Forum Activity for @eliselebeau

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/21/19 08:07:58AM
424 posts

Advice for a new forum


Library of Light

@michelle, lol you're welcome!  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/20/19 02:39:49PM
424 posts

Advice for a new forum


Library of Light

@hop-daddy You're most welcome.  Thanks for your 1017 posts ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/18/19 09:06:00AM
424 posts

Advice for a new forum


Library of Light

Hi @moonshine,

I find that Empaths often feel inspired to help others, which is why we have such great support available both here and in our facebook group.  

To answer your question: I started this web site in 2007 from the same sentiment.  But back then, when you googled "empath community", nothing showed up. 

Also, since I had tentatively started writing about my "real life" experiences as an Empath (as opposed to the web site about science fiction characters), I was more visible online and people often contacted me to get help. 

Being a single mom with 2 jobs, I realized quickly that even though I REALLY wanted to, there was not enough hours in the day to take care of my son, my jobs and hundreds of Empath queries. 

One days it occurred to me that it would be awesome to connect the more novice Empaths  (those with side effects or untamed skills - what I refer to as an Impaired Empath) to the more experiences ones (i.e Balanced Empaths).

At the time, I was struggling financially so I used a free platform to create the Empath Community.  

For the next 6 months, it was mostly me talking to myself lol.  I posted forum threads on cool things I found, on my bourgeoning Empath Survival Program, etc.

Then as the site climbed in the google results (keep in mind it had to "jump" over all the science fiction sites in order to become "relevant"), it started getting busier.  

By the time we reached 10 000 users, my "free time" was consumed by all the "moderating" that comes from owning a web site.  I had to start deleting old accounts to avoid paying a hefty monthly fee, put out flame thread where members argued, filter out spammers (always hard), approve new users, keep the site from tipping over from too many users, make sure the email notifications didn't go into spam folders, investigate and fix technical problems, respond to questions about how the site worked, etc.  

Since I'm a software engineer, I'm also technically oriented. I knew "how" to do all these things but it was a lot of efforts.

Then in 2011, the free platform I was using got sold and they started charging $25/month for hosting.  By that time, I had a LOT of users and moving to a different platform was going to be both expensive and time consuming.  I looked into several alternative but none of them were maintenance free and I just didn't have the time to apply patches, deploy new versions and test everything, which is inevitable in free platform like joomla or drupal.

So I paid the monthly fees.  Which increased over time to reach $49/month.  Over the next 6 years, I tried to raise money to pay these hosting fees with fund raising activities, a Paypal donate button, a gift shop, advertisers, click through ads and a more that I forgot by now.  I received some AMAZINGLY generous donations that covered a total of about 2 years of hosting. All the money I received went straight to pay hosting fees.  But I had to pay taxes on those donations, so I got only part of the total amount...

I did not (and never will) want to charge a fee for users of the Empath Community. 

For most of its life, I paid for the hosting myself.  

In 2017, the platform I had been using told "small users" like me that they were not going to support us anymore.  I was crushed, honestly.  I lived in denial about it for a long time lol.  But eventually, I started to look for another platform which I eventually found (jamroom).  The hosting fee was similar and they were willing to help me migrate 10 years of users and forum posts with an installation fee.

I had to spend hundreds of hours in css, html, forms, installing modules, etc.  But here we are, 12 years later and the Empath Community is still standing.  

In 2017, another author (more known than me) started to use the very same terms that had placed me at the top of the Google results: "Empath Community" and :"Empath Survival Program".  Following this, I lost about 90% of my online visibility and the number of Empath who found their way here dropped drastically...

All that to say:  it takes a lot time, energy and often money to sustain a web site. It can almost be very hard on the heart to have these ups and downs.


That said, you can create a free web site with Facebook.  You can also decide how much energy you want to spend on this endeavor before you get on the boat :)

I think the more resources we have out there for Empaths, the better.

But I would also like to suggest that by being right here (or any other existing Empath web site), you are using your PRECIOUS energy helping someone, a real person who has a burning question right now, instead of spending it building web pages and fighting spammer.

No matter what you choose to do, THANK YOU for your contribution to our Empath world.

In love (seriously, I do love you all)

Elise  


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/18/19 05:02:38PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/18/19 08:15:51AM
424 posts

Technical: Problem with private messenging ?


Empath

A millions thanks for reporting the issue :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
08/13/18 07:25:50PM
424 posts



This technique helped me a lot in that situation:

https://www.eliselebeau.com/free-empath-survival-program/technique-2

which is a technique to turn up the volume of your emotions.  It also works well in combination with Technique 1 if you're feeling overwhelmed. 

https://www.eliselebeau.com/free-empath-survival-program/technique-1

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/18/18 02:36:53PM
424 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Thanks so much Bill :) 

I know I technically own the copyright.  I also think I would likely win a law suit. 

But the determining factor is this one: it would be detrimental to my happiness.  I need to conserve my time and energy to work my 2 wonderful jobs and be the best mom I can be to my son. 

At the end of the day, I have nothing left for a lawsuit.  

The support I have received from the EC members has put a healing balm over my broken heart. 

It will heal.

in love

Elise

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 04:15:35PM
424 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Hop Daddy:

I stumbled upon this article by accident. And I found it interesting and wanted to share it as it touched on a lot of the discussions that often pop up on this community forum. It's a good read, and very informative. And I found it interesting that the author is both an M.D. and an empath. Since traditional medicine doesn't really recognize the empath reality, I found the author's perspective pretty interesting. 

https://www.consciouslifestylemag.com/empath-sensitive-person-guide/

Update: I really liked the detail on what the linked author provided and think that many of you will find it relevant and helpful. Unfortunately, as Elise noted below, the author appears to have completely plagiarized Elise's own prior published work. While enjoying the article, please know that all the credit for the content needs to be given to Elise.

Thank you so much.  Made my cry...


updated by @eliselebeau: 07/16/18 04:15:50PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 03:15:39PM
424 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Thanks C. Cat! I'm still here :)

I could try to sue her but that would result in: 

1) Financial compensation, which is not meaningful to me.  I didn't publish to get rich.

2) An injunction to prevent her book from being further published, so she does not profit from my work.  Which also goes against my intention to reach as many Empath as possible with my message.

Either way, it's not aligned with my soul's purpose and it won't mend my broken heart.  And tears stream down whenever I think about this hijacking of my message, so I'd be a mascara mess in court!!!

When people google Empath Survival or Empath Experience, they find her book, not my web site.  But at least they find *something*.  

Thanks for your emotional support.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 11:53:35AM
424 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

No worries!  I just thought I'd set the record straight, at least in my own space :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 11:40:33AM
424 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

It is unfortunate that this author copied the bulk of my Empath Survival Program (including the title)

https://www.eliselebeau.com/empath-survival-program (published 2007)

and my PhD thesis

https://www.eliselebeau.com/the-empath-experience (2012)

and sold it as her own.

 

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/25/17 09:18:36AM
424 posts

Can someone please help me.. I can see the writing on the wall but what next? Context below...


Request a Reading

Hi,

When you state your current choices at the end of your post (keep doing the same or completely stop), I feel that neither of them are the right fit for you. 

I do feel that you have to do something or you'll emotionally bleed out, without being in a situation where you can receive the same kind of helpful care you provided.  If you burn out, you won't be able to help anyone at all, not even yourself.

The energy drain is drastic right now.  However, I feel that cutting off contact would create such an intense wave of guilt that it would be also very expensive, energy wise.  

When stated this way, it looks like you only have "bad" options.

My suggestion would be to start having a plan for this "energy expense", just like you would manage a financial budget. 

For example, set a time limit for:

1) How often you have contact with him (of any kind, including txt).  Once the limit is reach, just postpone answering until tomorrow. 

2) How long you interact (like phones calls are no longer than 30 minutes).

My last suggestion is actually related to being an Empath...

3) Use techniques to disengage from his energy when you are not directly interacting with him, such as Turning Down the Volume .  This would avoid the energy drain that comes from being tuned into his energy.

I hope this helps!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/22/17 07:41:07AM
424 posts



Hi,

It's hard for empaths to sort out their feelings, since they feel just like ours...

Grounding is an essential Empath skill but it might not help here since the foreign feeling IS there.  You are feeling it.  So when you're grounding, you're just paying even more attention to that feeling inside you.

A quick way to sort this out that I use all the time is Turning Down the Volume.  It's the first technique in the Empath Survival Program.  By turning down what you pick up from other people (do NOT try to turn it off), what's left behind is yours.  

Ironically, it solves two problems: 1) Identifying feelings that are not yours 2) Preventing external feelings from affecting you.

I hope this helps!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/04/17 08:51:01AM
424 posts

Name a song game.


Empath

Rene'': I don't see the music section any longer so I will post this here.  

Sorry @Rene, I am still trying to consolidate categories.  The "Art" category has been revised and you can post music there now :)  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/31/17 05:52:18PM
424 posts

Join our VERY FIRST Empath Chat on Thursday 02/02/2017 @ 6:00PM PST (9:00pm EST).


Empath

I'm sorry, I don't know why it doesn't work on a kindle.  You can try a computer to join the chat.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/31/17 04:37:06PM
424 posts

Join our VERY FIRST Empath Chat on Thursday 02/02/2017 @ 6:00PM PST (9:00pm EST).


Empath

The chat is available online here: http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/chat/mobile

or from the top "chat" menu


updated by @eliselebeau: 01/31/17 04:37:44PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/31/17 09:18:14AM
424 posts

Join our VERY FIRST Empath Chat on Thursday 02/02/2017 @ 6:00PM PST (9:00pm EST).


Empath

If you've been in the chat, you probably noticed that we've been saying hello right past each other.

Let's make a date so we can finally talk to someone who is there!  It's sure to be fun, crazy and probably a bit chaotic.  But mostly fun!

To open the Chat room, click on the Bubble on the right of your screen.

If you're on a mobile device, click the "chat" item on the top menu.

See you there!


updated by @eliselebeau: 09/06/18 09:53:21PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/29/17 01:49:35PM
424 posts

Annoyin Aspie


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi,

We like to keep the main forum for discussion about the Empath experience.  This topic has been moved to the Psychic and Paranormal category.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/21/17 09:50:23AM
424 posts



Hi,

We try to keep our main forum focused on the Empath Experience.  I moved this post into our Dream category!  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/18/17 07:44:59AM
424 posts



Hi @marta,
We like to keep our main forum focused on the "Emapth Experience". I've moved your topic to a better fitted category. Thanks!
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/28/16 07:16:36PM
424 posts



Our hosting fees is based on how much space we use.  We delete inactive members and older posts in order to keep the fees to an amount we can afford.  This web site is free for you but it's not free for me :)

We'd like to keep everything that has been contributed in the last 10 years but we can't...

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/13/16 07:00:29PM
424 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

GOOD NEWS!  There's a mobile version of the chat!  Point your browser tohttp://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/chat/mobile

Enjoy!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/05/16 12:42:00PM
424 posts

Has Anyone Dealt With Clairaudience?


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi @hop-daddy,

We prefer to keep the main forum category for topics about Empaths.  I've moved this discussion to the Psychic category.

Thanks!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/02/16 06:25:16PM
424 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

Can you post something in the chat so I can make sure it works?

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/01/16 11:26:11AM
424 posts

I needed a good laugh this morning


Empath

Btw Renee, you can embed an image instead of attaching it and it will display in the post full size.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/01/16 09:36:09AM
424 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

We're experimenting with a new Chat feature.  You will see a speech bubble on the right side of your screen.  

Please let me know if you like/do not like this experiment :)

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updated by @eliselebeau: 09/04/18 08:38:19PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/01/16 07:49:50AM
424 posts

A big thank you!


Empath

It's good to have you back!  I tentatively activated it even though I am not done fixing the forum after the update.  You'll see wonky things for a while.  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/22/16 07:13:26PM
424 posts

Empath Survival Program Support


Tools for Empaths

The Empath Survival Program was designed for Impaired Empaths to help them control and manage their wild Empath skills. It includes 7 essentials techniques walk you through the most common Empath side effects and shows you how to resolve them.

Having problem with one of the technique?  Start a discussion and get help from Elise and our members.


updated by @eliselebeau: 06/13/18 06:59:26AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/20/16 06:20:41PM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Renee:

hey @eliselebeau are you able to put up a post re: the need to click that notifications tab in groups as there seems to be little activity in groups now. so whilst we are not wanting to post all topics in the main forum, this is the only place where there is any activity or consistent notifications from so i just wonder if all are aware that that notifications button is needed for groups? Thanks 

@renee

Is that better?http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/eliselebeau/blog/1862/how-do-i-get-notified-of-new-discussions-in-the-forum-and-groups

forum_alert.png

group_alerts.png

I'm also considering moving the groups as forum categories instead.  Stay tuned!


updated by @eliselebeau: 10/29/16 08:23:48AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/20/16 06:58:31AM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Sure, I will make a new FAQ.  Thanks for the suggestion.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/19/16 08:15:19PM
424 posts

Psychic Development #43


Psychic and Paranormal

When  you want to follow a discussion in a group, you have to enable the notifications.  It's the same way in the forums but you do it only once for the entire forum.  For the groups, you have to do it in every group that you join, yes.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/18/16 06:27:59PM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Paul:

Elise, is there any option on the site to "like" a post?

@Paul this is not exactly awesome but you can now see a "like" thumbs up icon at the bottom of each forum post.  I'm trying to make it more visible but I can now change my answer to "yes, there is a like button".  :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/18/16 06:07:39PM
424 posts

Psychic Development #43


Psychic and Paranormal

And both of you have the Notification Icons showing up as yellow for this discussion?

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EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/18/16 05:56:29PM
424 posts

THANK you Elise!!


Empath

You are SO very welcome :)  I'm glad you found your way "home".

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/17/16 05:58:18PM
424 posts

Psychic Development #43


Psychic and Paranormal

This is a test.  Did you get a notification?

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/17/16 05:44:52PM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Paul:

Elise, is there any option on the site to "like" a post?

Mmmm a Facebook like (which can be done with the link on the next) or a site specific like (which was had in Ning but don't have here)?

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/01/16 07:22:04AM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

I'm so happy you're all back "home" :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/26/16 07:46:36AM
424 posts

Psychic Experiment NF001


Psychic and Paranormal

I just noticed these!  How fun!  

@paul, I really appreciate that you're not reading people who are alive.  Many thanks for doing these.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/24/16 10:11:43PM
424 posts



As indicated in our Posting Guidelines, we prefer to keep the main forum discussions related to Empaths.  If you want to talk about other topics, I would suggest our wonderful groups!  

Here's a good place to post topics like this:

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/groups/group/54/psychic-protection

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/23/16 06:52:39PM
424 posts



As indicated in our Posting Guidelines, we prefer to keep the main forum discussions related to Empaths.  If you want to talk about other topics, I would suggest our wonderful groups!  

Here's where you can post this excellent question:

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/groups/group/54/psychic-protection

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/16/16 11:32:07AM
424 posts

Changing user picture


Empath

No you don't delete anything.  

I can see that you changed your PROFILE picture here (I see the black cat)

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/cat-whisperer

Did you also change your user picture here? ( I see the calico cat)

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/user/account

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/16/16 11:20:34AM
424 posts

Changing user picture


Empath

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/faqs

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/eliselebeau/blog/1860/how-do-i-change-my-user-photo

You changed your profile picture, not your user picture.  It took me days to figure this out :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/16/16 09:00:38AM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

I am so glad it was an easy transition, @marilyn-neidinger!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/15/16 08:04:28AM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

suze:

I was and am still relatively new to the community.   Thank you for continuing to have a place for us.

Welcome @suze!  May you enjoy many years of companionship among us :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/14/16 12:50:12PM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Ember:

Thank you Elise, for being so dedicated to this community!  I was worried when I first got the email about the community having to move.  I was worried that this wonderful resource and community would be lost.  Thank goodness it got all worked out.  The site looks great! 

Again, Thank you so much Elise!

Ahahaha, I was worried too!  But I managed to get it all worked out, so all is well :)  Thanks for being here!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/14/16 07:13:23AM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Thanks @brianx and @nea.  There's a lot of features but I'm letting you all discover them ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/13/16 09:21:24PM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Rene':

This isn't really a problem so I didn't see the use of making a ticket for this but is anyone else getting notifications about football?  I clicked on the link and it cannot be found.  I have nothing against football and I apologize if this is actual topic but I tried to find it before posting her. 

That was our very first spammer!  I caught it early though which is why all these posts are deleted :)  Always report SPAMMER, though.  It's worth it, in case I've missed one.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/13/16 08:52:54PM
424 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Thanks @karen2!

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