Encountering resistance when trying to help people
I find that using force always meets resistance. I don't mean physical force, but far subtler than that. If we give advice or even suggestions and we are invested in the other person heeding them, then they are far more likely to resist what we say.
Can you think of a time when someone told you what to do, and you immediately didn't want to?
Show me a 'Keep off the grass' sign and I'll be dancing in the middle of the lawn before you know it
There's a verse in the Tao te ching (10) which contains the lines
Giving birth and nourishing,
having without possessing,
acting with no expectations,
leading and not trying to control:
this is the supreme virtue."
There's nothing wrong with giving advice when asked, but then we have to step back and let go of caring that our advice is taken.