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Chay
@chay
06/23/15 07:01:06PM
82 posts



There may be a connection. Many times we have people enter our lives because there is something we need to learn or experience. Such as, a kindred spirit. That does not necessarily mean they are to be in your life forever. One thing about negative relationships is the fact that we keep making the same choices over and over again expecting a different result. I am not saying this would be an unhealthy relationship, but you are having your doubts.

People gravitate to us for what we can give them. What they sense from us. Sometimes we are simply too close to a situation to judge correctly. So, don't kick yourself too much for not sensing something. You actually may need to learn something from having her in your life.

Okay, having said the above, you have thoughts which are not exactly your thoughts. Listen to your inner voice. I believe it is telling you what you need to know.

I would like to give you a more definitive answer, but these are your choices. If you are an empath, then congratulations.

Embrace your Empathness!

Chay
@chay
06/17/15 06:55:23PM
82 posts



I never understood myself. It took me a year after I was told I was an empath to believe it. I never believed they really existed. I accepted it and realized I have been dealing with it for years. Now, I have learned to recognize and push the feeling away from me and that has helped. If I feel the need, then I get up every morning and cover myself in white light. I start like I am putting on a pair of pants and pull the light up and around me. I am sure others do it differently.

I find my empath and my clear knowing interesting, but it sure doesn't feel great all the time. People come to me all the time with issues. I use my gifts to help, but I have learned when to stop. I need to be alone a lot. I absolutely love being around people, but can only take so much. I seldom go out to even meet with friends simply because it is too much. That is okay. It is me. I like me.

My husband understands and accepts me. That helps a lot. It may sound odd, but his energy feels as though it protects me when we are around other people. I am not an expert. Just an empath. I would like to suggest a couple of things.... meditate, ask your spirit guides, angels, guardians for help, and gain knowledge. I am not sure you even believe in some of those things. I am still learning and always doing research.

Also, there are others who can help you. Individuals who are empaths and have spent years learning about it. This site has someone who can help. 'Goodenergyhealing' has given me good insight. There are websites such as empathzone, empathness, or Judith Orloff, Dr. Smith. Lots of books, but I am sure you know that.

We are special and we are what the world needs. I sincerely wish you find peace. Please stay in the light and protect yourself.

Chay
@chay
06/17/15 06:03:04PM
82 posts

Guilt or not? Empathic Advoidance


Empath

I know I can't help everyone and I need to take care of myself, too. There has to be a point when I say enough. My self esteem is good, but when I am not feeling well I believe I do back up more often.

Thank you! You are exactly right. Helping is our nature.

Chay
@chay
06/14/15 07:04:34PM
82 posts

Is being an empath a priviledge?


Empath

I never considered my gifts a privilege. It isn't always easy being an empath and have clear knowing. I peek into people's lives without even realizing it. I am always ready to help when needed it seems. I find living in a city harder all the time and I am no longer a member of the same community. I am not a part of the 'rat race'. I believe it is part of my ascension.

I sometimes wonder if individuals are what they claim or if they just want it so much. Actually, sorry, that isn't true. When I meet them I know exactly what they are in reality.

It is a gift. Maybe I do indeed have super powers! I rock! (Just my sense of humor)

Peace

Chay
@chay
06/14/15 11:19:59AM
82 posts

HSP or Empath?


Empath

Rainbow crystal has to do with your aura color? I am an empath and have clear knowing. I have been told I am a healer, too. I haven't done physical, but psychological. Empath is beyond HSP to a point that hasn't been explained by scientist yet. Not everything needs to be explained, but being an empath just seems to freak people out a bit. They think we are simply nuts. LOL It is more uncomfortable to believe we don't exist than think other people are walking around knowing our secrets.

Thank you for the thoughts!

Chay
@chay
06/14/15 11:12:17AM
82 posts

Guilt or not? Empathic Advoidance


Empath

You are right. I felt a pull to her, but I stopped twice. When I think back now there is a good chance you are right. Just because I felt her needing something doesn't mean it was the right thing to do. Maybe I was thinking more about myself rather than her. Something to consider.

People come to me a lot for help. Sometimes I am not even sure they know it. They don't realize what their feelings can do to us. For most of society we don't exist. Empaths, I mean.

I got the feeling as though I didn't belong. It really wasn't the place for me. It was a group of mediums or so I believe this is what they are called. To be blunt they see dead people. (Which I find fascinating.) One lady stated someone was close to her. I didn't feel a presence. The feeling? She was lying. I felt several were superficial. Sorry, to go on about this group. It was an interesting meeting.

Thank you for sharing. It was insightful.

Chay
@chay
06/14/15 03:45:40AM
82 posts

Guilt or not? Empathic Advoidance


Empath

Thank you, too. Both of these replys really did help.

Chay
@chay
06/14/15 03:43:20AM
82 posts

Guilt or not? Empathic Advoidance


Empath

Thank you! I like the idea of a telepathic memo and creation has a backup plan. I will definitely do it.

Chay
@chay
06/13/15 06:39:30PM
82 posts

Guilt or not? Empathic Advoidance


Empath

Last week I went to a meeting hoping to gain more knowledge about being an empath and clear knowing. I felt all this energy flowing around the room. None of them were empaths and had no real understanding of what it even means. I felt drawn to several of them because they needed me. I told them what they needed to know.

Problem? I felt as though I could not get out of the room and away from them soon enough.

Guilt? There was a woman by the door who needed something. I was concentrating more on escape, than helping anyone else. Afterward I felt guilty because I did not help her. I realize we have to think of ourselves, too. Plus, I could play the 'what if' game along with the guilt.

When do we say 'no' or 'enough'? Do we have a responsibility to help everyone? Logically, I understand we can't save the world, but what if what I should have said to her could have saved her life?

Make sense? I look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you.


updated by @chay: 01/15/17 12:57:50AM
Chay
@chay
06/13/15 06:21:15PM
82 posts

HSP or Empath?


Empath

I appreciate your input and positive attitude about being an empath. I agree with learning to control it. When someone does that they are taking care of themselves. It is so easy to get where you are so busy taking care of others, that you have nothing left of yourself.

Thank you!

Chay
@chay
06/13/15 06:17:51PM
82 posts

HSP or Empath?


Empath

I appreciate your input and positive attitude about being an empath. I agree with learning to control it. When someone does that they are taking care of themselves. It is so easy to get where you are so busy taking care of others, that you have nothing left of yourself.

Thank you!

Chay
@chay
06/13/15 06:14:20PM
82 posts

HSP or Empath?


Empath

Thank you! I have read about the mirror neurons. I am an empath and, I believe, clairsentient. I have clear knowing. I read an article which stated all HSPs were not empaths, but all empaths are HSPs. Interesting. I do not consider myself overly sensitive. I simply feel others energy. We are diverse and certainly don't fit in a box.

Chay
@chay
06/11/15 09:17:16AM
82 posts

HSP or Empath?


Empath

Thank you! This is great. I like the way you think. It is so much more positive. I do believe I am stronger. Having these gifts are definitely not for the weak. I do know that I have a peace within myself that most people do not. Negative energy is there and it is my choice if I allow it to remain with me or push it off to be dispersed.

Your comment about being handicapped is something in which I had not thought. I certainly do not believe this is a handicap, but I read a lot who do consider it a definite non-desirable. Me? I am so fortunate to have these gifts.

Again, thank you for your input!

Chay
@chay
06/11/15 06:57:16AM
82 posts

HSP or Empath?


Empath

As I have researched for my empathness website I have come to notice there is an acceptance of HSP, Highly Sensitive People. Yet, there is not a true acceptance of Empath by mainstream society. While HSP seems to be a psychological term with an explanation, the term Empath has too many unknowns to be considered 'real'. It is a lot easier to state you are an HSP, because it is more likely to be accepted by society, family and friends. Does HSP have symptoms? Here we are again. I want to get away from stating symptoms of an Empath, because we are not ill. Being an Empath is a gift. Is the term HSP helping or hindering us? In other words are HSP's going to become a psychological or personality disorder and be in the DSM or is it a step toward accepting Empaths into mainstream society? Please share your thoughts.


updated by @chay: 04/11/17 05:28:12AM
Chay
@chay
06/06/15 09:55:19PM
82 posts

Is it worth taking a risk for Empaths to be in a romantic relationship?


Empath

My undergraduate is in psychology and, like you, I use a lot more than what I was taught to help others. As with any relationship the person you are with should not expect you to change. No, we are not mainstream, but it sure can make an interesting relationship. Advise I give a lot .... you are not going to change a person. All you can control is how you respond. Attempting to control us would be a mistake. Remember we are important to the world. You need someone who understands and accepts your gift. My husband did not really believe at first. So, I started telling him things when I would first visit one of his relatives. He believes me now.

Yes, we have expectations. We not just need we have to have alone time. Doesn't mean we love our partners less. Even having a separate bed is a good idea. We have an amazing capacity to love. Humans and animals. When I listen to music or sing (not saying I am good) I feel it inside me. If a partner took this away it would affect our relationship.

Again, having a partner is wonderful. My husband's energy surrounds me. I can feel it. Yes, I know when he lies. I know what is in his heart. He isn't perfect and neither am I. Who would want perfection? Not me. Nature is not perfect. Also, remember that if you hurt the other person it can rebound on you. You are an empath after all.

Personally, I believe anyone should feel honored to be married to you. You have a tremendous amount to give. As your guides and guardians for guidance. Ask for help. Be cautious, but open. Possibly you need to heal a little before starting another relationship. After my divorce I sat back, looked at my life and decided I need to heal and get centered before starting a new relationship.

I think it is great you were able to see his intent. You may meet an awful lot of frogs before finding your true prince.

I hope this all makes sense and helps a little. May your path bring you peace and happiness.

Chay
@chay
06/06/15 04:49:06PM
82 posts



Just because you have a soul mate, twin flame, or kindred spirit doesn't mean it will result in a healthy relationship. It might be that you need to learn something from this person. Do you understand what I mean? Sometimes a person comes into your life for you to learn, then when you have learned whatever you need to learn you go on with your life without them.

Also, if you communicate with your guardians, angel, spirit guides, then ask them for help and/or protection. Meditate. You are what you think. Change your thoughts.

I hope this gives you some options in which you have control.

Chay
@chay
05/26/15 06:51:03PM
82 posts

www.empathness.com


Offers and Services

Embrace your Empathness! On my journey trying to help people in need I decided I wanted to help people like me, empaths. So, I recently started a blog. I am still working on improving it and making it what I envisioned. Plus, I wanted it to be different. I am not promoting my books or offering readings. There is nothing wrong with that, of course, because I am promoting some of them. It is thoughts, research, quotes (sometimes funny, sometimes thought provoking), and just pictures of nature. Simply because I am close to nature and animals. It didn't feel right to leave them out. I would like to add more laughter, also. Working on it! Please check it out. Thank you!


updated by @chay: 06/04/17 06:55:44AM
Chay
@chay
05/26/15 05:46:37PM
82 posts

Emotional testing


Empath

Good thinking. Thank you. I will get a bad feeling and know something is wrong with my family. I start making phone calls. Sometimes I know exactly who it is, but other times I do not. I would rather know. Once, I never want to feel it again, I felt impending doom. It was horrible. I called my family. Everyone was fine. Exactly one week later my nephew was killed in an accident. Next time I will be better prepared, but I really do not know anything I could have done about it.

Chay
@chay
05/26/15 05:39:19PM
82 posts

Emotional testing


Empath

This is great! Thank you. I will think about how I normally feel (which is happy ... I am so fortunate) and I know it is another person's emotion. I am getting better at it. I recall suddenly becoming angry at work. Thoughts of my sister popped in my mind. (You know that little voice that isn't exactly a voice, but not exactly your own thoughts?) Anyway, I digress, I called my twin and asked her if she was okay. She was very angry. Not something she usually does. My twin is 600 miles away. When she feels extreme emotions I get them. Personally, it is okay because she is my twin and maybe she needs help. I am just really relieved that I do not pick up any intimacy experiences she is having with her husband. Not quite sure how I would handle that one. Eewww!

Chay
@chay
05/25/15 09:34:22AM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

To me we really are gifted and special. That doesn't mean that it, like any gift, comes without a price. At least now we are able to support one another even though we have to be careful.

Thank you.

Chay
@chay
05/24/15 05:45:13PM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

I agree. Thank you for the insight. I do believe you are absolutely right we should be cautious.

Chay
@chay
05/24/15 05:33:23PM
82 posts

To hurt others I have to be willing to hurt myself.


Empath

Thank you! I do try. lol Anything I can do, then please let me know.

Chay
@chay
05/24/15 05:30:34PM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

So, we maintain silence based upon our own decision to share or not. That makes sense. Do you think if the masses actually knew how many of us exist and how we know things about a person, then we would have problems? It doesn't bother me if someone reads me. I have had it done more than once. What I am asking .... do you think society as a whole would find us a threat, or creepy, or we would be ostracized? Do you believe it is a concern?

Chay
@chay
05/21/15 07:39:38PM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

The thing about being an empath is that if you hurt another, then it comes back on you. I am glad that you held back. It shows that you are strong and do not want to inflict harm. Great choice.

Chay
@chay
05/19/15 11:01:40PM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

Email sent!

Chay
@chay
05/19/15 04:23:04PM
82 posts

Fear of the unknown...


Empath

I have thought about what others see or feel when they are around me. I have been told I glow. I have purple and white auras. It doesn't bother me, but I am a lot older than you. I am confident in myself and my gifts. I do not worry about what they see. I have a peace inside that carries me through most things.

Your feelings are yours and valid. It is good to remember ... those who are empaths should not be judgmental. Listen to your inner 'voice'.

May you find what you are seeking. Be kind to yourself.

Chay

Chay
@chay
05/19/15 04:14:56PM
82 posts

To hurt others I have to be willing to hurt myself.


Empath

Since you feel the emotions of others, then if you hurt them ..... well, I suppose it would backlash. Not fun. Your brain is your own. Sound like a silly statement? Several years ago I had PTSD. I was told it was something in which I had to learn to live. Uh, no. I read books like The Secret and Dr. Dyer. When negative thoughts occur I replace them with positive ones. I envision a positive future. Hey, I didn't say it was easy. However, changing my lifestyle was a breath, a step at a time. This site is a good place to start. Surround yourself with positive people. Remember you aren't responsible for others choices. You can't change their decisions. You can, however, control how you respond to them.

One of the survival tips for empaths should include .... stop watching the news. You are hurting yourself.

May you find happiness and accept that you are not in control of the world.

Chay

Chay
@chay
05/19/15 03:43:57PM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

Thank you for the replies. Good points! I believe many would be uncomfortable. Whenever any one approaches me I feel them and have a knowing about them. It is as automatic as my other senses. If I told someone who I was helping, then they might not let me help. And, I need to help. It might be just greeting someone at the store or guiding one of the people I work with to be happier.

So, do you think I should not help? Do you know what I mean? Is it egotistical of me to automatically help because of the information I receive?

Chay
@chay
05/18/15 03:28:07PM
82 posts

Would we frighten?


Empath

On Dr. Michael Smith's website he states "Other might have a hard time understanding us, so for the sake of not sounding crazy let us keep this a secret. In addition, please ignore false claims and hoaxes. Empath ability is not a super power. It's a gift that you must learn how to feed and harness." (http://www.empathsecret.com/)

Valid points. Should we maintain silence so others don't think we are crazy? Would they feel violated when/if they realize what we know about them? Are we peeking? Would we frighten the masses?

What do you think?


updated by @chay: 10/21/17 09:16:06AM
Chay
@chay
03/31/15 08:10:12PM
82 posts



My being an empath and highly intuitive is a gift. Every gift comes with responsibility and isnot always easy. Every day I work around individuals and every day I help someone. When I speak with them I can feel them and I know things about them. I sense their turmoil and know their heart. I am able to help them. I do it without really thinking. It is what I do. I expend energy, push off negative energy and try to consciously be aware of whose feelings have just latched on to meat that given moment. Sure, I go home to recuperate. It is okay. It is how I survive.When you smile at someoneand they smile back you have given them agift that they are not even aware. When I make someone smile, laugh, feel better about themselves and their decisions, when I nonjudgmentallyaccept and respect them.... well, it makes a difference in their present. So, no, being an empath can be a good thing. I would not want to live without it.

Chay
@chay
03/30/15 05:23:54PM
82 posts



Tshidi,

It really isn't easy, but it gets easier. Hey, I read a book just to learn how to say 'no'. Thank you for your response. I am glad to see you are going forward and not dwelling on the lies. May your journey be a kind one and may you learn and mostly enjoy with every step.

Chay

Chay
@chay
03/29/15 06:44:08PM
82 posts



Dogs bite, people lie. It is what they do. I realize that statementmay seem odd to you, but an individual lies for many reasons. Usually to protect themselves, not to hurt you. When a lie does harm, then it is something in which youmay need to act upon. So, relax and simply don't judge.Most of the time the lie really has nothing to do with you. Every day you will hear a lie. Think about the fact that you can't control what a person says to you, but you do control how you respond.

With the gift of being an empath comes responsibility.You will have so much being laid upon you that deciphering and judging will add to your already heavy load. I hope that makes sense to you.

No one is perfect. Nature is not perfect, so who would want perfection? Everyday as a Empath you are going to see the good and the bad. Even the really evil. You nonjudgmentally accept those around you and what you learn about them. I feel sadness, despair, joy, positive attitudes,mean peopleand more. I know a person's heart. I take on someone's emotions before I even realize it. However, it is not my place to criticize their life choices.

People who lie and are deceitful are going to pay dearly for their misdeeds.I certainly do not need to judge and add to the fate they will receive. What you attract is what you receive.

I suppose you are right and some people do it just for fun. It will come back to them.I am not offended by those who lie unless it is causing actual harm. Sometimes you simply have to let it go.

Please take care and I hope your path isn't a difficult one for you.

 
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