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Umar
@umar
04/13/15 06:27:27PM
72 posts



I am in nearly an identical situation and was in another, worse one before this. I posted recently and maybe reading that post will help you as well. I am very happy to hear you have such a great outcome so quickly! Congratulations to you!

There is some information on forming boundaries in the survival guide that may help with the new roommate! All I can say is simply be totally open and honest with the new person: if you are busy apologize and tell her, or maybe say I can talk until 5:00 but then I need to leave. I find the issues arise when people simply don't tell one another what's going on :)

Umar
@umar
04/13/15 05:30:20PM
72 posts



I sincerely hope things get worked out for you. <3


updated by @umar: 01/20/17 06:48:52PM
Umar
@umar
04/13/15 04:27:39PM
72 posts

Re-grounding When You Can't Remove the Issue


Empath

I would like to thank you all for replying. Today was a very bad day regarding this issue. I would like to recenter a little before I read the responses, but I want you all to know how much I appreciate them <3

Umar
@umar
04/13/15 04:23:29PM
72 posts

A little area of positive:


Empath

As empaths we feel and experience so many horrible things; I would like to open a thread for a place to share peace, love, blessings, prayer or just happiness -no need to be super empath focused. So that in times of hardship, perhaps we can come here and mediate on the love of others. If this is too off topic I apologize (new here :), so please feel free to delete.

I'll start :)

I love this photo! It shows two animals working together, sharing, and seeming to enjoy one another's company. What could be a better message than that :D

Photo by:

http://img.thrfun.com/img/002/975/dogs_working_together_s.jpg


updated by @umar: 04/05/17 10:52:50PM
Umar
@umar
04/13/15 04:13:14PM
72 posts



Thank you for sharing this story. I am crying, as I am currently in a terrible living situation and fighting hard to get free. You have no idea how much I needed this, at this exact moment, thank you <3


updated by @umar: 04/01/17 03:57:40AM
Umar
@umar
04/12/15 07:53:26PM
72 posts

Re-grounding When You Can't Remove the Issue


Empath

Thank you, Emmy. I have looked into using shielding techniques more -never needed them this much. I took your advice and looked some more into the survival guide, started using EFT, and yoga (which I use to try and shower-off the day or filter). I haven't heard of I Dolores Cannons before, so that will be my next stop along with your meditation post. I am new here and forget there are subgroups! I really appreciate your response! Take care and have a lovely week <3

Umar
@umar
04/12/15 01:12:31PM
72 posts

Re-grounding When You Can't Remove the Issue


Empath

Hi everyone, I would like to reopen this issue. The situation has escalated and support from people who understand my unique situation as an empath would be very appreciated. Thank you <3

Umar
@umar
04/09/15 06:57:54AM
72 posts

Feeling someone else's exhaustion


Empath

Hi Emmy, I noticed it happening to me again today -I wasn't so tired until I was surrounded by a bunch of stressed exhausted people again. Yesterday I read a comment in these forums about refocusing on your own energy. I tried that today and it worked: just a quick recentering by refocusing on my own energy signature. I guess it is kind of like you said -just a tiny meditation :) And I totally agree about the showering; I shower at night as a feel to kinda "cleanse" sort of like you said. I like how you think about the processes; thanks for sharing!

This all really caught me off guard because I am usually in such better control of the push and pull of energy through my body. :/

Hi Trevor, thank you for the reply! I am replying during a quick break now, but will definitely check out this link when more time is available. :)

Have a lovely day to both of you!

Umar
@umar
04/08/15 05:32:49PM
72 posts

Feeling someone else's exhaustion


Empath

Hi everyone,

Can any of you feel exhaustion as if it were stress, anger, or any other emotion?

I am constantly surrounded by people who are exhausted by life. A few times I have asked friends if they were okay because they seemed sad, and they usually reply, "I am just tired." Then it finally dawned on me how terrible I am at not pulling in and drowning in other people's exhaustion: I will be having a peachy ol' day and suddenly I can barely focus, I lose all motivation, and I feel a compelling negativity. This doesn't happen for me with any other emotion.

Does anyone else experience this?


updated by @umar: 01/12/17 06:49:17AM
Umar
@umar
04/08/15 05:26:39PM
72 posts

the past is haunting me


Empath

(I don't have time to read this thread now, but want to follow :) so posting to make sure it's saved.)

Umar
@umar
03/29/15 06:01:36PM
72 posts



You aren't alone at all :D

Also you could consider what I've done: be super open with people about how you experience the world. I am now, and it has tightened friendships and helped people understand me. One of my guy friends knows, and once an event really affected me... when I talked to him, he related to me and gave advice pretty much being like "dude, you're an empath; I totally get why you "over reacted". It's cool; it's why you have so many great relationships; it's what makes you well, you". If your friends/family get to talk about going to church or temple, then you should be able to talk about your spirituality imo, and if someone doesn't like it, thinks you're weird, etc, then sadly they don't like you, and well "ain't nobody got time for that!" <3

Umar
@umar
03/29/15 05:52:26PM
72 posts



Hi Storm09, I think a big part of it may be not realizing how much you do notice that you (we) think everyone else just does. You may also be very good at keeping it tuned down. When I have gone through some terrible experiences, all my senses get heightened including my empath-ness for a while after. You may be lucky enough to be living in a calm, loving environment away from "all the crazies" I sometimes feel lol If you want to "get better at it" for lack of a more appropriate expression, maybe try experimenting with different types of meditation, aroma therapy, massage, prayer/speaking with angels... whatever helps you connect and have energy flow through you. I assume we all tap in differently, so you just gotta find what is the best method for you to become more energy/spiritually aware. :) Key: don't think about it: let it come. You probably don't think about seeing or listening better, you just do; empath-ness is the same way. Good luck!


updated by @umar: 10/28/17 08:46:28PM
Umar
@umar
03/28/15 02:55:04PM
72 posts

Scare and confused


Empath

I totally agree. We've been this way our whole lives (most of us): nothing has changed other than getting a label for it. For people struggling, I kinda think of it like you could always see but you may have needed glasses to see better: after getting glasses you can see better, don't have head aches... getting a pair of glasses isn't a huge deal, and neither is exploring being an empath, but both can probably change your life quite a bit. :)

Umar
@umar
03/28/15 02:50:53PM
72 posts

Scare and confused


Empath

My empathy (and psychic-talents) have lead me to be very spiritual. I have many friends who are religious and attend church/temple, and sometimes I am jealous of their "church family" relationships and support. Joining this community has given me some of that same feeling; I hope you start to feel this way, too :)

Now I am focusing on figuring what I CAN control in my life (99% of the time not gonna be other people) and am starting to make those changes. I posted a long story about it here last week... I don't know how to link to it, but maybe if you find that, some of my positive outlook in a negative situation can help feed into you?? :)

Umar
@umar
03/28/15 02:43:52PM
72 posts



I think if we do look at the more negative side as well, feeling other's pain, frustration, irritation, and upset is also something I find beneficial: it helps me read people faster, plan my return actions accordingly, and focus on relating to people better. I cannot imagine not being able to read people! It would be like having a difficult conversation with someone and not being able to see his/her facial expressions -the more I can relate to and understand someone the more at peace I feel.

Umar
@umar
03/28/15 02:23:09PM
72 posts



I love being an empath because I can feel the love and happiness of others. Many empaths focus on the pain and need to help other people -I just love to sit and bask in the beauty that is someone else's love, joy, happiness, and successes. I can see, hear, smell, touch, taste, and literally feel my environment. I cannot imagine giving up any of my senses!


updated by @umar: 10/23/17 02:27:03PM
Umar
@umar
03/25/15 09:17:46PM
72 posts

Scare and confused


Empath

That is really beautiful. I am very happy you found a way to reflect and move through a lot of these things after last night :)

Umar
@umar
03/25/15 06:37:01PM
72 posts

Scare and confused


Empath

Welcome :) I just joined this group yesterday, but I have known I was am empath since I was a small child. I would say just let it come: allow yourself to be open to this gift: I see being an empath as having any other sense, and there are so many things to "see and hear" with it. Give yourself the freedom to explore, and if you have any questions about a particular thing, just voice them <3

Umar
@umar
03/24/15 08:39:07PM
72 posts



It does bother me -especially because I know they are lying but don't always understand why they choose to lie.

As I have gotten older though, I have grown to thank them for showing their true-selves: helped me know not to trust them, to avoid them, or overall other means of protecting myself -sometimes I am thankful that my own personal unpleasant feelings about them have been confirmed . Many people in my recent experience lie because they feel a need to protect themselves, and that just makes me feel sorry for them.

Umar
@umar
03/24/15 08:16:03PM
72 posts



I also have this problem. I am not sure if it is because I am dyslexic or empathic, but I never named toys as a kid, etc and remembering people's names is very difficult. I remember a lot about how a person "feels" and I associate that feeling with a name-like thought; I used to do that with my toys, too.

Umar
@umar
03/24/15 08:12:54PM
72 posts



You mention you know it is going to start as soon as you get out of your car at home. My car is my safe place: a means of escape and a place of peace. If your car (or anywhere else) is your safe place go and allow that safety to consume you. Bring a coloring book, a tiny puzzle, music, whatever is your thing -and stay in that safe place until you feel whole again. Then, when you are out somewhere else and you start to feel this way, you know you can *always* go back to that safe place to recenter and find peace.

Please know, no matter where you are in the world, there is always someone to listen anytime of day. Here is the number for the U.S. national help-line1 (800) 273-8255. Someone would miss you in this world if you left; please stay with us.

Umar
@umar
03/24/15 08:02:53PM
72 posts

Re-grounding When You Can't Remove the Issue


Empath

Hi Everyone,

This is my first post -thank you for adding me to the community! I wanted to approach this group about ways to empower and begin re-strengthening myself after lots of bad energy life-experiences. Right now I am determining which things bring negativity, which things chip away confidence, and which things induce anxiety -and most importantly what can I do about it :)

My question is how to start re-grounding when you can't fix the number one thing causing your issue? I am in a bad living situation and I know many of my issues are rooted in this, but I can't leave until Aug. I elaborate my current situation below -names changed.

Last year I lived with Ann who had been abused, was bipolar, and I reminded her of the abuser. I lived in an environment filled with hostility, passive aggressive actions, lacking communication, and in fear (not used lightly) for three months in which Ann was verbally and spatially abusive toward me. Eventually I got the police involved and moved out secretly.

I am now living with Jill who has similar behaviors. She is unable to communicate with me directly--we talked recently two hours by FB message in separate rooms--and instead "drops hints". The other night she exploded regarding months' worth of anger and has since focused lots of negative (hateful/aggressive) emotions onto me. Recently I have this irrational fear about going home; I have to remind myself that just because when Ann's emotions felt this way and she attacked me doesn't mean Jill's similarly feeling emotions imply the same.

I am moving out but have to live with Jill for another four months. My question is how to let my energy remain pure (i.e. my own, without the fear, negativity, or depression) in the presence of Jill's very erratic negativity, anger, frustration directed at her universe and now me? I have begun reading through some discussions here already (trying EFT now -I liked the Safe video because it helped me feel back in control. I am realizing my fear is due to a loss of control--safety/security--feeling with so many strong negative emotions through me).

Do any of you have similar experiences or any advice on how to start re-grounding when you can't fix the number one thing--immediately--causing your issue?

Thanks everyone! I look forward to talking to you :)


updated by @umar: 02/13/17 02:44:21AM
 
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