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TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/06/18 06:21:04AM
456 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@chesire-cat thank you for posting these. I've read man articles about Facebook not any on video games.

Mostly what I saw about Facebook, that usually popped up on Facebook on narcissm was the selfies years back. But all correlates to the article you shared. As later the articles talk about how many friends,how many times a day you post, etc. Guess they got it all together now lol. Few years back it got really annoying the amount of selfies certain individuals were posting on a daily basis. Now it's a norm.

What irrates me with FB is the lies and this dual personality. Making one appear as one is not in real life. Making comments that are exact opposite of what they told me prior.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/02/18 05:27:57PM
456 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@Michelle

Thank you for sharing this article! ūü§ó
I truly enjoyed it and wish the entire human race can read this lol. I know many people in life that I'd like to print this and put it in their mailbox lol
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/28/18 10:23:43PM
456 posts

Feeling a little down and confused...


Empath

@loconnoro everything hopdadyy and Michelle provided is excellent ways to promote healthy energy in your home. Please do try them as they work. As I can share my experiences as how effective it is...

I used to live in a bldg in Chicago that was about 100 years old. I didn't like the feeling there, neither did my cat. My neighbors told me how he would cry alot when I was at work. That naturally hurt me to hear he was suffering.

What I learned overtime and stuck too...deep cleaning, high organization, windows and blindes open (yes, I did this in winter a few times), purging items from a rough period in my life, buying brand new furniture to replace from that rough period, purging photos and possessions from ex's, smudging (I used sage and Palo santo), essential oils, white candles, Crystal's, plants, and soothing colors. My neighbor would smudge the staircase from time to time, due to that suffocating energy there.

Immediately everything felt better and my cat was more relaxed and happy again and I didn't hear many complaints from my neighbors after that. I'm sure his energy added to it.

After that, I would smudge as needed to keep it clear. I struggled at first with this until the chakra lady. She told me what to say and how to do this. As she told me my stress in life and corporate America didn't help, dating, meeting negative people, and the energy of the city, were all being brought in my home. It was tiring at first, but needed and become routine. My friend and her husband complimented me a few times when they came over how great it felt and what I was doing. That they started using the sage and palo Santo as well. I didn't use both at the same time. Sage to me was the "deep cleanin" and Palo Santo as maintenance.

Now i live with my parents again as i grew tired of apartments and Chicago city life as i got older. Well, they are not a fan of anything lol. I'm still working to get my dad to let go of all this old stuff and mess in the basement, garage, etc. As well as their negativity to things in life and each other.
All water glasses have bubbles in it,my apartment did not. My Epsom salt clumps together, in my apt it did not. I've even offered to pay for their vacation to get them out so i can smudge this place and light candles, etc. (As my dad can't stand smells) My cat cries nearly daily to go into my room when I'm at work, as I keep the energy cleaner in their with my Crystal's and plants. When I'm home, he's in there all night until I go to work next day. (I keep him out so he can remain active in the house, due to his age or he'll just stay in my room all day. Its helping as he's in excellent health for 16, but I'm beginning to feel bad again for him from how he's behaving recently)

At the advice of someone here from this group, this weekend I plan to start deep cleaning and planting Crystal's around the house, and say prayers. Winter and cold is here and windows remain closed.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/26/18 05:44:58PM
456 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@jerrysto  It is very hard to talk about it and sometimes we cant with our friends and family.   I felt that way coming here a few years ago, but no one has ever judged or argued with me it's mostly "i get you" from this forum.  I am just tainted with dogma sometimes.   When I have gone to friends and family for help I get the dogma responses.  I felt often times with unknown answers, what is the unknown, and how do i go about all this?  It's not like life where you can't pay a bill or have a flat tire, and ask for a friend or family member for help.  It's more and deeper than that, that others don't get or understand.   This group has helped me so much and will for you too.  People in everyday world, they don't get it or understand what life is like in our shoes daily.   We really do feel what is like for them LOL.   People will lie right to you, and you know that they are lying.     Empaths are human lie detectors. 

  I started attending a class with other gifted individuals and they questioned the "feeling"  I've told them how i felt others physical pains and of course their feelings, and whatever else is in the room with me that I cannot see.  Maybe how objects either felt great touching, or others I wanted to throw up from touching.    I get it through emails and text messages as wells.  Back to that class, I said I'm not looking to pry into anyone or their free will, this just comes.  I sense they are a little nervous when I'm around, and some have validated that by telling me so.  But I told them to not, because there feelings are not mine and I don't judge.   Seems that has helped calm them a bit. 

I found a way to "shield" myself that seems to be starting to work for me, and it's amazing to be able to feel your own feelings and feelings based on your own thoughts.   Or walk through a crowd and not feel something lol.   However today, i forgot to do so and friend drama full force! lol.  I'm hoping to be better at this and master this for myself and share what I have done, but I still get a few leaches sneaking in...

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/24/18 01:11:25PM
456 posts

I AM GRATEFUL FOR.....


Empath

Human Life - I am grateful for the loving family and friends in my life today. Those that make a conscious effort like I do. I am grateful for my pet, Leo. I am grateful that I have recently acquired a new job and the plans set in motion for years to come. I am grateful to be able to see parts of this planet in person versus my dreams. I am grateful to appreciate nature in all its beauty.
I am grateful for possessions needed to survive in this world today.

Spiritual life- My souls is grateful for the gifts given to me. I will be more grateful when I am able to use them on my own more effectively in human form ;) i am grateful for those who have helped and shown me along the way, and continue to meet those wonderful souls. I'm grateful for this planet in all that remains for its ways to heal. My soul is grateful to be able to help those in need where I can to live life on this planet as well to learn one day those souls that need guidance. My soul is grateful to travel too see this planet and possibly others when I sleep at night. I am forever grateful to meet my spirit guides.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/23/18 12:40:05PM
456 posts

Pets


Empath

For someone who is single and nearly 40, it's sad how it is with dating. It's all done through dating apps, and the "old fashion" ways are labeling people as creepy and perv. But online dating is no different as some women think it's all creeps n pervs. My experiences with online dating hasn't been great, but i gave it a shot fot 5 years. Still not the same as meeting someone in the real world is tough. Me too movements, digital age, and anything else is causing this shift. Dating at work has had strict rules, and becoming more strict.
I've met so many women in the city as friends, and they all say men are creeps anyway you look at it. Then when asked "how are you going to meet someone then" you get deer in a headlight look. Then when you ask men, it's the whole "man its hard"
I can go on and on about this subject just from this wild city. Lol.

Dogs have great energy! After learning I am allergic to cats going to look into dogs as my next fur baby. My cat currently acts like one. Lol
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/21/18 07:59:13PM
456 posts

Pets


Empath

@chesire-cat did your studies also talk about with narcs using pets for their own advantage? Mainly men? Living in this big city, many men use dogs to pick up women. And it works! I personally don't agree with that, but I guess we know narcs do? I saw how a cute puppy or little dog strikes up conversation, and as we are all empath we know we can feel it too. The big dogs not so much, it's the puppies and little dogs. Men have done it to me too. I've also seen many with their dogs turn women away, I liked those men lol. The lake is a great pick up a spot for all this. I used to see a man every morning walking to the train, walking his cute puppy. I used to also see him flirting with different women, daily. This puppy would always run to me, and I felt bad never petting it, but his owner and that energy never felt right and at that time I didn't know why. One day, I did it. Yep I said it. The cute little puppy ran up to me again and I pet it and did all the googly puppy things. I felt bad ignoring the little puppy as somethong with his owner didn't feel right, the puppy is innocent. I said to the owner that day "bet your getting a lot of A from this little guy" the look on his face, he knows he was caught. He must have moved the dog walking to a different part of the neighborhood as I never saw him again. I rarely ever saw women with dogs get hit on or flirted with by men.
I know living in a city, the excuse is size of dog with apartments. True, not always true. There is equal amounts big and small, so I don't buy that excuse each time. Especially when you see big dogs going in the same building as little ones. If that was the case, you'd see more smaller dogs, as I often questioned myself what bldg did they live in that allowed larger dogs.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/21/18 05:35:44AM
456 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@Michelle this makes a lot of sense. A lot of my friends have their kids in daycare. I have a few coworkers who''s wives had quit because the cost of daycare alone wasn't worth working to pay for it and someone else raise their child. Essentially working to pay for someone else's salary. They are also the ones that budget their money better. But, there those that don't cause they need that extra money to pay for other things or make a lot and can afford it.
The world has gotten to complicated and expensive. We have extra bills now that didn't exist when my parents worked with all the internet, cell phone, cable, etc. Heat and electric is more, gas etc. And if you live in illinois, it's taxes. We are the second in the nation for highest property taxes, and on still top for the overall tax ratio. But yet don't have the salaries to compensate for cost of living. Some have no choice but to work to pay for daycare and taxes, from those expenses. Illinois is having a decline in population from people moving out, and since Illinois can't budget they raise taxes again.
I don't deny one bit that daycare is one part of the equation. But there are many other factors as well. The world being more complicated, materialistic, the govt, corporate america. Greed from money is another part of it. Debt just keeps rising and so does the population of narcs.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/20/18 06:58:42PM
456 posts

Spirit animal


Empath

Do you know yours and how did you know?

Is it really an animal we are attracted to most?  

I'd like to know for sure.  I love basically all animals and have a few favs, hard for me to figure out.  But if you can't guess from my screen name, that is my favorite lol.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/20/18 05:28:43PM
456 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@chesire-cat that is a good way to look at it. But you know as an empath you can feel the rage of their ignorance when you are happy and bright. It's good that I have somewhat of humor, as when they get snippy, I get snippy funny back. I don't like to do this always as it is draining. But it is nice to see the other beacons of light do it. The negativity from those crabby.

Today I over heard a millenial say, "But that's how we millenials are, it has to be given as we expect it" I held back not going over there saying "and as your gen x superior like myself, we expect you work for it as like many of your other leaders in this company and maybe then you will have earned it"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/19/18 10:02:02PM
456 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@chesire-cat i told his boss what an amazing job he does and many other great things and she said "yes I know that, thank you" she's a tool herself. Told me to get my boss involved on a issue, of which my boss didn't help. And in the end that tool said "thanks for your help" when i got it resolved. These people and their impatience with inflated egos, I know that company and people better than my boss.
We have an internal recognition award program at work. When someone does great, I submit recognitions. I probaby have sent hundreds and sometimes to the same people who continue to go above and beyond. It goes up the chain to upper mgmt. I email their bosses personally as well. I have had managers email me tHankins me for sending it out and how much it makes a difference. I remind the youngens and older crabby workers once in a while to send these out. The rude comments I get of "why should I praise someone for doing their job" it's just toxic.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/18/18 09:48:48AM
456 posts

Pets


Empath

I've always preferred cats as a pet, and 5 years ago I found out I was allergic. I've had 3 cats my life. One I had when I was 10, and she passed about 16 or 17. Before her passing I have my cat now. (She didn't want to live with me in my condo, so I had to take her back to my parents house, why I had gotten the one I adore now, my soul kitty) A year after getting my soul kitty I got another, my third cat. With her I had to give up as I started having many sinus infections and once a lung infection, which is wear I learned of the cat allergy. She's in a terrific home to a woman who thanked me for her as she said they are soul mates. I miss her, but I couldn't be more happy.
I still have my soul kitty who is 16 and in amazing health according to my vet. That is why I asked if it's possible that they live longer with unconditional love.. the allergy bothers me, but not to multiple sickness like b4.

My soul kitty like yours is very intuitive. He will not leave me alone on bad days I have, and will often stare at nothing and will run after something he's looking at that we don't see. Sometimes it looks like he is playing with someone, which I believe to be my deceased uncle. Often times he's ran into walls or chairs from running after something. He now will walk around in circles meowing at that skylight. I do feel a presence at times in the house so it's no shock to me his behavior anymore. And the way he meows at me to get my attention.

He's been good at weeding out people in my life lol. He likes people, but will hide or has bitten, those he doesnt like. Those that he does like, which have turned to be good people, he has no boundaries with and just sits on them lol. I wish I can keep soul kitty for my whole life. He greets me when I come home, and upset when I leave. Even goes to the bathroom with me. Follows me around like a puppy.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/18/18 09:07:51AM
456 posts

How do you deal with having a crush on someone ?


Empath

@womanwhowalks you make a valid point on how he could be past life related. Or it could be the empath/narc dynamic. I wouldn't dismiss past life as I have recalled a few of mine. And have a story for the books on one, who I suspect is gifted himself but in hiding with wanting to fit in this world etc. Sometimes it's their energy your soul recognizes or their eyes. I recently am smitten by a man on the train by his energy alone. When I did manage to lock eye contact with him, I noticed he is familiar. I don't know him but fell in love. I get goosebumps and butterflies just looking at the back of his head, lol. I've tried asking my guides who is this person and have asked for dreams, and all I get is Irish. I do have a past life in ireland as a high born. But with normal everyday life, people say talk to him. My coworker can't believe how shy I am about it as she said I seem to have no problem talking to random people. True, yes. But what they don't know is how sometimes I am. In a meditation last week with a group he came to me in it with a flower, which I learned in research is a thistle and scottlands national plant. Who knows, maybe I was married off to a Scottish man for an alliance. Haven't gotten much else from that life.

If this man is a past life love, with narc tendancies today. I'm guessing he has alot of karma to clear and making him the not as nice person as today. I work with a narc that I have now recalled two past lives with. As you can imagine it's been a tough year. He bullied me in one life, and slit my throat in another for speaking back to him. But, this is something I cant really share with to HR for his harassment and putting me down any chance he can get. One day I just unleashed on him and I got in trouble, but luckily I had documentation to back it up. I still have trouble trying to communicate with him as its hard to speak, hence throat slashing. So I wear a lot of amazonite to work on days I wake up "feeling" I need it. At first I felt the stone choking me and I had to take it off. When I wore it again it wasn't as bad and that's when it popped in my head of the throat slashing dream. Now I barely have that choking feeling. Seems to help :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/16/18 09:36:53PM
456 posts

Pets


Empath

Curious to know which type of pet you as empath prefer and why?

If you do own one...

1.)do you believe they are protecting you or alerting you from those negative or postive spiritual energies?

2.)Comforting you from when you have taken on to much energy that day from people or not?

3.)  Do they help ground you?

4.)Any type of odd behaviors in general or on certain days? 

Anything else on your fur baby please do share. :)

Side note, I read once a while ago that our fur babies tend to live longer with lots of pure love from us.  I'm not able to find where I found this or how.  I keep finding "ways your pet loves you"  If you know about this too, please share.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/14/18 06:31:21PM
456 posts



Love everything that everyone wrote here.

What cane to my mind, was soul groups. I just recently learned mine, and was able to resonate with it. Yet also understand better why I can't stand how this world has become.

Anyways, going back to the lost feeling. I completely get you. I went through this for years and phases prior. We do get clues, and once I understood that and followed them better. That is when my intuition grew. Just the last year it grew more. But like you "do I go back to school, do I move, etc" At one point as it was to much coming in at once. Almost like an overwhelming life issues, but from spirit and my guide. My head wanted to explode. Once i started piecing my dreams and reflecting on my day, meditating and clearing myself, and going to this class, and coming her it all started to make sense. all of a sudden I started feeling something was coming but not knowing what. Now I see it aND just followed the intuitive feelings I was having. Now, some are not logical lol. But I see it now how some things unfolded.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/14/18 05:34:31PM
456 posts

Seeing with closed eyes / attacks


Empath

@Bing thank you for sharing and like hop-daddy it's nińáe to hear others have this face seeing. But yet I'm sorry for all who may see it unpleasant like myself.

@hop-daddy when you said light warrior it did trigger something in me. Thank you for mentioning this. I have been told by a psychic earlier this year that I have a warrior soul etc. Which I thought was ironic because I had read about soul types and I relate to everything about a warrior soul.

I have been wearing hematite and onyx since that day and i felt really good. I have been carrying pyrite and citrine in my pocket for over a month to help with the job search. I'm going to start carrying my black tourmaline with me daily as you suggest, as I notice at work I get those pains and like bug bite feelings. I have a big obsidian I'll add to under my pillow collection. You give advice and are very knowledgeable and i want to thank you. You really do help others here too from all your replies.

Hope your conversation with your son goes well tonight :) teenagers...
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/14/18 05:19:02PM
456 posts

How do you deal with having a crush on someone ?


Empath

@Sandy-8 making the first move is not easy. The first time I did so I was about 22 or 23. I won him over and had a few dates. I felt empowered and will still try this day. But, I'm always nervous to do so. I can get a feeling of like from them, but sometimes it's a like of just friends. I'm still trying to get courage to say something to this guy on the train LOL. In the end I have nothing to lose, if he rejects, I just don't sit on the same train car. Lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/13/18 07:13:02PM
456 posts

How do you deal with having a crush on someone ?


Empath

I have no idea. I'm almost 40 and still experience this. Everyone is different, but yet there are commonalities at the same time. All you can do is make the first move. You have nothing to lose.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/13/18 05:53:07PM
456 posts

Seeing with closed eyes / attacks


Empath

@hop-daddy this makes sense. I have been feeling I got hit with a new wave of spiritual growth, and that this could be a learning experience. My friend thinks that this could be just a reflection of me fighting off any negativity in myself from the toxic work experience I had.

As for the faces, it's still strange how I see them transform as they age to death, and to not nice things. Prior to that yes I see lots of light and colors. I recently saw my bloody hands from a past life fighting in a battle. I know in that past life probably about a 1000 years ago, I killed many and fought in battles and I hated myself for it.

Intuitively, all I felt was that a battle was won against negativity. It did make me feel good knowing I can stand up to it and fight it off. That still is a fear of mine, when negative entities attack. And hearing what you go through is pretty scary. I didn't feel any sharp pains, but I remember being so hot and sweaty but in between sleep and awake. Here in Chicago the temp are dropping to the 20s at night, and I don't sweat like this in winter. In fact I go to bed feeling cold and wake up chilly. I also had a boute of sleep paralysis when this was going on. I do recall in my sleep grabbing my clear quartz that I have under my pillow, which helped a bit but struggled to grab my amethyst.

Overall, it was quite the experience and today, 2 days later, I do feel stronger and empowered. I still can't get over seeing my guide in the dark spreading out like that to battle, as all I have ever seen him is in light and happy. He truly is protecting and watching over me and on my side and I'm grateful and thankful for him.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/12/18 03:55:34PM
456 posts

Seeing with closed eyes / attacks


Empath

I'm not sure how to title this or how to put any of this together.  We may have also discussed this too on this forum.  

Sometimes when I go to bed at night I can see images or however it is called.  Some are pleasant, and some not.  Sometimes it's a past life memory.  Sometimes it's the cosmos.  Sometimes it's colors and bright light.  Sometimes I see faces floating, and those faces start to transform into not the pleasant things.  When I had a past life regression in spring, all that started to stop with the faces.  I just assumed those maybe were faces of people in past lives I knew or fought in battles with.  But, they started to come back recently sometimes it's dark figures.  Really freaks me out.

Last night I think I was attacked spiritually by the negative??  I felt scared this morning, beaten up, but yet good.  I know weird.  I saw my guides too, in this "battle"  I have read this morning about causes of attacks like this, and we'll I did get a new job to get out of the negative toxic environment I'm in now.  Which stated this could happen when one becomes happy.  I thought the feeling of good i felt with the other 2 emotions could be that good defeated bad?   It kind of does feel like we won the battle.  

Anyone else experience this??  Felt worse than a nightmare.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/09/18 08:59:18PM
456 posts

Poll related to chemical and food choices


Empath

1.) Soy affects me bad and messes with my hormones. Pharmacy meds give me anxiety and feel side effects that others typically dont, so I often avoid meds unless it's an antibiotic. I'm very sensitive to refined carbs and sugars, which leads to my second response below. Have to use sensitive laundry detergent, and scent free body washes. Scent free lotions in winter. If I dont skin will itch and I get eczema patches. Perfumes give me headaches. Can't wear fashion earrings, has to be real silver or gold, although hypoallergenic types may work. But not all.

2) my dietary choices younger were not so meat involved. Now I eat more meat, due to glucose issues and the high protein helps to stabilize. I have tried over the past few months to go more veggies and low carb, and it's not working, I still get frequent hypoglycemia . When I have meat and veggies, I feel more calm andown glucose levels are normal. Sugars and carbs are my enemy, and can have fruit sparingky. But I emotionally eat carbs when stress and anxiety are high and it makes me miserable. Chips are usually my weakness with that. Been working slowly to go back to very low carb again as I feel the best.

3.) I love She-ra and Jean grey. Yes, she-ra. A cartoon, but I love her princess warrior and power. Jean Grey for her ability to communicate telepathically and move objects with her mind.

4) I don't remember, but it did start with an I
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/30/18 07:32:18PM
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@hop-daddy I've had people randomly talk to me, and well I do it too. Lol. Those mutual exchanges usually are left off positive and laughing. If they have been stalking me around and then talk to me, my anxiety just rises and I become shy and walk away. I can barely talk.
Downtown Chicago and the bums are difficult. They just walk right to me. If I see one, I cannot look at them and focus walking passed them like a horse with blinders on and they still call out to me. Going out for a smoke can sometimes suck. One time, I had one sit next to me and wait for the but of a the cigarette I was going to throw out. That day I told the bum to go away and leave me alone as I cane out here alone for a reason and didn't want company. He called me a crazy B!@ and walked away LOL.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/26/18 07:18:06PM
456 posts



I'm sorry it has been uncomfortable the past few months for you :( are things getting better?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/26/18 07:16:49PM
456 posts



Wow! Thank you for posting this. I often thought is was because I have something on my face, broccoli on my teeth, toilet paper on my shoes, skirt tucked in my undergarments, lol. But this makes so much sense!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/26/18 06:41:45PM
456 posts

Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

You both! OMG that is insane!!! Are there other things you pick up on to know you have an attachment?

This all has me so curious now. I get emotional swings here and there, but I also have a hormonal imbalance. But also, where I work and live with all the energies, that when I remove myself from it I feel fine. Or is it past life?

Hearing you both speak about your experiences had me wondering just how close my deceased uncle is. He was a big drinker and smoker and really didn't put up with people's shit. One thing to note, he never had a daughter and wanted one and i was like the daughter he never had. With all the not nice things happening to me at work, I can see how his anger and rage would come through to me and my desire to smoke and drink increase. But I'm also myself, and don't believe anyone should have to deal with this. So could very well be my own angers too when enough is enough. Is there something else I should be looking for? Or just hard to say?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/24/18 05:49:45PM
456 posts

Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

@hop-daddy it sounds like you have extraordinary gifts and have passed them to your children. I know Sedona is about a 2-3 hour drive, would you go for a weekend if you can?

I will ask my friend how she located thsee classes and when I go next week I can inquire if this lady knows people in arizona. I believe she was just there.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/24/18 03:42:46PM
456 posts

Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

@hop-daddy do you soak them in salt water? Or just over a bead of salt? The jewelry I can't in salt water, the metals will tarnish, etc. The regulag I could. I currently live with my parents, so putting them outside not a great idea, my parents don't get it. Yes I need to move out, lol.

There is a class I went to a few times where this lady helps to enhance or master our gifts. Do they have anything like that in phoenix? I wouldn't know how to find classes like this as my friend found it. Do you know who's trying to communicate with you? I get ringing in my ears too. When I do, I feel like it's a women trying to communicate, or my guides, but not sure who this wOman is?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/23/18 06:25:22PM
456 posts

Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

@hop-daddy. That is so scary what you mentioned about your office. You appear to be sensative to those energies, are you a medium? Doe's telling them to "go away" help? I had a spirit attached to me once before and the chakra lady helped to remove the attachment. It was afraid to go to the light and hung on to me because it liked or felt safe in my energy. Shortly after that I felt very sensitive to those energies and it felt like they were a few coming towards me in my aparen't in chicago. I got so upset with them for not leaving me alone I yelled "go away" and threw an object in the room. I started using Palo Santo after that on a weekly basis, and found out my neighbor above me would sage the hallway and staircase. That bldg was over 100 years old age.

There's a spot in my bathroom that gets excellent sun and moon light. I'll leave the jewelry and stones there for days sometimes. I would put my jewelry in Epsom salt but was advised to not with the jewelry lol. I'm with you on some making me happy and cheerful. My soladite set I made makes me the happiest to wear. It's also the set everyone wants to buy lol. But the amazonite, at first it felt like it was choking me. I took it all off and kept it on the window for days. When I tried it again, it didn't choke as bad. That's when a past life dream popped in my head where I was slit at the throat for saying something inappropriate. Since then I've never had that choking sensation wearing it, and I'm able to talk back to the narc more freely.

@cat-whisperer there are days I go nuts in the city. I do have emotional issues at times and I feel like a bubble wanting to burst lol. When I moved our and into the surrounding suburbs, it did feel better. But not as good as remote areas. I still commute into downtown Chicago daily, and some days are better than others. Tuesdays sometimes are worse than mondays, but Fridays feel great. But by Friday I'm drained. I can sometimes be good at envisioning the white light bubble, and sometimes not. I have a nice big chunk of clear quartzthat I bought, but I couldn't find anything if that can help the bubble.

Thank you for the black stone suggestions. I found some flower shaped obsidian stones I'll buy to make a new set.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/22/18 06:48:56PM
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Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

@hop-daddy I agree, I clear mine out after each time I wear them. Sometimes b4 too if I haven't wore them in a while. If I do not clear them out, I get headaches. Do you feel the same same when not cleared out? I feel better with the larger stones than I do smaller, strangly. I believe this to be the big city energy and the millions of people downtown. Don't know for sure, but waa guided to the bigger ones and I just listened :) After a long day it is nice to just sit, tune out everything and hold them. There are days I wake up and more drawn to wear than others. And now understand why. I also do better wearing them or my body. I am going to listen to you and get the black ones and laboradite. I make everything to wear.

I do have a question for you. When you are shielding yourself, do you envision the white light around you, and do you use a stone more geared for positivity in doing so?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/22/18 05:25:01PM
456 posts

Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

@hop-daddy yes big city living is an ordeal lol. My family friends and job are here, but sometimes when I'm overloaded like that I just want to move lol. From the list I wear a lot of flourite. I have a big obsidian stone at work, black tourmaline, and hematite. I really don't wear the dark color of the stones. I do have black onyx beads that I can make a bracelet and start wearing. But don't you feel like you need a boulder size living in a big city?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/21/18 07:29:25AM
456 posts

Protecting/shielding yourself


Empath

HI everyone!  :)

I was reading more how to shield and protect myself better.  Had a meltdown from negativity at work and just all the energy of downtown chicago.  I came across this article on using stones to help and wanted share.....

https://www.krista-mitchell.com/blog/protectivecrystals

TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/14/18 01:51:35PM
456 posts

Beautiful radiating energy


Empath

One other thing I wanted to add, was a sense of security from that energy. Security or I felt protected.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/14/18 01:45:58PM
456 posts

Beautiful radiating energy


Empath

I will start off first with the innocent smiling and eye flirting and go from there. I've been trying to see if I can get dreams from him and I don't think I can pick up well from it. I'm still clouded these days, but I get Irish from him. Not to say he's irish, or the Irish is from a past life when I lived in Ireland. The dream I had last night was about ireland, but I can't recall too much ot it. If anything, since soul mate from our family are supposed to help us grow in this life, I take that energy I'm in love with to continue to work on myself in a loving nature and to keep spreading love.
I'm still just amazed as to how I feel in love with this person based on their energy, and not even looking at them. I do sense empathic from him, and get the sense that sadness or shyness from him has to do with that. It also makes sense why he's the last one to leave the train to avoid the energies of everyone leaving the train. I'm opposite and have to be first so I don't get stuck behind someone with bad energy and basically want to beat the crowd.
Thank you all for sharing input, and if anything to add or experience's like this I'd love to hear more.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/13/18 11:19:31PM
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Emotional eating


Empath

@zacharias I do agree with you on the ignoring part. I do deal with other narcs, and I can ignore much easier. And yes it really does help.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/13/18 10:40:14PM
456 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

This narc I work with just wants to undermine, I'm a woman and he made that clear from day one. I went to HR about it, and he lost there. How he still has a job is infuriating to all who works there. So when he does his things, he needs to tread lightly, so no, I don't back down. Any form of it will be seen as retaliation from HR. But as an emapth, I can't stand the thought he does this to someone else. People have commented why he's being nice, but I can see through it. I do have his nasty documented as I won't speak to him in person. I have heard others put him in his place, actually on a conference call on Friday someone did. There was a period some time ago I felt bad for him, and he knew and took full advantage of that and ended up going to my boss many times. I've been looking for a new job, and hopefully will be getting another soon. :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/13/18 06:32:21PM
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Emotional eating


Empath

You are correct on the no conflict. When the narc creates it with me, it fills me with such anxiety I shake. But I know if I keep backing down and don't say anything he'll keep doing it. At least this narc. When I began speaking back he backs down. It's a power trip on his end. I mean, he'll do it in different avenues and I have to call him out on each. Right now he's just trying to defeat in anyway he can, and each time I speak back. It's exhausting and the anxiety of it all really hurts my heart. Why such power and dominance is his karma. The potatoe chips help with the crunch from aggravation of his impotent confidence. I wish I can just back it down and ignore, but he'll keep coming after me and continue to put me down.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/13/18 08:26:54AM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

That is awful about the Drs. Reminds me of those young ones at work that just want a quick buck and not put much effort into it. There is a young man at work who I suspect may have empathy, but stuck in a tornado of narc like me. I just noticed this. He communicates well, he understands, and he TRIES!!! Not like these others that have no idea how to communicate and just demand. The spoiled one at work plays the stock market and got all upset how he lost several thousands of dollars.

As for friends, quality vs quantity mean the most to me. I was so heartbroken my friend Mark moved to the west coast, but he needed to for work and his family. But yet I also smacked him and told him "why didn't you tell me you were when I want to move there too and all my talk of it" I suspected he's of soul family as he has always had something about him that I loved from day one. At least when and if I move there I'll have a friend.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/12/18 04:33:25PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

I can speak to the long distance. When I moved to Arizona at 27, people just started dropping like flies. Now I get I was 2000 miles away, and maybe we missed each other. But that's no excuse to just stop answering my calls, or text messages, or emails. When I would return back to visit my parents, and would reach out weeks in advance, crickets. But when people planned to visit me, I welcomed in open arms. Sure, you want a break from Chicago weather and stay with me where it's warm, but don't want to see me when I'm there???
When I moved back everyone's life had changed, and I came back in shambles. Just being around loved ones was the best therapy, but they started their own lives and that was all that mattered and how you can contribute to the new times of "couple outtings". That hurt since I my ex had cheated on me and we parted, and I love being with my friends. Now it's changed a bit as we got older, and I notice now why I was set on that path originally. I was ment to have my own life. My one childhood friend now is like a narc. But she moved to Arizona when I came back. Only now wants me to move back there for her sake, and has asked repeatedly over the years. My other one, we'll he was pushed to the side for being with a woman of color. How awful of that?? Who cares, she's a great human being and I adore her! Now he sees I don't care about that like all the others in the group, and we hang out alot current day. Just like the gold ole days.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/12/18 04:10:18PM
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Beautiful radiating energy


Empath

Yesterday I got on the train as normal to head downtown from work.  I just plopped myself next to a man with tatoos.  As I sat there, I never felt such beautiful energy come from someone in so long or maybe ever!  I felt came, peace, love, and it was just beautiful.  I was trying to not look at his face nor take his energy, but as I got off the train I looked inside and I saw him still sitting in there.  This morning, I get on the train again and sit all the way in the back with the seat that faces everyone.  Guess who sat one row away??? Beautiful energy tatoos man.  I felt it right away.  This time I saw his face and he's quite attractive.  Something with his eyes showed sadness or shyness.  But he looked familiar....

Now I can't stop thinking about him and feel in love.

How does he have such wonderful energy to me and look familiar???  Is this a past life love???

I want to sit next to him again and drop a note as I get off the train titled "for the tattoo man"  and inside try and say something normal like "I noticed you and was wondering if you'd like to get coffee one evening or a drink"  and leave my number.  Lol.  Seems that may be too forward these days, but we used to do that before technology lol.  You know, someone dropping a cute note like that in a locker.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/12/18 03:59:58PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

I can say that a majority of the younger generation at my work don't want to work as hard, but expect and feel they should earn $75k-$100k a year. Along with 4 weeks Vaca off the bat. Now, not all or like that, some work hard and don't complain.

The entitlement alone from them and the jelousy radiates down the cubicles. I recall making a comment once about trying grass as a kid, and one is like that's disgusting. Yes it is I said, and it tastes very green. So is sliding down a slide after a kid peed on it. But we didn't care as children growing up and we are fine, and that we also didn't have ipads to play on.

The selfies drive me nuts on social media. I read an article that selfies are from people lacking self confidence and narcissist traits. All to get people to like their photos and comment on how god the look. A cry for attn.

One another thing to note as well, no one can do anything alone. For heavens sake I had a coworker who wouldn't go to Starbucks alone to get coffee cause she felt like she had no friends and looked stupid. If you feel like having a cup of coffee, go and get it.

I do agree that technology I'd pullING us away from social interaction. I'm single and 39 and don't get hit on the bars like I did at 23. Even in social groups people are always on their phones. I don't get that, put it away.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/11/18 03:49:43PM
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Have you ever heard of Clairgustance and Clairsalience?


Empath

I started practicing readings with a group. And I kept tasting mashed potatoes. Delicious ones I may add. Turns out the girl was hosting a dinner and potatoes were on the menu. I did smell the ocean once in my bedroom. I was like wtf, I'm over 1000 miles away from salt water. It lingered for like 10-15 minutes. I then thought of a friend who moved to the west coast, and after that thought the smell of ocean went away. (My friend is alive) In that case what would that mean? Is that maybe a connection of some kind to my friend? Like they were communicating it was boating time?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/11/18 05:14:45AM
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Emotional eating


Empath

The chips do it for me, I get a temporary release of the bad energy. But then it comes back. I'm going to bring my obsidian stone to work. It's quite large and try to meditate out the negativity at my desk.

Here's to hoping I don't throw it at the narc....kidding
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/10/18 07:28:55PM
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Have you ever heard of Clairgustance and Clairsalience?


Empath

I have heard of this and experienced it. Just never put a name to it. I have smelled my grandmas, and sometimes I get such urges to eat certain foods as example. The foods usually have a relation to the person I connect with. In my old apt I used to used to smell cinnamon rolls. In one area of the apt only. I was to frightened at that time to figure it out who it's from. I'll get smells from time to time wherever I go that don't make sense or if others don't smell it. Sometimes I even have cravines fir a food and can taste it, and only to find the person 20ft away from me has a craving for it :) Joys of living in a big city :(
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/10/18 07:05:36PM
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Emotional eating


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Doe anyone else feel they emotional eat when the energy from others is consuming???  Or is this just me and my charkra went out of balance?

   Of course it's this narc at work I've spoken up b4.  I know that I should do this and that.  But honestly, this is childish. If I step up and talk about it he'll blame me again, but I have documentation to support it.  If I step back, he thinks he has the power and starts his manipulative tactics. Its no win.  But at the end of the day, its not about winning, its about the right thing to do.  Feels like we as empaths should come together to figure out plan's that have worked to make this planet a better place.  I honestly want to tell him to get over his karma and stop talking it out on me.  But diplomatically since it's work.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/28/18 11:09:15PM
456 posts

Flipping between emotions


Empath

I think for me I just was around new energy I'm not used too??? I don't know, it was so bizarre. But yet so fascinating. It's not like when I go to the city for work, and some days I feel like fainting. Those must be the days many feel like not working! Lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/27/18 09:16:20PM
456 posts

Flipping between emotions


Empath

Yes! Quick and drastic. What is this? The full moon?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/26/18 07:09:29PM
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Flipping between emotions


Empath

Anyone else feeling like a an out of tune radio?  I don't know how else to put it.  I'm getting good and bad feelings all at once, and it flips suddenly.  I don't think I've experienced this before.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/18 01:27:37PM
456 posts

Left, right, or both


Empath

I get a lot heat on my stone pendants. Not all of them, just some of them.

You know what I'm doing right now? Feeling for hot and cold areas lol. Some are cold and some warm. My shoulders are cold and an inch away from there my back is hot and neck.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/18 04:53:51AM
456 posts

Left, right, or both


Empath

Sounds like a choker style necklace may sit right where you need it? Buy I know those can be uncomfortable too.

I'm going to pay better attention to this. I'm thinking mine is on my chest where I release. I always feel great wearing pendants.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/14/18 08:30:17PM
456 posts

Going nutss


Empath

Wow!!! If that Is the case, I think he's been reaching out for years since I was a teen. I had random dreams from a man, but now it's more frequent this year. These are not past life dreams, as most seem to be where i see his face only. A few ive seen him what seems to be in a city. A few years ago one of the dreams was him sad as his heart was broken over a woman. I just happened to be near Sedona when I had this dream on vacation. I felt that she cheated on him. He loved her so much. Maybe now he's over that and why he may be reaching out? Based on the dreams he seems more in a spiritual growth than myself. The other dream was that his chakras were all balanced.
You think he's reaching out more because this year was particularly hard on me, but he's ready to meet? I have felt this year I need to kick it up a notch on the growth. But other things are not aligning with me in terms of job and trying to move to another city. Like I'm not picking the right ones. I am getting a push. I'm off tangent now... He came when to me with his name and location in one dream months ago, that had me pre occupied with looking for landmarks in that city that I saw in my dream. All validated and I've never been there or knew anything about it. More recent I had a time of when we would meet.
I have heard how hard they are, the TF love. Read a few books on it. Maybe that's where I got this wave of get it together again. I'm trying everyday.
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