several family members who suffer from anxiety and depression. I can see how that is inherited.

I recently had my arm hurting for months, which I thought I had injured from moving things around. Some days it lingered, then the next I was fine, then it came back. I recently noticed the pain was gone again, and it's been gone for about 3 weeks. The moment I thought "weird, so and so always has elbow pain, I wonder what he's up to" The pain disappeared. I do have a connection to this person, but we don't talk as much anymore since he moved. Maybe I need to pick up the phone and see how's he doing?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/26/17 09:09:48PM
343 posts

Health worries


Empath

I don't know where to start or how to say this. Guess looking to see if others experience this. I feel like I feel everything go on in my body. I was diagnosed years ago with an anxiety disorder, then later my therapist told me I was an empath. Lucky for me I guess I landed a therapist who is spiritual :)
I know anxiety can manifest into many things, and I've experience many. I guess that's what turned into this health anxiety. It was interesting to learn from my therapist that being a sensitive individual also results to feeling everything go on in the body. Curious if others feel this about themselves.

Also, I have noticed that sometimes I feel others pains. So not sure if that is also why I feel everything going on. Exampke,Out of nowhere I'll get a pain in my abdomen, and I'll dismiss as gas. 10 minutes later my coworker sitting next to me is complaining about gas pains. Another example a friend was so upset about an injury it caused him distress. My chest started to hurt and I asked him "are you so stressed about this that you have chest pains?" He said yes.
updated by @tigerlily: 07/04/17 05:49:39AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/21/17 08:10:51PM
343 posts

How do you guys filter your energy?


Empath

I agree with Rene, whatever works for you. Definitely try what others suggest and see what suites you. Getting out in nature has worked the best for me. Hikes, beach, driving in the country, just sitting somewhere.
This may sound crazy but ive noticed is having a few glasses of wine. Only a specific bottle of wine and alone. I don't know why I feel recharged the next morning especially if I havent had any drinks in a long time. But it has to be by myself. If I'm out, I don't feel the same. Or if friends are over, not the same. And it's only that one brand that does it the most!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/21/17 07:57:58PM
343 posts

Feeling a Steady Negative Energy Shift in Everyone Around Me


Empath

I have been feeling this to. I know some of it is me, and the rest not. I've become so sensitive and the urge to help has been out of control. I caught myself helping someone who I know is a narc!! Do you feel really stressed?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/15/17 05:33:47AM
343 posts

Work


Empath

Well that good opportunity has gone and I didn't get it. As well as now that person at work as has been gloating about getting that recognition, but asks questions and more. I balled my eyes out last night. Started a doc and documented all that she is asking and any complaints I get from other people. I don't understand. Oh and on top of that I got sick again. I'm sorry to vent. You all get it and understand. I guess I'm still shocked about this all. :(
 
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