Re-grounding When You Can't Remove the Issue
This is my first post -thank you for adding me to the community! I wanted to approach this group about ways to empower and begin re-strengthening myself after lots of bad energy life-experiences. Right now I am determining which things bring negativity, which things chip away confidence, and which things induce anxiety -and most importantly what can I do about it
My question is how to start re-grounding when you can't fix the number one thing causing your issue? I am in a bad living situation and I know many of my issues are rooted in this, but I can't leave until Aug. I elaborate my current situation below -names changed.
Last year I lived with Ann who had been abused, was bipolar, and I reminded her of the abuser. I lived in an environment filled with hostility, passive aggressive actions, lacking communication, and in fear (not used lightly) for three months in which Ann was verbally and spatially abusive toward me. Eventually I got the police involved and moved out secretly.
I am now living with Jill who has similar behaviors. She is unable to communicate with me directly--we talked recently two hours by FB message in separate rooms--and instead "drops hints". The other night she exploded regarding months' worth of anger and has since focused lots of negative (hateful/aggressive) emotions onto me. Recently I have this irrational fear about going home; I have to remind myself that just because when Ann's emotions felt this way and she attacked me doesn't mean Jill's similarly feeling emotions imply the same.
I am moving out but have to live with Jill for another four months. My question is how to let my energy remain pure (i.e. my own, without the fear, negativity, or depression) in the presence of Jill's very erratic negativity, anger, frustration directed at her universe and now me? I have begun reading through some discussions here already (trying EFT now -I liked the Safe video because it helped me feel back in control. I am realizing my fear is due to a loss of control--safety/security--feeling with so many strong negative emotions through me).
Do any of you have similar experiences or any advice on how to start re-grounding when you can't fix the number one thing--immediately--causing your issue?
Thanks everyone! I look forward to talking to you
updated by @umar: 02/13/17 02:44:21AM