Forum Activity for @eliselebeau

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/27/13 06:55:22PM
414 posts

Message from Elise


Empath

We get a lot of new members flowing in (Yay!) and I wanted to reach out to them personally, even though I cannot greet everyone in the forum as I would like too.

So you'll find a new video on the main page of the EC...It's for you :)

in love,

Elise


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/14/17 08:59:21AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/07/13 05:06:42PM
414 posts

New Empath self care products in the Empath Store!


Empath

Thanks for relating yourexperience Tony!

Empaths are so sensitive to everything, the bad stuff AND the good stuff. This is an instance where it works in our favor, as using sage (or crystal for that matter) can make a huge difference for us because we can feel that energy shift, even if someone else might not be sensitive enough to pick up on it.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/30/13 02:26:51PM
414 posts

New Empath self care products in the Empath Store!


Empath

Do you have tools that have helped you? Post it here!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/30/13 01:08:20PM
414 posts

New EFT coaching video for Empaths: Feeling Better


Empath

I'm glad you like it! This is a cartoon I drew of myself :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/30/13 12:13:49PM
414 posts

New Empath self care products in the Empath Store!


Empath

Empaths can easily pick up the emotional burden of others. A regular self care routine is essential to prevent crumbling under the weight of unprocessed or toxic emotions.

I just added a new category in the Empath Storefor essential self care products that have helped us keep our energy clean, such as Sage (for smudging), tibetan bowls (for clearing negative energy in the house) and different kinds of Salt (used during a bath to pull out negative energy from your body).

I personally use all of these tools and they make a huge difference in preventing an accumulation of negative energy build up! Take a look at the Energy Cleansing category in the Empath Store.


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/16/17 04:24:30AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/28/13 03:08:11PM
414 posts

What would you want to read in a book about Empaths?


Empath

Yeah, I feel empaths struggle a lot with work. I was in and out of jobs for a good 5 years before I got my footing. I"ve been really happy at work for the last 5 years and my career has sky rocketed (that's my other job as an engineer :)! I'll make sure to have a chapter on this...

Thanks!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/23/13 08:27:44AM
414 posts

What would you want to read in a book about Empaths?


Empath

That was so funny, I could almost see chapters popping out of what you are describing...How inspiring!

Once again I am struck by how awesome you all are in bringing to light what was hidden.

One of my favorite "Empath Traits" ;)

I'm taking frantic notes from what i'm reading here, so feel free to come back to this post if something jumps as you. I'll be listening :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/22/13 08:18:23PM
414 posts

What would you want to read in a book about Empaths?


Empath

Yes! I have been thinking about how different people have a different experience of being an empath. I find that books in this field often contain either 1) a long list of tools 2) a self story of the author which may or may not relate to all the different expression empaths as a group.

I would like this book to cast a wider net, not only including what I know and what worked for me, but also representing all the "faces" of the empaths around us, along with what worked for them.

...More to ponder :)

Thanks!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/22/13 07:27:57PM
414 posts

What would you want to read in a book about Empaths?


Empath

It's so true! How easy, even for functional empaths, to slide back into a "non empath friendly" internal state of mind! It's not a one time thing that you nail down and then never have to revisit. Looking back on it, I know my own slippages have led me to discover new self care behaviors over the years that I find essential now.

It is such a contradiction that we can feel everyone else's emotions and yet empaths can often feel lonely and isolated. We're alone in our "inner" crowd.

Thanks for your thoughts, Carolanne :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/22/13 06:59:50PM
414 posts

What would you want to read in a book about Empaths?


Empath

I have been feeling the "urge" to write a book on Empaths. Note that this urge comes from an "outside pull" (the same way my urge to create this community came from such a place).

Personally, I'd be happy to look the other way and not embark on such a big project. The sheer thought of all this work makes me dizzy, considering my already packed schedule (I'm a single mom with 2 jobs). However, this keeps coming back in my head, and I feel I need to take a hint at some point :)

For every empath that finds his/her way to the EC, I feel there are millions of others who are still in the dark. I want to find them and make it easy for them to recognize themselves while feeling comforted, supported and validated. Like the essence of the EC, captured in a book :)

So I am trying to wrap my head around this question: is there is something else that needs to be said, for us, or through us, in a printed book? Maybe something you need to hear, or that you feel other empaths need to hear so that they can be free to be who they really are?

If you were to pick up a really great book on Empaths today..and while reading it, you'd be thinking to yourself "Wow, this book is exactly what I needed to hear and wanted to know!"

...what would that be?


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/16/17 04:24:07AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/25/13 05:53:27PM
414 posts

Being true to yourself is enough


Empath

From my blog:http://www.eliselebeau.com/empath/being-true-to-yourself-is-enough/2229

For Empaths, being able to accept who you truly are is enough. You don't have to explain it to others. You don't have to convince them. You don't need to justify why you don't like crowds or shopping malls. You don't have to get into an argument over this. They don't have to understand or approve of you...although that's always a nice bonus!

As you accept that you are what you are, other people will do it too.


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/16/17 04:22:11AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/25/13 05:19:59PM
414 posts

Secrets for Sensitive People: Why Emotional Empaths Stay Lonely


Empath

I also have a part time schedule with my companion. Works great!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/24/13 09:39:21AM
414 posts

Secrets for Sensitive People: Why Emotional Empaths Stay Lonely


Empath

Tips for sensitive people to to feel at ease in a relationship.
Published on February 8, 2011 byJudith Orloff, M.D.inEmotional Freedom

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201102/secrets-sensitive-people-why-emotional-empaths-stay-lonely

in love,

Elise


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/08/17 08:31:02AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/05/13 08:10:35PM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

I love your vision for living by the ocean! I moved myself from Montreal to a more serene Pacific Northwest setting and I love it!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/05/13 08:09:22PM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

So true. I also noticed that I fared better in general when I keep the sugar levels low.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/05/13 08:31:09AM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

Loreena is also on my playlist!!! We should make an Empath friendly playlist lol!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/04/13 07:57:04AM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

Timing is everything ;) I'm glad it's helpful. Keep in mind that it takes time to get back out to feeling yourself (just yourself, I mean). But if you keep heading in that direction, you can't miss it!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/04/13 07:55:28AM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

I love that feeling when you "resonate" with something in a way that reminds you of what you know :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/04/13 07:54:02AM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

You're welcome, i'm glad you like it! I'm lucky to have very bossy spirit guides who remind me of this stuff all the time but it does need to be repeated a lot (at least for me :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/04/13 07:52:58AM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

Depression is so common among us, even if it's often not "our" depression. I hope you can find something in there that helps :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/03/13 03:26:45PM
414 posts

The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue


Empath

From my Blog. Enjoy!

sadDo you suffer from the Empath blues? Impaired Empaths have a high risk of experiencing "unexplainable sadness". Constantly feeling the negative emotions of others can trigger a form of emotional exhaustion where nothing feel good anymore. Here's how to spot and alleviate "emotional fatigue".

According to wikipedia, "decisional fatigue refers to the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual, after a long session of decision making". This concept has been studied extensively in psychology where people who have to make a lot of decisions as part of their daily job, like judges for example, become worn out over time and tend to make poorer decision later in the day. The mind becomes exhausted and has a hard time evaluating trade offs, a critical skill in decision making.

In a similar vein, Empaths can become overly activated by the constant emotional information that they have to process. This is especially true for Impaired Empaths who have a hard time regulating the influx of emotions they pick up from other people. Overtime, their ability to appropriately respond to emotions can become erratic, leaving them feeling powerless and depressed.

Under a spell of the Empath blues, you might start to feel sad without knowing why. You are also more likely to feel depressed later in the day, waking up fine in the morning but experiencing a decline in your positive emotions as the day goes by. The Empath blues is typically temporary but can become chronic if left unattended. Please note that anyone who feels depressed over a long period of time might be suffering from clinical depression and should immediate seek medical help as well as therapeutic counseling.

So what can you do when you find yourself in the throes of the Empath blues? There is a very common misconception that the remedy for emotional fatigue is to try to be "happier". Meaning that you should try to think positively, even though you feel utterly crappy. Have you ever been with someone who was trying to cheer you up while you felt sad? Despite their best efforts, you kinda want them to shut up and go away.

This reaction makes perfect sense when you consider that alleviating emotional fatigue requires emotional quiet, which is the absence of strong emotions. Feeling happy is a strong emotion and strong emotions, whether positive or negative, are exactly what caused emotional fatigue in the first place! Not only that but trying to cheer up on the spot takes a huge amount of effort when you are feeling sad. You're trying to jump from one end of the emotional spectrum (sadness) into the opposite end (happiness) while being exhausted, so you're more likely to fall flat on your face mid jump.

Most Empaths are not familiar with the state of emotional quiet required to address emotional fatigue. They are so used to feel tugged in all kinds of emotional direction that feeling nothing is often equated with feeling dead or empty. They wonder if something's wrong. And yet, this is no different than sleep for the body! We need down time where we let out body, mind and emotions rest.

Fortunately, Empath are often very intuitive beings. They feel drawn to what is good for them. That's why if you're an Empath you'll probably recognize some of your own urges in the 4 most effective ways to relieve emotional fatigue.

Empath gardeningBeing alone: Empaths need time by themselves where they are less likely to be tuning into the emotions of others around them. It doesn't mean you're anti-social or that you don't like people! It just means you need to refuel before going back out into the world. Make sure you have plenty of alone time when you're doing something that is not emotional, such as knitting, gardening, cooking, etc. I like to play video games on my computer, which requires strategy but has no emotional triggers. Be creative!

Empath in natureBeing in nature: Many Empaths report feeling most at peace in nature, among trees and in large bodies of water like the ocean or a lake. With good reasons! Trees and water provide a natural "white noise" when it comes to emotional vibration. It's like wearing a noise canceling headset to drown out the emotions of people. I walk 5 miles a week in the forest around my house which rejuvenates and energizes me for the day.

Khole Rock Climbing Series A 42Being physical active: Physical activity can provide a great buffer against emotional fatigue by taking your focus away from emotions and into your own physical body. For our purposes, the physical activity needs to be challenging enough that it requires your full attention. Rock climbing and yoga are my favorite activities to get emotionally quiet.

Buddha GardenMeditation: Meditation provides a powerful way to guide your focus away from other people. This can be very challenging for Empaths who tend to always tune into others. It can feel unnatural or difficult at first. But being able to create a quiet space within, whether by focusing on your breath or by following a guided audio meditation, can give you the space you need to rest both your mind and your delicate emotional system.

in love,

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D.,
Professional Intuitive
http://www.EliseLebeau.com
Heal. Learn. Grow.


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/10/17 08:43:36AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
02/23/13 04:41:54PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

I'm glad you did :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
02/12/13 08:29:00AM
414 posts

Wow! Fund raising our web hosting fees - we're halfway there already!


Empath

I've done this fundraising event twice already and I love how people jump in with both feet. In less then 24 hours, we already have half the money we need to keep funding the site! How amazing is that!!!!

I remember a couple of years ago, I got an email from someone who was sad that the fundraising event had gone by so quick that she had not had time to contribute. That year I started to do the email broadcast so that everyone could at least hear about it :)

It is hard to express in words how much your contributions mean to me. It is how we are able to keep the community available and free for new members. We've been around for 6 years (in Internet time, that means we're ANCIENT!) and we're often one of the first links that turn up when people search for "empaths" online. This is where they are likely to land, looking for help. And we (meaning all of YOU) are here to provide it.

I also want to thank the moderators who contribute with their time, effort and unwavering dedication to keep the EC a place of healing and support for Empaths. It's often a thankless job where you getcriticized a lot, but it's the only reason the EC is still there today. And I mean that quite literally.

So a big thanks to everyone who is contributing to help pay the rent and to the moderators who keep the place emotionally tidy ;)

in love

Elise


updated by @eliselebeau: 01/17/17 08:01:50PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/29/13 09:14:27AM
414 posts

New EFT coaching video for Empaths: Feeling Better


Empath

Yeah feeling safe is a critical part of being able to go out into the world without feeling drained or overwhelmed. Glad you it's working for you :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/05/12 05:51:37PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Ahahahaha, yeah it's funny how easy it was to sum things up when it's been happening over and over again for all those years! I'm glad you enjoyed it!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/13/12 02:25:55PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Thanks Angela for sharing your thoughts on this. It really makes me happy to feel how my research resonated with your experience!!!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/12 03:44:18PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

It's my lot in life that most of my friends are writers who feel this is great fun...

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/12 03:43:18PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

LOL! YOU guys should write a book lol. Co-writen by Tony, Nea, Lynn and Sandy :) Every one gets a chapter!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/12 03:42:17PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Awesome, thx! But i think this is as far as I will get ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/12 03:41:36PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Lol, it took me 4 years to write 30 pages. So let's see, in 40 years we'll have a decent size book ;)

You're the writer, not me!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/12 01:48:21PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

H Janet,

Unfortunately, I can't contact you directly as I get too many requests like this to respond to them all.

I would suggest you find a spiritual counselor who can help you with the transition you're going through :)

in love,

Elise

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/12 01:13:39PM
414 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Hi Everyone :)

I've been away from a while but I wanted to come back to post something that is VERY special to me: what may be the very first PhD thesis on Empaths :)

As I developed the tools described in the Empath Survival Program, I also found myself wanting to dive more deeply towards a better understanding of what I started to call the Empath experience. When the time came to select a topic for my Ph.D. thesis in Metaphysics, it was an obvious choice!

It took me 4 years to complete this research. It allowed me to succinctly (well, in 30 pages) describe the different facets of the Empath experience as I had witnessed them in myself, my clients and my friends on the Empath Community.

It brought me great inner peace to finally be able to write about my research on such a misunderstood topic. It is my wish that others may find comfort in reading it.

A Review of the Biological, Psychological and Spiritual Basis of the Empath Experienceby Elise Lebeau, Ph.D.

http://www.eliselebeau.com/a-review-of-the-biological-psychological-and-spiritual-basis-of-the-empath-experience

PS: It's posted on my web site as the text is longer than the maximum allowed by Ning.com ;)

PPS: Thanks to everyone on the Empath community who directly or indirectly contributed to my thesis


updated by @eliselebeau: 10/19/17 10:38:53AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/04/12 08:40:51PM
414 posts

Haven't done this in awhile -- SHOUT OUT TO THE OLD SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Awwwwww I'm shouting right back at you (no wait, that didn't come out right ;)

Oooodles of love,

Elise

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/10/12 08:53:25AM
414 posts

Empaths and money


Empath

I just love when that happens ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/13/12 04:01:13PM
414 posts

Empaths and money


Empath

Yeah, I bet your not alone in that situation. Watch, tap, repeat :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/13/12 04:00:41PM
414 posts

Empaths and money


Empath

Thanks!!!!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/13/12 03:19:39PM
414 posts

Empaths and money


Empath

Lol, awesome!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/13/12 09:35:29AM
414 posts

Empaths and money


Empath

Even though most people who come to me are struggling with emotional or spiritual issues, the topic of money always seems to come up. Especially for Empaths. Having to deal with their spiritual awakening and emotional overload demands a LOT of time and effort. Many are simply too exhausted and run out of energy when it's time to deal with career and money issues...

That can lead to a very painful situation where they feels like a failure (because money is the standard for success in our culture) when in fact they are successful at what they are working on, namely their spiritual growth.

And yet, money is also part of life. Although it's often frowned upon in spiritual circles, I find that having "enough" money is important. In fact, in my experience, worrying about money is not conducive to spiritual growth. It can consume you completely, distort your intuitive messages and leave you wanting it but hating it.

I know this first hand as I struggled with money for most of my life, way before I became aware of my spiritual journey. After my spiritual awakening in 2002, I quit my job so I could "serve" by providing free energy healing sessions and self help programs. After a year of this, I was exhausted and stressed out. That's when a very kind spiritual teacher told me that taking care of my needs was essential and I should work on making enough money to support my family before I worried about taking care of other people. It seems obvious now but at the time, it was a sort of revelation.

And so I did. I used many tools over the years. EFT was one of the most important! It helped me clean up years of bad mental habits, family history and negative beliefs. It also gave me solid grounds to sow better feeling thoughts and expectations about money.

Today, I feel that my relationship with money is healed. Although I might get stressed once in a while, it's rare, short lived and I bounce back quickly. Of all the things I can think of that helped me find inner peace, being able to conquer my money nemesis was the most powerful one. I consider myself "rich" by all the standards that matter to me.

I have been producing EFT coaching videos so that others might also benefit from them. I keep writing new protocols for my clients who need support between their intuitive counseling sessions. That way I can be "there" to help 24/7! I thought I would share this on the EC as well, since I'm pretty sure this affects many of us...

This latest EFT coaching video is on the theme of "financial security", which describes the feeling of "having enough". I don't feel it makes sense for most of us to work on winning the lottery or being a billionaire. If you're on a spiritual path, you clearly have other priorities than putting all your energy into being crazy rich. You're probably more focused on being happy, having satisfying relationships and a career you love. So this video is aimed at that very special balance that we reach when we feel financially secure, even if we're not retiring and moving the the Caribbean yet.

Because money issues tend to be pervasive, I recommend using this video for 14 days, then taking 14 days off. During the off time, pay special attention to your intuition...It WILL show you the way!

PS: If you don't know EFT, you can get the basic instructions on my web site http://www.EliseLebeau.com/eft

in love,

Elise


updated by @eliselebeau: 01/13/17 01:36:10PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/11/12 08:40:25AM
414 posts

New EFT coaching video for Empaths: Feeling Better


Empath

I'm so glad you like it! This is one of my favorites because it's useful in so many situations :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/10/12 06:17:32PM
414 posts

New EFT coaching video for Empaths: Feeling Better


Empath

We spend so much time hurting that it's easy to get "lost" in there. Everywhere we turn, it's painful.

That's when it matters most to get your head back on straight with some EFT. It clears the mind and cleanses the emotions, so you can get a fresh start, at least for that day.

Take 5 minutes to tap along with me, see if it can take some of the heaviness away.

No experience necessary!


updated by @eliselebeau: 10/21/17 04:23:00PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/10/12 06:15:00PM
414 posts

Thank You Elise!!!!


Empath

Awwww yes pass it to to the new members. We were all there once too :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/10/12 06:14:05PM
414 posts

Thank You Elise!!!!


Empath

Yeah, that stumbling is what keeps me posting about empaths on facebook and my blog. I feel that having this material being more visible helps with the "stumbling".

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/10/12 06:12:10PM
414 posts

Thank You Elise!!!!


Empath

Indeed, I'm not much of a joiner myself, so I totally get that. This is pretty much the only community web site that I belong too (well, and facebook ;). I'm glad it was your exception too ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/10/12 06:11:06PM
414 posts

Thank You Elise!!!!


Empath

Ahahahaha that is great! I did feel strongly that this web site was not a place for me to try to help everyone (omg, how exhausting) but a place for people to learn to help each other. I feel very blessed that we have so many "functional" empaths on the EC who can help guide the more novices in the right direction.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
04/09/12 09:36:55AM
414 posts

Thank You Elise!!!!


Empath

LOL! It's a good thing I come here regularly to peek at what's going on, otherwise I might have missed this!

I have been really touched by all the supportive email/messages I have received. Every one of them made a deep impression on me, and hopefully a lasting one ;).

At the end of the day, it's up to me to choose to pay more attention to the people who have been helped by my work than to those who are "still looking". I do hope they find what is a better fit for them. Thanks to all those who reminded me of that!

in love,

Elise

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/20/12 08:31:14AM
414 posts

Facebook user? Need your help for my PhD dissertion on Empaths!


Empath

Yeah, that's what I expect when on for many us. I think realizing that not everyone does this is a major turning point. So is figuring out "what" it is :).

Side note--I just finished my own Ph.D. last month, so I know what a huge task it is. Good luck and godspeed! I hope you enjoy the process. (And for those times when you are not enjoying it, the best advice I ever got regarding my dissertation was, "Done is better than perfect.") :)


AHAHAHAHA! Indeed, what great advise. It's especially hard to follow because this is such an interesting topic for me that I could probably keep reading for the next 10 years...But indeed, it needs to get done even if I don't have a reference to every single article on emotional sensitivity.

Thanks!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/20/12 08:28:32AM
414 posts

Facebook user? Need your help for my PhD dissertion on Empaths!


Empath

Ahahaha it doesn't matter. Even though you were like this as a child, I bet you didn't know "what it was". I think you answered just right :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/17/12 07:05:31PM
414 posts

Facebook user? Need your help for my PhD dissertion on Empaths!


Empath

That's fine, as I do mean it as a mix of both question. Meaning when did you realize you could "feel the emotions of others", whether or not you called it empath. There was no such word when I was a kid, so the word does not matter :)

in love

Elise

 
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