Forum Activity for @who-am-i

who_am_I
@who-am-i
09/05/16 11:51:13AM
27 posts

Dating


Empath

Dear TigerLily,

I know exactly how you feel. None of my friends ever understood me either. Now they just except it. All my friends would have one boyfriend after another. And I would have none. They would say that I was too picky. But how can you be with someone when everything inside is screaming " he isnt right for you"? They could never understand how I could know if they were right for me or not. And honestly I couldnt either. Sometimes I would feel that a certain person can help me get though something and I could help him. That this relationship was temporary but helpful. I used to hate that I was so " picky" but now I accept it. Its a part of me, and i am glad that I have this gift if you want to call it that, because it saves me and the other person a lot of pain and time. It isnt something that you can change or turn off, try to accept and use it for good.


As for your relationship right now.

As empaths, we feel more deeply. That is why the excitement is so hard to tame. Its like you know that what you have with him on some level is " right". You can feel it. You may not know it but your not as scared to reach to him, give yourself to him. But he is. He is scared. He doesnt feel as deeply as you do, he doesnt have that " it feels right feeling". You have to be patient with him. Remember that he does not feel at the same depth as you do. But that does NOT mean that he does not feel the same way about you. It will just take him a bit longer to get there, to let himself feel so deeply.

You see maybe im wrong, but loooking around we as empaths dont have a choice how much we feel and what we feel. We feel everything deeply to the core of our bones. Other people do have a choice. They guard themselves from that depth until they are sure of their feelings and that the pain that might come after is worth it.

Try taking things slow. Get to know each other. Try to tame those feelings so you dont scare him off or send him wrong signals but dont hide them.

If you ever want to talk, messege me!

who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/16/16 06:07:27AM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

I will try it, thank you:)
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/16/16 05:58:39AM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Thank you Karen, I cannot express to you how much this means to me. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. What big thing is coming for me? They are waiting for what?

who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/16/16 05:55:53AM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Hey Reckless,

You are right. I am looking for conformation and that is my greatest flaw. I cant move on with something or develop something further if it is not first conformed which pulls me back and keeps me from going forward.

I am always around my family, and if im not im stuck in my house most of the time and I can still feel their energies in the walls. Just like in people, I can feel energies of animals, plants, rocks, walls, houses, personal items of others. It overwhelms and I guess thats why I can never find the energy to do anything about it, because I can never find peace. But I will try to get away as much as I can.

I do care for my loved ones a lot. And yes hurting them is unimaginable to me. The thought of hurting them even if its for my own good hurts me. And I cant do it.

Deja-vus have been with me since I can remember. Sometimes I even think that Ive dreamed of this exact moment months ago and now it is happening. It always scared me, because how can you dream of something that hasnt happened yet?

What do you mean I am the light? I have heard it from others a few times.

You know I dont think there is a way to stop doubting ourselves. Doubt creates a curiosity in our minds that makes us go out in the world and find some sort of conformation or explanation and in that search we find things that we never thought we would. I think doubt will always be a part of us. You just have to learn to trust yourself.

who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 08:54:17PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Thank you for sharing your story with me and taking the time to reply to me. It really helped me be more open to myself, so thank you!!!
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 08:42:08PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Are you saying that in general? Because I know that we all have spirit guides. Or are you actually talking about my spirit guides? I'm sorry that I have to ask it's just like I said before I'm always second guessing Khaled and I need to know things for sure to accept them..
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 08:36:55PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

You just suddently started to hear voices out of nowhere?
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 08:26:53PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

I'm the same way I need to know everything.. But I second guess myself all the time. I don't believe it, kind of like who amI to experience such a thing. Even when I found out I was an empath it took me months to really accept the fact that I am an empath. What do you mean my aura shines brightly?
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 08:23:50PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

What do you mean it was a boom?I take sleeping pills sometimes too if I really need it. I even sleep with headphones because my brain never stops thinking and keeps me awake and if I have s show playing that I've seen before I listen to what they say and fall asleep to their voices.
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 07:53:09PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Karen,I'm not sure if they are exactly voices. More like a buzzing in my head. Like there is a whole different world going on in my head. I can't make out exactly voices or words. I just don't know how to explain it any other way. Sometimes I think it might all the emotional energy I'm picking up and I can " hear" everyone that I'm picking up. And other times I feel like it's the place where all the souls are that I'm " hearing". Like heaven. All I know for sure is that its exhausting. My brain never rests. It's all filled with this "stuff" and I barely have any room for anything else. Even when I sleep my brain doesn't fully rest. Only once every few weeks to a few months that I will get a goods night sleep and wake up refreshed in the morning but by noon I'm exhausted again. I don't know if it's clayoraudiece.. I've always felt like clairoaudience was hearing voices from one person or atleast the voices being like voices and not this buzzing... But maybe you are right, maybe it's a gift opening up. I will try to keep an open mind. Thank you.
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 07:28:52PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Karen,For me looking out is not looking out to the world, but more like looking inside me around. And the voices aren't exactly voices. It's very hard to explain and I don't think it's clayoraudiente.Thank you for your reply. And you are right I need to take the word cant put of my vocabulary.
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 05:16:52AM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

Reckless,I have always felt like if I did get away I would be happier. That I would find myself again and no matter what I would be able to deal with things. If you dont mind me asking, how did you get away? How long did it take you?You said " you should be able to regenerate your own new energy infinitely....."That's one of my biggest problems. I can't. I hear all these "voices" in my head. It's like you said they blind you. Whenever I look out all I see is darkness all around me.
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/15/16 05:11:43AM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

A big thank you to all that replied! It means a lot to me and helps to read others stories.
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/14/16 05:22:58PM
27 posts

Im in overdrive, and I cant stop it. Any advice?


Empath

I remember the first time I "read" a person as an empath. I was probably 5 or 6. At the time, I didnt know what was happening to me. Looking back it set off a chain of events that would lead me to where I am now.

When I was 10 years old I moved here to the US. Feeling all the pain and frustration of my parents and everyone else around me, I wanted to do anything in my power to make their life just a bit easier. Little did I know that later it would break me. For over a decade, I gave my closest people a piece of me each day. I put myself out their for them forgetting completely about myself. All I wanted was to help them. And when I felt overwhelmed I would tell myself that one day it will all change and I will finally live my own life. 12 years later and I am still here. The only difference is that I cannot no longer help the ones in need, because I am so broken myself. I didnt know what I was doing. I didnt know I was an empath until recently.

But I feel like I found out too late. I feel like I am completely open to everything and everyone. Like a antenna that picks up every single channel. And I dont know how to turn it off. I dont have enough energy to do anything about it. And all those people that I tried to help? dont understand me. I feel so alone all the time.

I feel so broken. It broke me completely and the worst part is that I cant put myself together here. I need to go away, to be alone and finally find myself. But I cant go away. Im stuck here. Its getting so bad that Im starting to feel the pain physically. But I cant find any energy to do anything about it. I dont know how to turn it off. Its like my nervous system is in over drive and the lever to turn it down or off is broken.

Anyone have any advice?


updated by @who-am-i: 01/10/17 01:02:02AM
who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/03/16 05:25:30PM
27 posts

More of a curse then a gift. Any advice?


Empath

Thanks Trevor for your reply. I will definitely try out those techniques

who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/03/16 05:24:34PM
27 posts

More of a curse then a gift. Any advice?


Empath

Thank you Kit Kat for your reply! It gave me a peace of mind:)

who_am_I
@who-am-i
02/01/16 04:36:09PM
27 posts

More of a curse then a gift. Any advice?


Empath

Everything you read about empaths always says being an empath is a gift and a curse.

To me its more of a curse than a gift.

I only found out that I was an empath a few months ago, but looking back I feel like it has affected my life since childhood. I have this thing about me that I have to help everyone. I need to help everyone. And in doing so, I lost myself, completely. I am so tired and broken from everything that I can no longer help anyone. I just feel everyones pain. Its like its screaming inside my head. I feel like I am connected to every single person around me. Some more then others. Its like where ever I go I connect to people, like this line reaches from me to them and I take in everything without meaning too. All of the feelings have accumulated to the point that i cant function properly. It feels like they are screaming inside in my head and when they arent I can feel their suffering behind everything. Every where I look I only see pain. I look into somebodys eyes, I dont see their happiness, I only see pain. There is so much pain. All around us. I cant take it anymore. I need this to stop. I need to get my life back.

Im so tired and broken. I cant stop from feeling what everyone else is feeling. I dont have enough energy to do anything about it. I know that there are exercises that help you "dial" down the connections and etc. but I just dont have enough energy to do them. The screaming in my head over powers everything.

I wish there was some cleansing I could do. To start fresh.


updated by @who-am-i: 01/21/17 07:54:54AM
who_am_I
@who-am-i
01/30/16 09:35:28AM
27 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Hey Kera,

I can relate to every single word you wrote in your post. I am 19 years old and I feel the exact same way you do. Add me as a friend, I send you a friend request. Maybe we can chat and help each other out. Its not often you find someone that relates to you so closely, I would really like to talk.

who_am_I
@who-am-i
12/28/15 09:49:06AM
27 posts

Looking for that connection in someone?


Empath

Thank you Briget for your reply!I am the opposite. I put myself out there for everyone. I tend to listen to everyone's problems and try to help out. I compel fly understand why you try to keep away. I wish I had the strength to do the same. Sprinted I feel so overwhelmed by all the energy that I barely know what to do with myself.
who_am_I
@who-am-i
12/28/15 02:34:36AM
27 posts

Looking for that connection in someone?


Empath

Not exactly not nice, but just wrong for me. Its hard to explain.

who_am_I
@who-am-i
12/27/15 02:29:51AM
27 posts

Looking for that connection in someone?


Empath

Anyone ever go through this?

I dont know if its because I am an emapth or what it is, but I have always had a hard time with the opposite sex.

I am 19 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I have flirted with some guys and had a fling or two but never anything serious.

Whenever I meet a guy, my "senses" automatically kick in and I "read" him. Somewhere inside me I know exactly what type of person he is. ( My skills are still very rough) I can do this with almost everyone. I call it reading someone because thats what it feels like, it feels like I am reading the persons soul. Its like I see beyond what they put out. Society shapes the outside, but I can see whats truly inside the person.

It goes a bit further with the guys I like. Whenever I meet a guy something inside me searches for this connection, I dont know what it is. But I know I will know when I have found it. It will feel right, and calming. Its hard to explain.

Everyone always says I am picky and I dont put myself out there thats why I dont have boyfriend and maybe they are right, but I cant help it. Its not like I want to be alone, its just that I cant force myself to be with someone that I know nothing will work out with.

Also, please dont confuse the connection that i am talking about with a soulmate connection, yes that is the ultimate goal, but I can feel that connection with guys that I know I wont end up with at the end but they are here in my life right now for a reason.

Has anyone ever gone through something like this or is going through it?


updated by @who-am-i: 01/24/17 10:37:06PM
who_am_I
@who-am-i
10/11/15 06:37:46AM
27 posts

Weather and Empaths. Anyone ever feel like this?


Empath

Since it does not rain where I live very often, I take a cold shower to wash off all that negative energy. O know what you mean by the "natural ' want'". Its like its calling out to you.

who_am_I
@who-am-i
10/11/15 06:35:13AM
27 posts

Weather and Empaths. Anyone ever feel like this?


Empath

You know I never thought of it that way. That when it rains everyone hides, and we are alone that's why we feel that freedom. Thank you!

who_am_I
@who-am-i
10/05/15 06:25:19AM
27 posts

Weather and Empaths. Anyone ever feel like this?


Empath

Everyone always says that weather affects our moods and our bodies. What if it does more then that?

You know when it's one of those days where the weather outside is dark and cloudy. The wind is cold and the rain is falling and all you want to do is lie in bed with a good book or movie? Most people hate those days, I love them. I live in long island, the days here are always sunny and humid no matter what season it is. The last few days we had a storm for the first time in what seems like forever. For three straight days, we had cloudy, cold, rainy weather. Everyone hid inside, but I wanted to dance in the rain.

Ive been struggling for some time now. I cant seem to find any peace in my life. I am always sad and tired. I feel like I am constantly fighting just to stay up. During those three dark stormy days, I felt better, more alive. I had the energy and the want to do things. Everything around me was breaking. The trees were being bend by the wind. The branches were being broken. The animals hid away from the storm, but all I wanted to do is stand right in the middle of it all. I would feel the wind go straight through me and it felt like a breath of fresh air. Feeling the storm gave me peace. It was like I was myself again.

On the fourth day, the sun and the humid came back and I was once again sad and tired. It felt like I wanted to jump out of my own skin and disperse into a million little peace's. I missed the storm. I missed the peace that it gave me. The peace that I am desperately trying to find.

On the fifth day, it was cloudy again and once again I felt that peace. That is when I realized that the weather had an effect on me.

The reason I am telling you this is because I was wondering if anyone has ever felt anything like this?





updated by @who-am-i: 05/03/17 01:49:01PM