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Chay
@chay
10/28/15 04:08:07AM
82 posts

Anybody ever sense an approaching death?


Empath

I have felt 'impending doom' once. I do not want to ever feel it again. There was nothing I could do and I was not sure of the person. Exactly one week later a family member died.

I do know when I will not see someone again. By that I mean I will have this knowledge before I leave them they will die. Before understanding what was going on with me (empath/claircognizance). I didn't believe I actually knew, but now I have experienced it several times. It has been true each time. It is something which I accept as part of my gift. I have no control over it. I have no way changing that particular person's journey.

I look at them and simply know. I do not tell them. I always think I might be wrong, but I haven't been so far. I do not want to believe it.

Love and light on your journey.

Chay
@chay
10/14/15 08:27:08PM
82 posts

Intense tingling fingertips


Empath

When I meditate or open myself to communicate with my guides/angel/guardians or put protective energy around me, then my head feels odd. It always does it when I imagine light surrounding me and pushing negative energy to disperse harmlessly away from my area.

My fingers will tingle when I am feeling certain stones or crystals. I respond differently to different stones. Agate and most quartz. I like it, but on the other hand, sometimes the feeling is horrible or empty because it is not for me. Then, again, it may be the residue from the last person that touched it. There have been a few times I have been a bit alarmed by the negative energy in the stone. It is as though they have mistreated their stones/crystals. Not a nice feeling.

Good hunting! Love and Light during your journey.

Chay
@chay
10/14/15 08:14:04PM
82 posts



I have a twin sister, a son and grandchildren with gifts. My husband supports me. He says life with me will never be boring. (I have decided he is simply as fortunate as I. LOL) This makes a difference. I have acquaintances like crazy. People are drawn to empaths. Moth to a flame. This is normal. We have a deep capacity for love, therefore we must be careful to protect ourselves from harm. Let it go when it is unhealthy. Did not say it was easy.

We can be drawn into a relationship quickly. We are empaths. It is what we do. Make sense? Having a best friend and learning to maintain a relationship is not always easy. So, don't be too hard on yourself. Many of the individuals in our lives are just there temporary. Either for us to learn or for us to teach. Or, both.

I have my twin, but I never had a best friend for very long. I never 'fit'. They were not going in the same direction.

A couple of suggestions:

Ask your guide, guardian, angel to give you guidance and then be open to it. Ask once only I am told. Be sure to thank them for helping. Appreciate them. Meditate and visualize what you are wanting. Think positive. You are what you think. Appreciate what you do have and/or give that some thought.

Check if there are others in the community like you online. Go to a meeting. Sounded like a small town, so hopefully you will be surprised.

The past is done. In the present you have so much. Just keep open to it. Doors open all the time.

May your journey be a happy, peaceful one with love and light. Good fortune!

Chay
@chay
10/14/15 03:53:43PM
82 posts



'I do wonder how they would react if we 'came out'. How comfortable do you think mainstream society would feel if they knew many of us know their lies. Seeing our kind in the movies is one thing. To walk the streets wondering if we know that dirty little secret is something entirely different.' quote from empathness.com

There is more to that conversation, but you reminded me of it. I am comfortable with myself and my abilities. When someone walks toward me I use those abilities. My goal is to help them be more comfortable with themselves and guide them if needed. My gifts allow me to do that. I have an inner peace, calmness, gratitude, a happy life and being around me calms most people without their realizing. I project happiness and nonjudgmental acceptance.

Your gentleness will come through, because you are thinking what you need to do to help that individual or whatever. (Hey, could be an animal or nature.) Like any gift it takes practice and responsibility.

I do sometimes intimidate people without realizing. This is their issue, not mine. People may sense you as Cat Whisperer suggested without understanding why. Individuals are drawn to me. I greet individuals with the attitude that people are going to respect me, help me guide them and seldom do I get anything different. You are what you think.

If I can help further, then please let me know. I try to check this site as frequently as possible.

Love and Light!

Chay
@chay
09/08/15 02:36:39PM
82 posts

cluster B parents


Empath

To this day it is hard for someone to sneak up on me. Unsafe childhood will do that for you. Aren't we lucky? I was abused sexually, physically and mentally. Yeap. Warm and fuzzy was my childhood. A couple of things I would like to share:

1. You have the right to not communicate or have a person in your personal space.

2. You owe nothing to anyone. Sure, she raised you and you love her, but that does not mean this is a healthy relationship for you.

3. Just because she is your mother does not mean you have to like her. You may love her, but you do not have to like her. It is okay.

4. You have choices. It is your choice how you handle this, not her. Think about what is best for you.

5. If you choose not to be around her because she does you harm, then you are not to feel guilty.

6. You have got to take care of yourself.

7. Choose to change your thoughts to positive.

8. Let it go. You can't change her. Again, she is not your responsibility.

9. If your life is going to be happy and healthy, then you may need to sever the relationship.

10. You can't change your mother. You can only control how you respond. Be kind to yourself, okay?

Do I sound mean? It is not meant that way. You have gifts and it takes a lot to handle them. I would feel all the energy around me as a child. It was exhausting. I ended up having a great relationship with my mother. I have support from my family. The cycle of abuse was stopped. I want to tell you to stop harming yourself. No one deserves abuse. It is your choice now. I didn't say it was easy.

May you find love and light. The peace you have inside you. Ask your guides/guardians/angel for help. You just might be surprised.

Good fortune.

Chay
@chay
09/08/15 12:05:05PM
82 posts

Reincarnation: is it reality?


Empath

Good thinking. Thank you. I am not worried about past lives, but then I have never been told of any. I do believe we have souls that we keep meeting in our life times, so I suppose that answers my question to a point. In order for me to believe certain people or souls come into my different lives, then I must believe in reincarnation.

I don't want to end in this life. I want to keep learning and have the opportunity to be even better in the next life. I will admit I want to remember my lives and gain wisdom from them. Why start all over again?

Thanks!

Chay
@chay
09/08/15 12:00:18PM
82 posts

Reincarnation: is it reality?


Empath

I will admit I like the idea of reincarnation. The idea that what is me does not just end, I have the opportunity to be a better entity and the chance to continue being just simply better.

Thank you.

Chay
@chay
09/08/15 11:58:33AM
82 posts

Reincarnation: is it reality?


Empath

Thank you! I will look into it and put the book on my website.

Chay
@chay
09/04/15 08:39:27AM
82 posts

Good in small doses


Empath

To give a more elaborate answer an example might help. I would like to relate an experience I had years ago. My sister would complain about problems she was experiencing in her life. I would listen and if asked, then I would offer advise. As time went on I noticed she would become more agitated as she spoke with me. She ended up telling me she simply could not talk to me any more. I evaluated what I did wrong. Finally, I realized I am the kind of person that gives advice based on how I dealt with issues. My attitude was if you are going to complain and do nothing about it, then shut up already.

Well, not everyone is capable of doing that. Now, I give guidance, not so much advise. The person I am with needs to find their way. Hence, the guidance rather than advice. The other thing is .... when I realize the individual is not going to help themselves, then I stop trying to help. I just accept them. Possibly they are not at a point in their journey where they are capable of changing or they may never reach that point. It isn't for me to judge or decide for them. It is their journey, not mine.

I seldom find someone I can't help. I am older and claircognizance so that helps me guide them. You will find many people do not accept they are responsible for their choices and blame others. For example, it isn't my fault I hit him, he was pushing me to hit him or I made a bad grade in class, because I could not find a place to study. See what I mean?

Many people see themselves as victims. Most of society are not resilient. So, accept them non-judgmentally. Guide rather than advise. Think of how to best guide them to their own resolution. Help them see options. Does this make sense?

When you guide it helps them learn and lets them feel more in control. They are not going to blame you for a possible solution, because they are the ones coming up with it. Also, they may needs steps. When I was changing my lifestyle to get rid of the PTSD I started with exercising and changing my eating habits. One step at a time. One breath. One day.

I hope this helps. If you have questions or comments, then please let me know.

Love and Light!

Chay

Chay
@chay
09/04/15 07:54:19AM
82 posts

Reincarnation: is it reality?


Empath

Very interesting! Thank you. You have given me more to look into. Like the previous reply I still need to learn more before adding to my website. I try to be careful what I add so I am giving good information.

I have experienced feeling as though I have done something before, but not a lot. Truth is .... I want to believe.

Again, thank you. I will resume seeking information on reincarnation.

Love and Light! Chay

Chay
@chay
09/04/15 07:44:40AM
82 posts

Reincarnation: is it reality?


Empath

Thank you for the response. It helps. I have learned that I can't help everyone and I certainly do not need to take on everyone's problems or their energy. So, I have more to learn. Just because someone is not openly gifted doesn't mean they have not have past lives.

I have to remember everyone has their own journey. I will do more research before adding to my website. Thanks, again>

Love and LIght! Chay

Chay
@chay
09/01/15 07:58:09PM
82 posts

Reincarnation: is it reality?


Empath

Since accepting my gifts and my growing spiritual enlightenment I began to wonder about reincarnation. So, I thought I would add it to my website. Thus far in my research it seems our souls keep becoming human until we are completely enlightened. At that point we have a choice to come back or not. Another suggested it was karma and we keep coming back to further our soul development.

This is not an exciting topic, but something I believe my readers need to know. It is my understanding that we who have gifts are in the process of enlightenment and this is not our first life.

I am going to continue my research and add to my website in a couple of days, but I wanted to know what you think.

Do you believe in reincarnation?

Are there stages to enlightenment that we must reach to have the choice of no longer coming back?

Do out of body or death experiences really prove there is reincarnation?

Please let me know what you think!

Thank you,

Chay


updated by @chay: 01/20/17 03:11:29AM
Chay
@chay
08/25/15 04:53:29PM
82 posts

what makes you happy?


Empath

I choose to be happy. There are so many things I appreciate. It would be an extremely long list.

Good thing to ask though!

Love and Light!

Chay
@chay
08/25/15 04:51:06PM
82 posts

help plz one person making me ill. why?


Empath

Good for you! Go with the gut. Doesn't sound like a healthy situation. I sure would not want to be in the middle. Probably what will happen is she will stop coming around when the person she is visiting is no longer of use to her.

Take care of yourself, okay?

Chay
@chay
08/25/15 02:26:46PM
82 posts

First time....


Empath

I will try to keep this short which seems to be a challenge for me. I didn't read any of the other replies, so I am starting from the top. My life has not been easy either. The world is not a safe place to be. Yes, humans are exactly that ... humans. They do what they do. Simply accept. Nonjudgmental acceptance. Hey, didn't say it was easy. Remember if you concentrate on the negative, then that is what you get. Negative. It is your choice. Can you change the reality which is the 'negative part of humanity'? Not really. You can change yourself and how you deal with it.

Let it go. You can't control what other people or groups of people do. You only control what you do in response to it. If you can't change a thing, then stop, let it go. Don't dwell on the negative. Change your thought patterns. Change negative thoughts to positive. Your choice.

Don't be too harsh on you. You are doing the best you can with what you have. You are trying to protect yourself from outside energies. Fact, you cannot be around people unless you are allowing yourself time to recuperate. Make sure you are having down time to read, be in nature, listen to music, etc. What are your survival skills? After a day of work around people with all their energies and feelings I come home to quiet. I read, work on my website, cook, but I am left alone. My husband understands it is a requirement for me to have this time. I can lean on my husband and feel his comfortable energy. My son and grandchildren understand I may shut myself in my bedroom to recuperate when they visit. Of course, they have their own gifts.

Your family need to understand you require time to recuperate. It isn't a bad thing. It is just what you need. Plus, if in runs in the family, then your child may need to learn how to cope as well.

Many empaths and others with gifts use a band aid to cope. It is not unusual. I get the impression it is common. You might see a doctor and have something prescribed. My doctor when I had PTSD suggested I take a medication to help. I told him I wanted something which did not take my feelings away. When it came time for me to feel again, then I wanted to be able to do so. I simply needed something which would make me feel better. It helped me have the strength to rewire my brain. I haven't had a symptom in years.

Poke fun? No. I take my gifts serious. Every gift has two sides regardless of what the gift is. Taking my gifts away would be like taking one of my others senses away. Forget that.

So, ask your guides/guardians/angels for help. Learn how to meditate without harming yourself. Learn coping skills, such as quiet time, etc. Share with your family and let them know what you need. They may need the same. Stop concentrating on the negative and change your thoughts to positive. You are what you eat and you are what you think.

It takes practice and you might not want to change your lifestyle. It is your choice. Again, I am sorry this is not going to be easy. It took me three years after being diagnosed with PTSD to get rid of it. Making choices to change your life ... for me if was so worth it. I wake smiling everyday. Bad things still happen, but whatever it is will be temporary.

This is brief and possibility confusing for you. I suggest you start with allowing yourself time to recuperate. Find better ways to protect yourself. Accept you need down time. Nonjudgmental acceptance. Let it go if you can't change it or change the way you are thinking about it. Sometimes you just have to let someone in your life go their on way. You have another journey. It isn't theirs to understand. You have your own journey.

Good hunting on your journey! Love and Light. Always feel free to reach out to me.

Chay
@chay
08/25/15 12:01:51PM
82 posts

help plz one person making me ill. why?


Empath

I just was thinking I didn't explain the 'do not nag'. I apologize. When asking to help you get rid of the entity feeding on the negative energy, then you should only need to ask once. When you feel you need protection, then ask when needed. I do. I will admit I felt odd asking for help and guidance at first.

I sincerely hope everything works out for you. If I can help, then please let me know.

Chay
@chay
08/25/15 06:40:46AM
82 posts

help plz one person making me ill. why?


Empath

Hello,

You have some great information in the responses. Since my husband has had a brain tumor removed I have been sharing his emotions and how he is feeling physically. While I can't take on his feelings and put them from him to me it has helped to feel them. I am better able to identify when he needs help or when his brain is exhausted. My point? It is something temporary in which I can help him accomplish. Yes, I should help him. Whole different thing for you.

Your situation? There may be something feeding off her energy. Ask your guides/guardian/etc. for protection. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Please be sure to be polite and thank them for their help in the future and past. Do not nag. Negative energy does not go away, but can be dispersed. In other words it isn't that you want anything bad to happen, but just removed. And, this isn't just about you, so you are not being selfish. This affects others as well. Know what I mean?

Avoiding you probably has to do with her not you. Is your inner voice telling you to help or stay away? When I have felt a negative energy I have placed my agate in areas and it was such a relief! I am not sure that would work for you.

I hope all is better for you. Any questions, then please let me know.

Love and Light!

Chay
@chay
08/19/15 02:10:01PM
82 posts

Help


Empath

I have told my husband if this wasn't happening to me, then I would not believe it. When I was first told I was an empath I did not even believe they existed. Now I spend a great deal of time learning about empaths and other gifts. I am not nuts because I have proved to myself it is real.

I went a week without all the input (long story) and it was an awful feeling. I am so accustomed to my 'sixth sense' that it was as though part of me had been removed. I receive information all the time. While you are wanting silence I am appreciating it. The difference? Let's back up, okay?

Skeptical? Of course you are. Give yourself a break. I proved it to myself and finally accepted.

Stop it with drugs? Medical prescriptions, the right ones, could possibly help. A band-aid while you learn to cope.

Feeling loads of silent voices? While you don't see this as a gift the reality of it is just that. Not every great musician, genius, or athlete view their gift as great. It carries responsibility not all can ignore. So, you need to learn coping skills just like people with gifts do. Hiding from it or attempting to deny it is not going to help your reality. Does that make sense?

You really are what you think. Think positive. Meditate. Ask for help not just from us, but your guardians/spirit guides. Learn. Gain knowledge. Give yourself time to recuperate between times you are in public. Surround yourself with positive people. You are only just beginning. This is a different world. Check out empathness.com to get more knowledgeable. You have been given websites to get help from others, but this website is just a central location for information. I hope it helps.

Gifts are not easy. Embrace yours. I think you will come to a happy conclusion. That doesn't mean it will not take some lifestyle changes. I sincerely hope, like me, that you will find this life much more fulfilling and be happy.

Love and light. Good fortune.

Chay
@chay
08/08/15 12:53:47AM
82 posts



I have an affinity for quartz. A friend tells me that if the stone is for you, then you will feel it. Sometimes when I touch a stone I feel negative energy or nothing at all. I stay away from it, because it is not meant for me. I cleanse my stones with a tuning fork, sending love and positive energy to push out the negative and setting them in sun or moonlight. Some people put their stones in water. Keep looking you will find the ones you need. Also, I feel the energy of the stone with my left hand and send positive energy with my right hand. You will get different information in reference to others touching your stones. Mine let me know it is okay according to the person. I know! Strange, right?

Protection .... each morning when you get out of bed imagine a white light covering you with protection. Start with your feet and just like you are putting on clothes cover yourself in the light. This is your armor.

I have felt horrible energy. It has stopped me in my tracks, so to speak. I concentrate on the light and pushing the energy away from me. I am not there to do it harm. It is energy, so in my mind I imagine it being on me which is how I feel. I push it away to break apart into the air away from me.

I have not had a lot of guidance until recently. I did not even believe in ... well, me. LOL Empaths. Anyway, when I sing I imagine where the sound is coming. High notes move higher up my head and low notes I can feel vibrating in my chest. It is odd. I simply imagine it. I use that same technique to move energy through me and around me and to push negative energy away from my home. The top of my head tingles and feels odd when I do this or meditate.

If it is bad, then I have asked for help from my guides/guardians/angels.

I hope that helps!

Chay
@chay
08/07/15 09:30:54PM
82 posts



I know I am empath and claircognizance, but when I read the other clairs I have some gifts which would include me in two others.

Just like with all humans there are good and bad. It is good that you are helping other empaths. It is nice to know that we can get help, too. We definitely need to care for ourselves.

You are right. Who better to help than us!

I hope you are feeling better!

Love and light!

Chay
@chay
08/05/15 06:47:21PM
82 posts



Josh,

You are most welcome. Been there. I hear a lot of empaths state that while they are supporting their friends and helping them with their lives .... they seldom get the support back.

It took me a while to stop helping someone when it was doing no good. It was hard to accept that someone simply is not going to fix the problem. They will complain and whine about it, but not take the initiative to do something about it. I was so disappointed. It is their journey. Maybe they simply can't go on. Possibly they were raised in chaos and that person is comfortable in that environment. I learned to accept and not judge. But, it is sad.

Please keep in contact. I am researching how to help empaths and other gifted say 'no'. I actually read a book to help me years ago. It really did help me and I was able to say no. There is only so much of my fabulous self to go around. LOL

Love & Light! Chay (empathness.com)

Chay
@chay
08/04/15 09:40:38PM
82 posts



I reach out and feel the energies of those around me. Sometimes it is thrust at me. That can be quiet unpleasant. I do feel the energy of places. It is interesting.

Of course, you enjoy making people happy. No, it is not selfish. People give others presents because it makes them feel good. Saying that .... remember you are an empath. Guiding people is what you do. I love to make others laugh. Standing in front of a group of people and making them feel good by the time I am done talking to them ... the best high! Their energy completely changes.

We attract. It is what we do. One of our issues is the fact that we attract needy people. You have to figure out who is needing guidance and with whom you should have a relationship.

You have got to have some alone time. You can be in a room full of people and still feel alone. You are different. It is okay. But, you are not alone. There are empaths out there feeling the same way.

Remember, too, when you have intimate relations with someone, one person has strong feelings. In addition, many times if you have intimate relations with someone they will get more 'clingy'. It is not their fault or yours. It is what happens.

Okay, now. You can smile, say the right things, but be screaming inside. Stop. Heal yourself. I am going to give you my opinion....

You are an empath. You have a gift. You are not like mainstream society.

I absolutely love people. Of course, I am an ENTJ. Being around them pumps me up. I love it! It really is so great. Now, this is what I do. I am around a group of people. When I get home I am usually drained. Sometimes more than other times. I absolutely have to have alone time to recuperate. It isn't the crowd and friends you need it is silence. Nature. Meditate. Close the door, do not answer phone or text. Give yourself time to heal before you go out there again. You can't be there for others and not take care of yourself.

It might take you a while to recuperate initially. Take a deep breath. Don't be so hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. Do not judge yourself by the people around you. It is the wrong peer group. You are an empath.

You expressed yourself well. It is just that we understand what you are going through. We have an extra sense. Embrace you empathness!

I would like to caution you. When you are guiding someone and they are not improving. Stop. Go to the next person with whom you can guide. Don't stay there draining yourself for someone in which you are unable to help. What you have done may help them later. Some are not meant to be in your life long. Does that make sense? Because I am older and an ENTJ it is easier for me to go on. I am highly intuitive, so I am an unusual ENTJ. I have guidelines for myself involving the helping of others. This way I stay healthy, happy and positive ready to guide the next person who finds me or I find them.

Please let me know if you need further explanation. If you need help with how people react to you let me know. Love and light on your journey!


updated by @chay: 01/22/17 11:45:20AM
Chay
@chay
08/04/15 08:57:34PM
82 posts



You are right an empath is not here to absorb the pain. We are here to use our gifts to guide them in the right direction.

I have to rejuvenate. By that I mean I have to have time alone. No energies touching me except nature. I find a quiet place. Sometimes it may take me an hour or it might take me days.

We are not better just different than main stream society. You did learn some valuable lessons the hard way. I am sure your input will help others. In order for me to help and not be in mainstream society I have started a website. I find the older I get the more I need nature.

Good fortune. Love and Light

Chay
@chay
08/04/15 08:46:49PM
82 posts

Infatuation and intuition


Empath

Not a great feeling. Yes, I have. Being empath we help others even when it is not necessarily healthy for us. Your need to help, the love you feel for others and your intuition can be in conflict. Example, I felt love for this individual. I would have stayed with him. A lot of that was because he needed me. My intuition and guides where practically yelling at me daily. It hurt to get out of the relationship, but I definitely listen now.

Your intuition will tell you he is the 'one'. You will know. Sometimes people come into your life for a reason even when they are not your soul mate. And, not every soulmate is someone with whom you could live in every life time.

And, yes, messages are a constant occurrences for me. I would not have it any other way. Ask your guides, guardians, angels for guidance. Please make sure you thank them for their help.

Deep breath. Relax. Meditate. Ask for guidance.

You aren't going to know if he is the 'one' if you don't get out there. Just remember to trust your gifts.

Love and light to you on your journey.

Chay
@chay
08/04/15 08:30:21PM
82 posts

Crowds and meeting people for the first time.


Empath

Odd things do indeed happen to us. If you get a bad vibe, then listen to your intuition and stay away. Your friends do not understand your reality of the energy around you. When I am around people like them I don't share that part of my life. Unfortunately for them. Sometimes it is hard when your path or journey is leading you in another direction from your friends. Remember it isn't for them to understand. It is your journey. Your reality can't be real to them. You can't exist. Make sense?

Most of the time when I help people they have no idea I am an empath and claircognizance. I will tell you this .... I help, but I still take care of myself. I have boundaries set in place involving the helping of others.

As far as feeling things from materialistic objects I feel the energy of some stones and I always touch objects. You can catch me rubbing my hands down my thighs to wipe off the feeling. Yuck! You might check into the clairs to help you. Such as, clairvoyant, claircognizance, clairsentience, clairaudience,

Again, you are doing nothing wrong. There is nothing wrong with you. Relax and meditate. Take a deep breath. Stop being so hard on yourself. You are going in the right direction.

We lead lives full of energies, feel things deeply, have a whole other 'sense' others do not have. We are indeed fortunate. I am not sure how I would handle their 'quiet' lives.

Good hunting during your journey. You have some things to learn. If something does not make sense, then please let me know.

Love and Light!

Chay
@chay
07/16/15 08:55:21PM
82 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

Your are welcome and I do hope it helped. I have so much in my life in which to be grateful, but my childhood wasn't the best either. As an empath I believe these things hurt even more.

You understand people communicate differently. I agree with you.... you are not having this same problem with other people.

Please keep in mind you can't control her behavior. All you can control is how you respond.

Love and light.

Chay
@chay
07/16/15 08:48:42PM
82 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

Yes, you were and it was greatly appreciated. During my first month I had 690 visitors to my site. I changed my site and added more drop downs to be more organized. I expect the next 30 days to be even better. I am so excited. It is as though I am helping every day and not just with problems.

Chay
@chay
07/16/15 08:45:24PM
82 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

You are so very welcome! Thank you for the positive input. I sincerely appreciate it.

Chay
@chay
07/16/15 08:44:25PM
82 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

Thank you. I sometimes over analyze Good points!

Chay
@chay
07/16/15 03:12:00AM
82 posts



I have a wonderful group of family that accept my quirky self. I know and accept my boundaries. Every gift has a good and bad side. I like being who I am. An empath and claircognizance. I went though a week without hearing my guides. It was awful As though one of my senses was gone.

I don't hide, but I do need alone time to recuperate. I don't listen to the news. I used to feel guilty about that. Not now. To lead a healthy full life there are, again, boundaries. I shield myself a lot. I clean the energies in my home of negativity. I understand I will draw odd entities seeking me out due to my empathness. I know when I am on overload and those around me support me during these times. I know when my husband and I are in public he shields me at times.

I have a home for myself in this world, but I am not actually a part of it. I am ascending and it is not always easy. I have a peace, calmness, gratitude, positive thoughts. It is great.

Love and light. You will make it.

Chay
@chay
07/16/15 02:52:05AM
82 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

I am rather straight forward, so please do not take offense. First, you owe her nothing. If you look back in your life, then you will see that there are probably lots of people you have helped. We are empaths. It is what we do. Help. The person we helped owes us nothing.

Second, if her emails hurt you, then simply stop opening them. I know, easier said than done. This is not a healthy relationship. It is your choice to remain in it and her choice to be abusive. It seems she is using you to make herself feel better. Make sense? It gives her a sense of power and control. Possibly it makes her feel better about her not so great life; however, you are not her personal punching bag.

Third, maybe she doesn't mean to hurt you, but she is. Your feelings matter. You have enough negative energy from those around you daily. You do not need to feel more pain. Take care of yourself. You are an empath. You are gifted.

Fourth, I have family who state other people believe they are better. I am awesome and no one is better than anyone else. We just have different paths or journeys. Her journey is not yours and you don't need to understand it. That does not mean she matters more than you. She does not. An empath will place others desires or needs before their own. This can be admirable. Remember to help others you have to take care of yourself.

Fifth, everyday we make choices. I was in an unhealthy relationship for 30 years. No young chick here. I will not tolerate it now. It is my choice who is in my life and personal space. If a person is negative, then I don't have them in my life. That doesn't mean my twin doesn't vent or my grandson doesn't whine. They are human, but these relationship are healthy.

Sixth, just some ideas. Listen to your intuition. Meditate. Ask your guides/guardians/angels for guidance. Change your thought patterns to positive. Decide to wake up happy. Keep your life in balance.

You are going to grieve if the relationship ends. It is normal. I believe you already are grieving for a relationship which no longer exist. It is sad, but some people are only meant to be in your life a short time. This may be one of those 'let it go' moments.

Love and light for what may be ahead. Good fortune.

Chay
@chay
07/14/15 06:33:42AM
82 posts

How do crystals even work?


Tools for Empaths

I am not sure about anyone else, but this is my experience. A friend of mine owns a garden center. I was skeptical about everything. First, when I met him, I could feel this wonderful energy coming off of him. It was amazing. Odd, but amazing. LOL

He had me stand facing east. He had placed stones in certain locations on his property. I felt energy move from my feet to encompass all of me. It felt wonderful. He had me hold rose quartz. (Skeptic, yes, of the stones.) It felt right in my hands, but not something I had not felt before. He directed me to an area filled with different stones. I walked over and saw another rose quartz. I picked it up and it felt 'empty'. It shocked me and at that moment I believed. It just felt so empty. I knew at that moment that I had been feeling from stones all this time and not realized it. Now, some will actually push me away. Kind of like if you touch something unpleasant. Or, if the energy is negative. Yuck! I will wipe my hands to get it off me.

My friend explained some are for me and some are not. Simple, I guess. All quartz feel good. Other stones are not for me, so I don't feel them. He explained that if I need them, then I will know. Another thing ... my left hand feels them and my right gives to them. I don't know everything, but some things simply feel right. I use them for protection. I send love into them. I leave them in sun and moonlight. I use different ways to cleanse them.

That is a brief summary. As time goes on and I experience more I believe more. Many times if it had not happened to me, then I would never have believed it. I hope it helps!

Love and light.

Chay
@chay
07/13/15 06:57:25AM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Thank you! I am taking the advise of the Cheshire Cat and making the site more user friendly.

I was raised on a horse ranch. It was wonderful being around all the horses and colts each summers.

I really appreciate your letting me know the site has helped you. It is my hope it will do that for a lot of people. Hopefully, I will be able to work on it full time soon.

Love and light!

Chay
@chay
07/11/15 08:35:28PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Thank you! I so appreciate you! I am working on better organization, so you have given me some good ideas. I was speaking to my twin about how I needed to reorganize it, because pages are so long.

I ask because I needed exactly what you gave me. I will start working on it! I have added categories (drop down menus), but will add more to make it more simplified and look into archiving. Not sure about that. I like the idea of splitting into shorter categories. I will let you know, okay?

I had PTSD for about 4 1/2 years, so I added that in case it could help someone.

ENTJ with high intuition. My life is never boring. LOL

You are great! Love and light!

Chay
@chay
07/08/15 06:50:01PM
82 posts



I like the name. I will place it on my website and direct readers to your site. Let me know if that is a problem. This looks like something my readers would be interested in reading.


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Chay
@chay
07/08/15 06:39:59PM
82 posts

Tours and Cures of a Lightsoldier - Book - a constructive critical review of esoteric practices, and then some


Offers and Services

I will put it on my website. When I put books there I always put clicks in two places for the reader to be able to quickly find the information, so I will have anyone interested go to your site. Let me know if that is a problem.

Chay
@chay
07/08/15 06:35:03PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

I will definitely try that. Thank you!

Chay
@chay
07/08/15 06:34:33PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Thank you! No, it isn't just you. I do feel better after I change clothes. I didn't even think about it. I am glad you pointed it out.

Chay
@chay
07/08/15 02:31:34PM
82 posts

Empath is love possible?


Empath

I never really believed in happily ever after or finding a soulmate. I mean ... really? Lust can be a wonderful thing. Yet, when the lust and wonder dies down and you look at each other do you even actually like this person?

Being an empath I attract needy possible mates. Definite dudes. They bored me and hurt me. While I loved them as an empath and would have helped them it wasn't fulfilling and they would still bore me. Plus, to be honest I was doing the same thing over again and nothing was changing. On top of that I could not be me. And, I like me. Could I have told them I am an empath? Not a single one of them. Now to the happy stuff. Thank goodness! I was bring myself down.

I had given up when I met my husband. It was so odd. We felt a connection. I was shocked. We both hoped. From the moment we met we felt as though we had always known each other. (I know, corny.) Does that mean we don't disagree sometimes. Sure. We are too much alike. We are both rather bossy, so he is bossy on somethings and I am bossy with other things. He supports my uniqueness. When he is gone I feel as though a part of me is missing. Seriously. I never would have believed it, but it happened to me. He is my happily ever after. Not perfect, but who would want that?

I have never been one of those 'clingy' sort of people, (I mean, please.) but with my husband I am very much so. We touch each other a lot. I have asked him if he feels overwhelmed by me. He states he likes it, because he is the same way. Our energies touch and it is soothing. A nice bonus.

At times I think empaths jump in with both feet where others fear to tread. We recognize a need. The other person comes first. Plus, we have an amazing capacity for love. Not everyone does. They don't know what they are missing.

Please give yourself some time. When you least expect it, then there it will be. I am sincerely sorry, but just because he is your soulmate doesn't mean he will be in your life during this lifetime.

There is hope and I am proof. Like you my husband and I believe we deserve each other. He says life with me will never be boring. I intend to keep it that way.

Don't give up. Look to the light, meditate, ask for guidance. Take care of you. You never know what could happen when you open the door.

Love and Light

Chay
@chay
07/08/15 05:30:42AM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Thank you. I am getting people to the site, but they aren't staying. I am trying different things to see if that makes a difference. To be honest I hope it gets to the point that the site is doing so well that I can quit work and do it full time. Being in a group of people each day is getting harder, but I am handling. I enjoy being around people. It actually energizes me, but when I get home I have to heal or rejuvenate to do it again tomorrow.

You are fabulous! Again, thanks for the input. I appreciate your taking the time to respond.

Chay
@chay
07/08/15 12:52:42AM
82 posts



Lots of good responses and I definitely agree with Trevor. I haven't thought about clothing. I do know some clothing feels better than others. Some I touch and rub my hand afterward. Hey, I have accepted my empathness.

During my research I found that while being in a field to help others is great for an empath there is the challenge of energy overload. We are better self employed according to my research. I believe it is due to the ability to control our environment better. Just prepare and absolutely take care of yourself.

Good fortune. Love and light.

Chay
@chay
07/07/15 07:33:14PM
82 posts



Ariel,

When you are going though a rough patch it is possible it is affecting your empathic abilities. You do need to be aware of your feelings. Then when you feel others' energy you will be in a better position to understand what is yours and what is not.

As an empath you will love easily and care for others. It is what you do. However, (you had to know that was coming) you need to be careful. You will enter unhealthy relationships because you want to help. Been there, done that. Empaths have to learn to care for themselves. So, don't kick yourself over something which is a part of who you are. You love easily, so let your empathness lead the way. In other words if that little voice is telling you this is not a good situation, then it isn't. Get out of it and let it go. You put others before yourself. Seriously, take care of yourself. There are those out there who need you to enter their lives even if is only for a short time. You might need them yourself.

Good fortune. I hope this helped a little.

Love and Light


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Chay
@chay
07/07/15 06:54:41PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Thank you so much! Under the books section you will find books on being an empath and how to handle it. I will add some more. I am trying to expand the website. I have people visiting, but not staying. I am working on it.

Love and Light

Chay
@chay
06/30/15 06:08:52PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Gene,

Thank you for responding. Type in 'empathness' and my website should come up. I want it to be a place where empaths and others can access to find information. A kind of one stop shop.

If you have the time to look at it, then I would appreciate it. Also, any ideas. I take constructive criticism quite well.

Chay

Chay
@chay
06/30/15 06:04:38PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

Thank you for responding. I enjoy music. It is one of my coping skills, so I will definitely see what I can do.

Chay
@chay
06/29/15 06:20:52PM
82 posts

Wanting Your Thoughts!


Empath

I have started a website for empaths. It is colorful and I put in things, such as animals, pictures of flowers and the outdoors, quotes to make you smile and think. On it is the latest information and studies on empaths and others who have gifts. One section is about books and another section on coping with our special gifts.

What I am not doing is trying to sell you a book I wrote or call me with an issue. Not that there is anything wrong with it. I have gotten some great information from them and in some cases guide you to their sites.

My goal is to have one place with information in which you find of interest. One place you can go for books, studies, the latest information and to just smile. (I would really like to ask you to check out the website and give your opinion, but I do believe I that would be against policy of this forum.)

I would like your thoughts on what you would like to see on this type of website. I want to make sure I am doing what we, as empaths, need to see.

Any thoughts would be appreciated. They could be about colors, quotes, latest studies, books, coping skills. Information you would want to see. Should I put in humor? Please take a moment to share your thoughts.

Thank you for reading and I sincerely look forward to hearing your ideas.


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Chay
@chay
06/29/15 05:50:07PM
82 posts

Trust Issues


Empath

Thank you! I appreciate your response. If you have questions, then just let me know.

Chay
@chay
06/23/15 07:37:08PM
82 posts

Trust Issues


Empath

I am trying to think of a way to explain this. Dog bite, people lie, it is what they do. Unless the lie causes pain, then let it go. People are simply people. Most of them have no understanding of what you experience. Yes, you have to pick your battles. You have to let it go. You are doing that for yourself, not them. They have gone on with their lives.

Nonjudgmentally accept those around you. Understand they are simply people. Nothing more. Nothing less. Every day someone comes to me for help. I give them guidance. If they keep coming to me with their problems and no resolution. This is their choice. It may be they are not capable of what they need to do. Make sense? If they choose not to change their situation I can no longer help them. I let go and move on to the next person.

Change your thoughts. When you start thinking negative thoughts change them. Sound simple enough, right? Not always. Grab a book that will help you change your thoughts. Remember, however, that you need to change them correctly. For example, you would not say, 'I am not going to be sick'. Say instead, 'I am healthy.' Think about the positive more often and it will help you let go.

Nothing you feel is wrong. You have a right to feel disappointment. When I am hurt I shut down. Hey, fight or flight? I flight right within myself. You are just healing. Give yourself a break. Start taking care of you. Change your thoughts. Nonjudgmentally accept others and meditate. It is a thought. Seriously, this is your choice. If you choose to change your thoughts you might be surprised how much it changes your life. I am an amazingly happy person. That doesn't mean bad things don't happen, but when it does it is okay.

I sincerely hope this helps and makes sense. I wish you light and love.

Embrace your empathness.

Chay
@chay
06/23/15 07:16:04PM
82 posts

In such a funk, would love positive thoughts or tips


Empath

Hello! I hope the days have been better for you. I am an empath and claircognizance. I need to help people. It is what I do. You sound wonderful! You are trying to help so many people. Plus, animals. Thank you for being that person.

A couple of thoughts. You need to take care of yourself. Hey, this is hard for me. If you are wanting to be there for others you have to be careful with your health, as well as your sanity. I need time by myself almost everyday. I put on my armor of white light. I go to work. I help others. I take on their energy good and bad. I meditate (mindfulness) and keep my home free of negative energies or entities.

You have gotten some great ideas on how to care for yourself from the replys. I love water, nature and animals. I am drawn to them. I have to be able to see trees and walk barefoot to touch the earth.

Also, part of the funk may be where you are working. You are bound to take on emotions. I would think at times it is really sad. You can only do so much. That can be hard to accept.

Again, thank you for being THAT person.

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