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Lulip
@lulip
08/29/16 12:58:42AM
36 posts

The new empath guide, what might of helped me.


Empath

Wow! Thank you for sharing this with everyone. I actually found I related quite a bit and in all honesty, I felt quite inspired. I've never been able to see auras or given it much thought, but I will try tomorrow. I really agree with the thought that consciousness changes your reality. I've seen it happen quite a bit, and I'll try projecting next time I'm working towards something. Thank you again for your post, it definitely reached me. :)

Lulip
@lulip
04/28/16 12:01:31PM
36 posts

Im an empath


Empath

If you can't visualize things, try using words instead. For example, when you feel overwhelmed repeat to yourself, "These are not my emotions. I will not feel them." You don't have to use my exact words of course. You should find through trial and error what works best for you.

Good luck! :)

Lulip
@lulip
04/17/16 07:12:04PM
36 posts

When the life is a living hell


Empath

I usually just read posts, never bothering to reply. But I felt like I should, since I can relate to what you're feeling/felt. I too, am a vegan, and have felt, if only briefly, complete and utter social isolation.

I went through a period about two years ago in the summer when I was completely depressed and talked to no one. I understand what you mean when you say you feel like you've gotten colder and harder. I used to have mental breakdowns and I would just completely shut myself down. I would feel absolutely no emotion or show any emotion. It felt like I was just a void. I'm still not sure what exactly triggered that summer of complete misery, but it took over a year to recover from it. During the recovery period I still had "sociopathic moments" as I call them. Over time, I started to learn that they were more of a defense mechanism than anything. I would put my emotions out there, get hurt or feel threatened, and then I would withdraw into myself. It was a completely vicious cycle. I used to wish that I could feel nothing to numb whatever pain I was feeling. I've come to realize that this sociopathic state that I go into is more harmful than just feeling the emotions.

As for advice, it's hard to say what I did to get myself out of this prolonged emotional rut. I think it was a combination of moving houses, settling, and finally finding my place. By my place, I don't mean physical place. I mean mentally. And I know, this may sound extremely cliche but I have no other idea how to say this. I had to find myself and my purpose, and accept my situation and who I was. Before that, my mind was constantly in an emotional war that just got more and more damaging over time. I know how badly it sucks, and how life seems to be awful, but it gets a lot better. MUCH better. I can't even stress how important that is.

Based on what you've written, what's blocking you from being at peace is the social aspect of your past. I know that it seems so much easier just to block people out, and that being near people is too painful, but that is just because you believe it's painful. I've been there, done that, and it doesn't work. Humans are social animals and we're meant to be around others and be constantly socializing. I've noticed that a huge part of socializing is confidence. If you work on your mentality and building your confidence, trust me when I say making friends will be extremely easy. As an empath, we are able to read and understand people better, which is so crucial when it comes to social interactions. Just think about it this way: you have a natural advantage.

As for your families religious conflict with your sexuality, it can be tough for people to accept someone when they have such strong beliefs. But people can become accepting, it just takes time and effort on both sides.

I apologize if the reply is a bit long, and I hope this helps, even by a bit. :)

Lulip
@lulip
01/16/16 08:13:16PM
36 posts

Enegy flow


Empath

I've gotten random pains as long as I can remember. The "jabbing sensation" is something that I can relate to a lot - I usually get those randomly even when I'm not around people. Being able to separate your energy from someone else's is a matter of practice. With pain, however, I usually just ask myself, "is this my pain? Could it be someone else's? Does it make SENSE for this to be my pain right now?" If comes out of nowhere and you aren't dehydrated or have any other physical ailments then it's safe to assume that you're just picking up on someone else's pain. It can get annoying, and to block it out I usually just imagine walls of energy surrounding me.

Hope that helps! :)

Lulip
@lulip
11/17/15 11:36:39AM
36 posts

My head hurts


Empath

Well, I can stop using my ability. But blocking out the pain doesn't really work, because I think it's a side affect of over-using my ability. Kind of like tearing a muscle when you're trying too hard.

Lulip
@lulip
11/17/15 08:07:44AM
36 posts

My head hurts


Empath

No - for me it's just as involuntary as picking up peoples emotions. It usually doesn't last very long though.

Lulip
@lulip
11/15/15 09:06:09PM
36 posts

My head hurts


Empath

I've noticed that I get sharp spikes of pain too - in fact I was going to post about it. For me, it usually happens when I am consciously using my ability.

Lulip
@lulip
11/08/15 09:06:10PM
36 posts

How do you deal with just about everyone NEEDING you all the time?


Empath

Have you ever thought of talking to one of your old friends about why you stopped talking/interacting? Or even tuning into them and looking for the answer that way? It might seem weird, but you might be surprised by the responses you get. Maybe something happened that you didn't realize and could be affecting all your friendships.

Lulip
@lulip
11/07/15 09:10:31PM
36 posts

How do you deal with just about everyone NEEDING you all the time?


Empath

I understand how it feels to be let down by people over and over again, but withdrawing socially isn't good either. Maybe you are/were looking for friends in the wrong places; where no one had anything in common with you, and you just couldn't connect well.

As for projecting negative energy, maybe it's the mentality you go around with? I used to be extremely anti-social and introverted before I knew I was an empath, and went around telling myself I had no intention of making friends, because I "hated" people. And because of this, I noticed people tended to shy away from me. A few years later and awakened, however, plenty of people go out of their way to talk to me and it usually always ends in them asking for some sort of advice.

Lulip
@lulip
11/07/15 08:28:02PM
36 posts

How do you deal with just about everyone NEEDING you all the time?


Empath

It can get really draining when everyone is nagging at you for a conversation, advice, company, etc. As much as it makes you feel good helping people, you are not obligated to. You have the right to step back and put yourself before others. There is nothing wrong about doing so, and is necessary for your own mental health.

As for friends/people growing cold, I don't know your situation so I can't say. My best guess is that you might be pushing them away without meaning to, projecting negative energy because you feel so drained and unhappy.

I would try making a new group of friends. Some people are so drawn by empaths, they befriend you simply for that, and don't take your similarities, interests, and personality into consideration, which ends in a bad friendship.

Lulip
@lulip
11/07/15 05:23:40PM
36 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

Well... you did ask.

What kind of "backing evidence" do you want?

Lulip
@lulip
11/07/15 12:14:52PM
36 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

I meant that I live in Canada, and have detected emotions from Brazil/Australia.

It was through 2 online friends. When I sensed sensed emotions from Brazil, I had been asleep and then jolted awake with a feeling of urgency. I checked my messages and found that the friend from Brazil had been spamming me about something. It couldn't have been a notification sound that woke me up, because it was on my computer which was off at the time, and my computer had headphones plugged in.

For Australia, I had been talking to my friend over skype for a bit (just typing). My stomach started to hurt a lot for no reason, and a bit later my friend confessed she had a horrible stomach ache from something she ate.

Lulip
@lulip
11/06/15 10:32:16PM
36 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

It seems like a very plausible theory. However, what do you mean by an unbalanced INFJ is a psychopath? From what I understand, psychopaths lack the ability to feel any sympathy/empathy for other people, basically making them the opposite of empaths. Would this mean that psychopaths would be able to find balance again, and become an empath? I've never heard of a psychopath changing. Unless you mean the INFJ personality gives a person the probability of being either an empath or a psychopath, which seems to me like a certain area of the brain would either be inactive, (psychopath) or extremely active (empath).

If that was the case, then to find the scientific explanation for empaths, it would simply be the opposite of a psychopath, where studies have already been done and the results are public.

But that's just another theory too. What do you think?

Lulip
@lulip
11/06/15 08:40:38PM
36 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

I feel like it must be a mix of the categories, and that it probably varies for each person. Simply because, something as complex as an empaths abilities must have many different factors. And I can agree with the distance part, as I have picked up VERY strong emotions from as far away as Canada to Brazil, and Australia.

Lulip
@lulip
11/03/15 07:36:24PM
36 posts

Traps of the online environment


Empath

I had played an online game with friends I made when I was around 9, until I was 14. (which I am now.) I recently stopped playing often because of school, and I lost interest in the game. There were times when I was younger, (ages 6 to 8) that I would really love video games. They were completely fascinating to me, and I believe I formed many addictions even at such young ages. However, I grew out of those. And I don't think that those addictions were the type people would form while trying to escape reality. I watched a video on addiction a few days ago, and I think you might be interested:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8L-0nSYzg

As stated in the video, addiction stems out of mostly other problems. Based on what you've wrote, I would guess that if that was your case, it would be your abilities that were your "problem", which could be fixed with practice. (basically blocking out negativity)

But it isn't always the "problem addiction." And if you're having issues while trying to quit, going "cold turkey" is never pleasant. I would recommend not quitting completely at first, but slowly adding more balance to your life. For example, making yourself do your homework before you're allowed to open your computer. Maybe try setting time limits for yourself. Surround yourself with friends and family, things that make you happy. That might help separating yourself from the game. If it's a browser game, I think there's some app for chrome that you can install. You can set certain time limits for sites and after the time limit is up, it will kick you off.

Hope that helps!

Lulip
@lulip
11/02/15 07:09:36PM
36 posts

Encountering resistance when trying to help people


Empath

They could just be scared. Most people will get kind of freaked out if they encounter someone who knows how they're feeling, and can tell if they're lying. On quite a few occasions I have asked a friend, "Hey, you okay?" and their face lights up with surprise and then confusion as to how I would know such a thing. One of my teachers even seems to shy away from me out of nervousness, which is really strange considering it's a full grown adult intimidated by a 14 year-old'spresence. There isn't much you can do, other than projecting positive energy around you and being nice.

But, all people are different. If you're finding it hard to help someone, try first getting to know them really well and have them comfortable around you. They should have an easier time opening up and not getting freaked out.

Lulip
@lulip
11/02/15 06:54:25PM
36 posts

Dealing with anger


Empath

I'm not sure exactly what they feel when I deflect their emotions, (since I'm trying to block it out) but from the reactions I've gotten, it sometimes intensifies the emotions, sometimes it doesn't. I figure that since they're already feeling it, it won't affect them all that much. If you're talking about absorbing emotions, however, I would think that they'd feel a moment of calm before the emotion was sent back to them.

Lulip
@lulip
11/02/15 06:29:16PM
36 posts

Dealing with anger


Empath

It's kind of hard to explain, as it's a feeling for me.

For me, deflecting emotions is like mentally putting up a wall so peoples emotions can't (or can barely) get to me. If you want to try it, I would recommend visualizing a bubble around yourself.

Lulip
@lulip
11/02/15 06:02:48PM
36 posts

Dealing with anger


Empath

For me, anger is probably the most annoying emotion to deal with.

I usually just flush out any feelings I get with other positive energy, or just try and tune out of the situation. If you feel like people are looking down on you, then personally I wouldn't hang around them. I've noticed that if I don't care about the situation, then any negative emotions going around don't really bother me. If you can't avoid contact with these kind of people, I would recommend trying to deflect the emotions and send it back to them.

Lulip
@lulip
10/29/15 09:26:19PM
36 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

Welcome!

I can relate to jolting awake with a feeling of urgency, or that something is "wrong." This has happened to me once before with an online friend, where I then discovered dozens of messages after I woke up. I've never dealt with suicides, although I've been around plenty of depressed people, and I know when something's off about them. I don't have as many experiences, because I'm quite a deal younger than most people here.

As for a scientific explanation, I have none. I do believe, however, that EVERYTHING can be explained with science, even if that's to happen in the near future. Right now, anything "psychic" seems to be taboo basically everywhere, since the majority of the population doesn't posess such "abilities."

And don't blame yourself for the suicides. You were unaware of the situation at the time, and even if you did get through to your friends you may not have been able to stop them. You aren't responsible for other people, and you should DEFINITELY not be hard on yourself about that. Instead, use your new awareness to help/prevent future incidents.

As for tips, I would recommend just experimenting with your abilities. It can be a great tool.

Lulip
@lulip
10/29/15 04:17:15PM
36 posts

Projection


Empath

I tried this today, and just wow.

I found it to be extremely effective and beneficial - to others and me.

Thank you so much for linking that.

Lulip
@lulip
10/29/15 04:15:17PM
36 posts

Do empath abilities get stronger with age?


Empath

I'm 14 too, and I realized my abilities around the same time.

Lulip
@lulip
10/28/15 07:15:50PM
36 posts

Projection


Empath

I've read about projection in the past, and from what I've read it's where an empath can influence/change someones thoughts/emotions.

Lately, my mother has been very stressed out and I do my best to talk to her and make her feel better, but I'd like to take it a step further and literally remove as much of the stress as I can.

So my question is: How do you use projection? Are there any specific techniques/tips? I don't want to accidentally project a negative emotion.
(this wouldn't be something I'd be doing over and over, the stress should be temporary but I'd like to help in the meantime)

Thank you!


updated by @lulip: 01/09/17 03:31:38PM
Lulip
@lulip
10/28/15 06:37:37PM
36 posts

Empaths: When Faced with Conflict, how do you deal?


Empath

My ability to deal with conflict peaked when I went through a very stressful situation at the age of 12 (I almost lost a family member). After that, my ability to stay calm under ANY sort of stressful situation was a lot greater. So yes, I would say that's similar to practicing. It's all about getting your own emotions under control.

As for actual conflict, I try to avoid it. If that isn't possible, then I will stay calm and procede from there. I think your "blackout" feeling is the overwhelming emotions that you are picking up. If it gets to that point, I would recommend leaving the room. Passing out can be dangerous, especially if you hit your head.

I've realized that visualization is a powerful tool when it comes to being an empath. (at least for me) You can come up with your own technique that suits you and your abilities.

Lulip
@lulip
10/28/15 06:14:52PM
36 posts

Empaths: When Faced with Conflict, how do you deal?


Empath

It's challenging facing conflict when you are an empath, especially when you are unexperienced. This is due to the fact that you could be picking up the other persons anger, and having it mix with your own, which doesn't help.

I'd say I deal with conflict fairly well. I don't allow another persons anger to get to me, while at the same time saying calm about the situation.

I would recommend practicing breathing techniques, and if you do find yourself in a situation where you are faced with conflict, I would advise you mentally take a step back and evaluate the situation, before going calmly about resolving it. A trick I like to use is to imagine blue energy swirling around me in a bubble, where all noises sound distant. It gives me a kind of calm-watery feeling.

Let me know if that helps!

Lulip
@lulip
10/25/15 04:53:48PM
36 posts

Do empath abilities get stronger with age?


Empath

To what shannon asked:

I can pick up emotions, (close range or long distance) feel peoples pain, sometimes pick up thoughts(sometimes flashes of images) , and can see glimpses of someones past if I'm curious enough.

Lulip
@lulip
10/25/15 04:49:33PM
36 posts

Do empath abilities get stronger with age?


Empath

Ah, that makes sense. Thanks for the reply!

Lulip
@lulip
10/25/15 03:54:38PM
36 posts

Do empath abilities get stronger with age?


Empath

So this is a question for the adult/young adult empaths who realized their abilities at a young age.

Do your empath abilities get stronger as you get older, if so, is it the practice that makes them stronger?

Thanks!

-lulip <3


updated by @lulip: 04/14/17 01:03:24AM
Lulip
@lulip
10/24/15 11:04:45AM
36 posts

this is my ability


Empath

It used to be harder to do it in real life, because I didn't practice much because of the fear of getting overwhelemed. I can do it fairly well now, just by looking at someones face I can usually get more information than emotions, kind of like mind reading. For example, I can tell if someone has financial stress. It just kind of pops up as a voice making a statement in my head.

I used to get crazy information too, because I was opening my mind to literally everyone around me, and I would get headaches and shut down. What I do is visualize the sparkling field of energy around me reaching out to someone, and some of their own energy being pulled back towards me, and then I can tell what they're feeling.

I noticed that "focusing" may be a more powerful way of reaching out to someone, (that's why I use it over long-distance.) "Focusing" also drains my energy and I get really cold fast. What do you think?

Let me know if that works for you!

Lulip
@lulip
10/21/15 06:42:59PM
36 posts

this is my ability


Empath

I can really relate to your abilities and experiences, as I too play tons of online games, and have made long-term online friends. My abilities seem to work kind of likes yours in the sense that you have to "focus" on a person, and then you can feel their mood, thoughts, memories, etc.

Lulip
@lulip
09/02/15 01:34:47AM
36 posts

Is being an empath genetic?


Empath

I have known I was an empath for a bit over a year now, but in that time I haven't really noticed if any of my family members or relatives have empathic traits that could make them an empath. So my question is, is being an empath genetic? Is it random? A mix?

All replies are appreciated! <3


updated by @lulip: 07/16/17 01:02:19AM
Lulip
@lulip
08/27/15 03:57:10PM
36 posts

Questions about spiritual connections


Empath

Thanks, this helped a lot!

Lulip
@lulip
08/27/15 03:07:20PM
36 posts

Questions about spiritual connections


Empath

So a while back, I started a thread and one of the replies were something about spiritual connections. I bring this up now because I have a few questions for the more experienced empaths here.

What exactly is a spiritual connection, and does the other person feel it as well? You see, I've really liked, well loved really, this person for about one and a half years now. We get along really well and have never been in an argument. Lately I've had dreams and in the dreams I'd always hear them talking about something they were going to do, then later when I woke up they'd actually do it.

So it's obvious to me that I'm connected to them... but I was wondering if they feel anything when talking to me. And by "feeling" I mean a connection, not anything romantic. Or is that just an empath thing? Has this ever happened to one of you?

Thanks! <3


updated by @lulip: 01/18/17 10:02:18AM
Lulip
@lulip
06/27/15 12:14:21AM
36 posts



In the past, the best way I've dealt with this is to ask myself "Is this my emotion? Is there a reason I am feeling this way? Or is it not my emotion? Could it be someone elses?" Just thinking this helps me pinpoint whether or not it's mine. For example, if you suddenly feel extremely sad but all you're doing is eating dinner or walking your dog, it's probably not your emotion. I found that once you realize an emotion isn't yours, it's generally a lot easier to supress.

Hope this helped!

-Lulip


updated by @lulip: 10/23/17 01:38:35PM
Lulip
@lulip
06/26/15 02:00:18AM
36 posts



I've experienced a similar situation where I've felt the emotions of someone very close to me who is depressed. I know it's not easy, and it won't last forever. Just do you best to help them get through it.

Some things I do if I'm feeling overwhelmed is meditate. Just sit there, clear your mind, and focus on yourself. While I've never successfully blocked all emotions fully, focusing on yourself does help a lot and would be useful in that situation. Another technique I use is visualizing the negative energy in myself. I then put my hands on a wall or something and imagine that negative energy flowing out of me. But we all have our own methods that work for us.

I hope this helped, and I wish you and your best friend well!

- Lulip


updated by @lulip: 10/24/17 05:24:22AM
Lulip
@lulip
03/23/15 04:32:01PM
36 posts

The "Heart Field"


Empath

So, I've been thinking about this whole empath thing. And as a naturally curious person, I tried to do some research to figure out the science behind it all. I stumbled across this:
link
If this theory with the heart field is true, then I have a few questions.
First of all, as much as it makes sense, the field could only go so far. If this is true, then why can I tune into peoples emotions/pains from thousands of miles away? Wouldn't the field have to extend over that distance... and even if it did, wouldn't it pick up the feelings of everyone along the way, making the whole experience chaotic? Or perhaps the field is selective and only reaches out to the individual on mind.
Is there another explanation, or perhaps this one is flawed/not looked into enough. Or maybe it's a different ability that I have even though it seems identical to my empathic abilities? Maybe they work in sync?
What are your thoughts?


updated by @lulip: 01/10/17 08:38:01PM
Lulip
@lulip
03/20/15 03:42:46PM
36 posts

Hello!


Empath

Hello everyone, I found this website yesterday and registered as soon as possible. I thought I'd introduce myself, since I think I'll be spending a lot of time on here.
I am 13, almost 14. I've chosen not to disclose my name because I'd rather not have any of my real life friends stumble onto my profile, and read what I've posted, because I'm still struggling with being an Empath and I'm not sure I've found anyone who I'm comfortable with talking to about it.
I found out I was an empath, or at least, that I had empath abilities when I was talking to an online friend. We were having a conversation and I remember finishing his sentences, or just knowing what he was going to say. Around that time, he was going through some things in his life and I remember one morning jolting awake thinking, "something's wrong", and just a generalized feeling of urgency. When I checked my messages, that friend had been panicking and trying to contact me.
At first I thought we just had a special connection, and I still had never heard of the term "empath." I told them about it, and they were very accepting.
A few weeks later, I was talking to another online friend. At that time I was so deep in conversation I realized that my stomach was aching. It wasn't really pain like a normal stomach ache, but I could feel it and it didn't feel right. I had no reason to have a stomach ache, since I was not sick or hungry. A few minutes later in the conversation, she told me she hadn't eaten for hours and that her stomach was hurting. I was surprised and confused and told her about it. She said she had experienced the same kind of thing before, feeling someone elses pain.
A while after that, I messed around with my abilities a bit. I would try and concentrate on people and see if I could feel what they were feeling, and it worked a lot of the time. Even if the other person was hundreds of miles away from me, I could feel their pain and their emotions.
At this point I was around twelve and a half. I stumbled into something when I was googling about "feeling others emotions and pain". I read about empaths and thought, "Oh that's cool. I'm an empath." I didn't give much thought into it until a little bit later.
Around the time when I had just turned 13, I went to an aquarium and of course, had opened my mind in a way. I wasn't experienced at all, and the next two hours were devastating. I had something close to a migraine headache, I couldn't concentrate, and I was extremely irritable. My mom didn't understand what was going on, and I didn't understand how to stop picking up on what people were feeling. When I got home things were better, and I shut myself in my room until the next day.
For a while since then, I haven't tried to use my empath abilities much, besides to try and help a friend who was dealing with depression by empathizing with her. I only started researching again recently because of an incident where my brother became extremely aggravated, where I then became aggravated until I realized it was not my anger that I was feeling. I have already learned a lot in the last two days. I can't wait to get my abilities under control, and I'm looking at my situation more posotively.
I look forward to talking to you guys!
- Lulip


updated by @lulip: 02/13/17 10:17:59PM