Forum Activity for @ryuukogo

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
07/12/17 10:00:46PM
110 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

Of course trauma enhances our abilities...if not it makes up a lot more alert or in my case a lot more alert and at time completely oblivious of what is going around me such as tripping over a crack in the sidewalk.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
07/07/17 10:36:28PM
110 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

Any where the character has an awakening.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/24/17 09:22:48PM
110 posts

A question to male Empaths


Empath

So giving advice to a transgender MTF  how to walk like a woman is "perfectly normal" Laugh

I will know in a few weeks how deep this Rabbit Hole of "feminity" I have gone down..thanks for the input.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/24/17 12:29:25PM
110 posts

A question to male Empaths


Empath

Or people who know one.Based on your personal experience or what you have observed in others ...are male Empaths a bit or a lot more "feminine " than regular males?

In a few weeks I'm seeing a gender psychologist and this is some of the information I'm presenting her.

I walk like a woman,on forums at times come off like a woman,all my friends are women,roommates have always been women,customers who have dogs that don't like men like me, I get hot flashes,my mood cycles,in public gay men and straight women hit on me and so on.As a male Empath I always thought being more female than male was sort of normal.So add all the emotional stuff that goes with being an Empath I'm thinking what I'm going through is just a natural progression.

Your thoughts?
updated by @ryuukogo: 09/28/17 09:54:05PM
RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/04/17 10:19:13PM
110 posts

To be or not to be....an Empath


Empath

I have never taken that test for a job.Usually they were the Myers Briggs type.I have taken other tests that were also not related to an Empath but the results were always the same Laugh 

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
04/15/17 10:02:39PM
110 posts

Consciousness


Empath

Awareness that time passes.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
04/15/17 10:01:19PM
110 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

On dating sites I have "found" 5+ other Empaths and for the past 2 years I have been FB friends with one across the country.In public I may have come across a few other Empaths...but never went up to them to start a conversation.I am not sure if I would want to hang or be around one...the one's I have communicated with had a rough life and have trust issues especially with men.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
04/10/17 09:35:37PM
110 posts

Parents/Upbringing?


Empath

My mother was a devout Catholic and my father Atheist...but 1/2 Native American Indian...both accepted me being an Empath.Although the word was never used what I did was considered normal.I remember one time when I was a teenager in a rush to leave and my father asked my mother why I was leaving in a rush...she told him that I sensed something wrong with my GF,later wife,and his response was..okay.Other incidents like that happened and it was considered normal.

I suspect if they knew more that I was an Empath I probably would have spent more time with my grandmother and the tribe she came from.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
03/13/17 09:17:28PM
110 posts

Empaths and NDE's or Near Death Experiences


Empath

I was born an Empath...more than likely came from my Grandmother who is Native Indian and my Mother who loved animals.My abilities were enhanced by "Life" bullied as a kid,been rear ended 5 times,head on collision with a drunk driver and broadsided once,fell down a mountain when I went skiing once,crashed several times on a mountain bike and dirk bike...never broke anything but there were always memory lapse's after the accidents 15-30 seconds. Before I was 10 I personally knew 4 kids that died and how they died,best friend and another friend died in HD and so on.

As it has been mentioned here and articles is our Empathic abilities are sort of an extreme awareness of our surroundings and beyond.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
02/26/17 07:39:01PM
110 posts

More female empaths than male?


Empath

I have found about 5 female Empaths on a few dating sites and they told me they  have met one or two male empaths....me just being the second one...lol

Online there  a lot of articles  about that there are more male or female Empaths...but it is more accepted to be female.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
11/13/16 11:52:47PM
110 posts

Differences between Bipolar Disorder and Being a Empath


Empath

My ex wife is Bipolar...during her "high'"s she would drive recklessly,gets arrested,put in the hospital for a week or two ,it took 30mg of Haldol to snap her out of the mania.In a 12 year period she was arrested 6 times and hospitalized a dozen times.If she got depressed she could go into a catatonic stupor where she would have no interaction with the world,would not eat,talk and required hospitalization.

If I get a " high" I look around and see what is causing it...it could  from being around a group of people that are being positive or I am just in a good mood...after I leave the group I feel normal.

One time her psychiatrist said to me that I am beginning to act Bipolar....I knew my married days were numbered.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
10/31/16 11:52:06PM
110 posts

Smarts


Empath

Like most of you...my IQ and EQ is above average...and yes I am more "right brain" dominant ( creative,intuitive ) but I type/use numbers with my left hand and write with my right which is a bit contradictory.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
10/29/16 01:13:30PM
110 posts

HSP - TED talk


Empath

It seems that HSP and Empath abilities overlap with a HSP abilities being more tangible to every day people?

I can explain why I don't like horror movies but can't really explain how I could sense my then wife was having problem when she was miles away from me.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
10/11/16 09:30:02PM
110 posts

crystals


Empath

I keep a Rose Quarts crystal ball next to my bed...which is on my Dragon night stand ...and the other side of my be a gallon of water..it works for me.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
10/07/16 08:59:17PM
110 posts

God...the big question


Empath

Lotusfly:
 


You're right, Ryuukogo, none of us know the truth, and that is what makes it so fascinating. I'm even wondering if coincidences are synchronocities or simply meaningful to the person so that they can make sense of the world and feel comforted in their decisions. We've been basing our life on symbolism for thousands of years, since the Native Americans at least, and it appears for the purpose of giving life meaning and guiding us. But WHAT exactly is sending the signs and/or guiding us, if anything? And like you mentioned, how did it all start? Or WHO started it? :)

I am 1/4 native Indian which is probably why I don't accept the "western" idea of God.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
10/06/16 11:04:19PM
110 posts

God...the big question


Empath

I do believe there is a God but not  defined by any religion or belief system.No one can really explain how the universe came to be,even if the Big Bang theory is true...what created the first particle,set everything into motion and so on.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
09/26/16 08:36:40PM
110 posts

What kind of Empath are you?


Empath

I am the type of Empath that will avoid communicating with the dead...I do know of an Empath who does it and earns a living...we have discussed giving me a reading but concluded it is not a good idea ;)

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
09/25/16 07:32:08PM
110 posts

Empathy: Are We Born With This?


Empath

If we all were Empaths the likelihood of crime and wars would be 0%?

My experience chatting and talking to about 6 other Empaths,all female,that we are born Empaths and traumatic events in our lives increased our sensitivies/abilities.

No one in my immediate family is an Empath or mentioned they are one...my abilities came from my mother and my father's mother who is native Indian

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
08/22/16 08:53:09PM
110 posts

The future.


Empath

Could be coincidence or its just part of being an Empath....or what is called a hybrid.Several times I have been driving and the vehicle in front of me is my boss...for 15 years I have been talking to a guy from the heath department who does pool inspections....he does them 2x a year....no particular time and I am at the pool no particular time or day and so on.

I have talked to other Empaths and we have a lot of these "coincidences" in our lives that we consider " normal" but it is not to others.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
08/22/16 08:48:13PM
110 posts

Is there such a thing as binding an Empath's gifts?


Empath

After my divorce in 2000 I pretty muck killed off most of my abilities then about 4 years revived them...my body literally went into shock...pulse rate dropped...blood pressure dropped and I had a fever...after a few hours I was fine.Not something I would suggest one do....it puts extreme stress on your physical body.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
08/03/16 01:01:18PM
110 posts

Why does this number keep popping up?


Empath

To me 13 is a lucky number because I turned 13 on Friday the 13th.
RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
07/06/16 09:40:25PM
110 posts

sensitivities(touch, hearing, smell, etc)


Empath

Christina...an inanimate object such as a blanket,pillow can be against me with no problem...years ago I inherited a dog and the first night he tried to sleep on me,across my chest,I kept on having to push him off due the burning sensation...I have read there is an illness that the nerves get over stimulated and can be treated with a medication...but with my condition it is only a problem if it is something livingthat is in contact with me..as I told my friends that know I am an Empath ...it does has it drawbacks being so sensitive.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
07/05/16 10:00:55PM
110 posts

sensitivities(touch, hearing, smell, etc)


Empath

Like most of you I am sensitive to just about anything...but my 2 extreme sensitivities are:

My eyes are sensitive to infra red...I had an eye test years ago and remarked the devise when used made my eyes warm...she told me it uses infra red lights.

I can't be physically held/touched by anything living for more than 1-30 minutes...my nerves get over loaded and my skin feels like it is on fire....which means my SO can't sleep cuddling or holding on my while I sleep....the time seems to be in proportion to the surface area touched....I can hold hands for 30 minutes...and can cuddle for just a few...or less.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
06/16/16 11:18:02PM
110 posts

Types of people


Empath

A psychic/empath and I call them "muggles" or "mundains"

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/29/16 12:31:11AM
110 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

My mother may have been an Empathand my father's mother is native indian...my guess my abilities came from those combinations and my parents have opposite personalities....both my sistersare borderline narcissists.

When I was about 20 I at times would leave the house in a rush and I would hear my father asking my mother why am I in a rush...she would tell him I sense something wrong with my girlfriend he would respond "oh"....that was a normal incident...both parents accepted my "oddness" the term Empath I discovered about 5 years ago.

Yes I am a straight male empath...but I have a really high "feminine" component to my personality...on this test I score +37-40....my female friends +15-20.. ;)

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/20/16 10:48:39PM
110 posts



At a regular meetup group I attend there used to be 1 INFJ....lately it has been 5-6 out of 20....I am not sure aboutthe rarity of the types anymore.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/20/16 09:38:25PM
110 posts



Do what I did...joined a few online dating sites...I have "found" dozens of other INFJ's....even dated one...."found" several empaths and even a shaman....as to how I found them.....its in their pictures and summary.

But as you know "our type" likes being alone a lot but craves companionship....so finding someone who can handle that type of friendship maybe difficult.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/20/16 09:28:17PM
110 posts



INFJ.HSP and Empath chiming in....where you are atI have been there a few times...as time passes you realize that almost every relationship is a learning experience....as a goth website states...with out the darkness how can we see the light....there usually is a balance.

Over the years I have learned to read pictures,people and especially my date's and those around her....I also fall in love in as little as 20 hours and learned how to break my heart.....basically I have odd coping skills.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/06/16 10:28:01PM
110 posts

How important is your diet


Empath

No honey,dairy products,gluten free as much as possible,very little sugar but I need 2500-3000 calories a day so I have learned to be picky...diet helps me sleep better and longer....as you know some of us after a long day around people may need 9+ hours of sleep.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/06/16 10:15:19PM
110 posts

What do you think triggered your empathic abilities?


Empath

"Born this way" and enhanced by life events..racism against me....kids thought I was black because I was tanned...by the age of 10 I knew how and where 4 kids died...in 6th grade a friends friend died...in HS my best friend and another died....I have been rear ended 5 times....one head on collision with a drunk driver...broad sided once....wen skiing once...fell down a hill and bindings did not release....never broke any bones through all of that....I am also 1/4 native indian...which may have helped.

My "awareness" can be so sensitive at times that if someone almost misses an off ramp and darts across the lanes...it startles me....or when a driver has road rage...I sense...not sure if anyone wants to be that much in "survival" mode 24/7

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/03/16 09:50:55AM
110 posts

Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too


Empath

As a fellow empath I think we may have unique challenges compared to "regular " males who I don't understand...lolI don't think you are being picky but just having standards.Myself I have had dozen of relationships and was married for 15 years but have been single for a year by choice....I've come to the conclusion I do well in a relationship with a woman who is an Empath or as I refer to as our kind....so far the Empaths I have found live too far for even a LDR but we still write each other.Myself I am an Empath,HSP,INFJ...70% right brain....my brain is so "female " I could qualify for HRT but no way I would change gender....I'm built like a QB.
RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
05/02/16 09:51:58PM
110 posts

Have you told anyone about your ability?


Empath

My friends know and they think it is a gift but then I tell some of the the drawbacks.

My parents knew I was one and what I did was "normal"

I have in my dating profile that I am an Empath,HSP and INFJ personality...I may add more....so that the women I date sort of knows what they are getting into....with that in mind I have met several and still keep in contact with other Empaths.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
01/12/16 11:01:06PM
110 posts

How far away can an empath feel things?


Empath

A narcissist I can sense them about 50 feet..,I actually did a range test.

When I was married about 20 miles.

An Empath I was going to date...2 weeks before I met her.

I don't think it is so much about distance...our perception of time is a little different?

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
01/06/16 11:56:24PM
110 posts

Empath and single


Empath

If I ever meet a woman that understands me....she can explain me to myself..lol

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
01/06/16 11:54:27PM
110 posts

Empath and single


Empath

Just like its sister site consciencematch.com you can only send generic messages to someone...both have to be paid subscribers to message each other....what I did with my profile is mention the other sites my profile is on.

On Okcupid,match,Eharmony I have "found" about 8 other empaths and a few HSP's....some don't like being found but that is what we do...currently I an a FB friend with one empath/psychic who lives in NJ..and empath in Oregon and maybe dating another HSP.

You can find them out there..just put your mind to it ;)

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
01/05/16 09:52:33PM
110 posts

Is this ability to discern others genetic?


Empath

A psychic/empath and I have been chatting about that subject...and the two abilities may not be exclusive of each other...I like dabbling in these type of ideas and abilities but having a scientific background and an years of engineering I like concrete measure proof...but our abilities are personal.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
01/05/16 06:08:44PM
110 posts

Is this ability to discern others genetic?


Empath

In my case Genetics and enhanced due to life.

My mother ( portuguese,philippino ) was more than likely an empath...when I was 18 I would leave the house suddenly and my father ( native indian,irish )would ask my mother where I was going...she replied to him that I aka me sensed something wrong with my GF...that was normal in the house to say that...my mother knew why I would react to something that wasn't near me.

Parents passed away years ago...my father was in a diabetic coma in another state...my mother was hospitalized..two weeks later she passed away...about 8 hours later my father passed away...a week later my mothers best friend passed...coincidence...maybe....or all had a connection.

I would say my abilities were enhanced due to "trauma" where I became more aware of my environment.

Before I was 10 I personally knew 4 kids that died...how and where.

In HS my best friend and another died.

For years I had a lot of prejudice against me because I was brown.

Before age of 25 I had been rear ended 6 times,broad side and a head on collision..no injuries.

The result sort of a hybrid..Empath/Psychic with the skills of both light/dark empath....I can sense emotions as easily as I can push them to another.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/30/15 10:25:51PM
110 posts

Retreat for Empath


Empath

Lastars

Ihave been in a room with a few psychics and that didn't go well...lets just say I am very expressive verbally and non-verbally about my dislike for them.

I have never been physically close to another Empath that I was aware of...but I do know that if I am less than 50' from a narcissist I can sense them.

I rather meet one Empath first as a baseline/reference then meet a group.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/30/15 09:29:01PM
110 posts

Retreat for Empath


Empath

As mentioned by others I am not sure how well a group of Empaths will get along...or even 2 ...I plan to meet one in a few months.

Has anyone attended a group where there were several Empaths or just met one...if so how was it?

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/30/15 09:21:37PM
110 posts



Not left handed buy I type with my left hand and hand write with my right hand

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/24/15 07:59:17PM
110 posts

Empath and single


Empath

I write stories..post at forums .vivid dreams...walk a dog...work out...and so on.

As mentioned it would be a blessing and a curse to be with another Empath...but as other male Empaths know...we have mood swings galore...lol

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/05/15 08:59:35PM
110 posts

Dating Websites


Empath

I have been on several dating sites..okcupid,eharmony,pof,consciencematch,match,ourtime ...you can find what you are looking for but is what they want do we have that to offer.

I have found and dated a few Empaths...meet a few animal communicators...psychics...they are sort of easy for me to find...usually key words...how they write and what I see in their eyes.

The problem I have found is I don't come off what the women think a "normal" guy should be...out of the 35+ dates,2,000+ messages...a lot who I dated and had no chemistry with wanted to remain friends...they usually tell me a lot about themselves and think that is sort of a connection...but to us it is normal for a person to "bear their soul" her is one message.

"Wow. You have been very active on line. Sounds like you do better than most.

I have been off and on for 6 years. I am mostly here but I have ignored profiles on spiritual singles, eharmony and match and POF

I get notifications all the time to check out who has been checking me out but I have not succumbed to paying to meet people yet.

I have not succumbed to zoosk yet either. I hear that that is the hook up spot to be though, lol

I have no idea how many messages or how many people I've corresponded with...because I am always deleting conversations that grow cold and trail off. I can't abide a huge in box...for email either.

I've been back this time for maybe a month. I've been on a handful of first dates, one second date...nice man, but not really feeling a zing for him the way that I want to feel about somebody.

Over the last 6 years, I have had two relationships spring forth from online dating. Each about a year to a year and a half.

I am still friendly with them both...although the last one, that ended 3 years ago, was the hardest breakup of my life and I have not lived since then...

He was the person who was separated and not ready to date that I alluded to in my profile when I said I don't date recently separated men.

The break up was hardest because k do remain friends with ex's typically...and he was pretty emotionally immature...I say this because he thought nothing odd about sharing his sexual exploits with me after our breakup...that was hurtful and made me not want to talk to him for quite a while.

But we did get back in touch eventually and just the Khmer day we texted. He lives in Boston...I am glad not to run into him...the grief is still too near to want to be reminded, even though I'd not date him again if I had a do over."

This is what I wrote to her "Good afternoon and a hello ..my god your mind is gorgeous and intimidating both admirable qualities I value. ...if we were stranded on a desert island not only would I have your back I would walk up to.
a block to get us water."

I never message anything about their looks...career..just at times something really stands out in their writing that I like...so far none have been narcissists...

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/01/15 11:31:47PM
110 posts



Welcome to the "Dark Side" ;)

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
12/01/15 10:19:57PM
110 posts



My 2 cents...we are not supposed to do that...it is interfering with someone else's life/time here...other Empath's find out you can do it...they avoid you like the plague.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
11/09/15 08:51:53PM
110 posts

Freaking out!!


Empath

They may not have been near you when theyshe was hunched over...I and maybe you pick up others when there is a momentary emotional outburst....I get that wrenched gut feeling if someone on the freeway near me realizes they are about to miss an off ramp and make a rapid lane change near me....scares the shit out of me.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
11/07/15 07:31:37PM
110 posts

Leeching others's energy accidentally


Empath

How was the environment when these situations happened?

Maybe the person you meet was just putting up a front and it wore off?

When I am around positive people I project it back to others and if a nice looking woman passes I start flirting with her.

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
11/07/15 04:21:42PM
110 posts



I did that Agape Love" when I was in love with a narcissistic woman ...my Myers Briggs personality is INFJ..it is all or nothing.

I needed a woman like her in my life to grow/mature...unfortunately I fell in love with her...the love was willing,unconditional and did not ask for anything back.. I guess a pure love...something a normal couple should have between each other..it took me about 40 hours to fall in live..then when I grew how I wanted,my safety net type personality kicked in...I ended the relationship...broke my heart and am a much better empath/person now....my friends sort of knew what I was doing but still can't believe I would intentionally put myself through that...I explained to them I went on the Fast Track for growth...lol

RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
11/07/15 04:10:28PM
110 posts



Try this test or one similar to give you a guide where you stand http://www.afifthofnothing.com/gendertest.html

My score is +35 and I have always been about 50/50 M/F but when I work on changing my personality it changes to 40/60...last year I did that...it takes a lot of time,stress and commitment and is still a work in progress.

Your mind has a lot of plasticity and can be changed TEDx series on youtube has a few clips how to do it.

PS I am a straight male...all my friends are women and I really don't understand men..lol

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