Well, let's go back a little. Most people who have abilities possess more then one. You are obviously opening up to all aspects of your abilities, which is great, but what I have noticed is that some abilities are stronger then others. It's all about connection. For me, I connect through emotions, so if a vision comes to me, the first thing I do while letting the vision play through is connecting to it emotionally. Same thing with clairaudience, especially clairaudience, because if I'm hearing it, chances are, for me, it's a spirit and this "feeling" I connect to helps me discern what type of entity I am dealing with. What's cool about being an Empath is that Empath's who have developed their "feeling" sense and have learned to understand and interpret what they are picking up can easily discern what are they dealing with. You can trick the eyes and you can trick the ears, but you can't change energy and feeling is the most primitive and accurate form of discerning energy. Anytime you connect with energy, your body gives you a response. So even if you see a ghost in front of you that looks like an angel, you should feel a peace or calm light feeling, but if your not feeling that, then that is when you need to question it. Once your versed in feeling, you will be able to feel slight shifts in energy.
I have started a medium class, I think it got moved here, I hope it did! But if it's here, it should be in the psychic teachings area. If I have time to find it, I will send you the link. The class isn't complete, but I believe I added a section for descernment. This isn't just for ghosts,however, it's more about energy. A good place to start is connecting with your angels, higher realm entities, God, whatever brings you light energy. By knowing how this energy makes you feel, this is the foundation for reading that energy further. The thing is, if you know what that energy is and your feeling even the slighest shift in that energy,you know you need to connect further. This takes time to learn, but if you know light energy, you will easily be able to pick up on something that isn't right. Some lower realm, non-human entities try to mask their energy, so even if your feeling a light energy from it, you'll also pick up and underlining enrgy that doesn't feel right. You may feel off, or a lower energy intermixed with the light energy. This is your cue that something isn't what it seems, or that someone is hiding. I feel that Empathic abilities will be your foundation for the rest of your abilities and will help you grow alot quicker. The reason why is because most Empath's connect through feeling. It's almost automatic. You see something and the first thing you do while the vision is playing is connecting to it emotionally in order to gain the entire experience. You hear something, your automatically response is to feel what is around you. So, if you build upon your Empathic abilities, this will give you the foundation you need to build upon the rest of your abilities. Your abilities are tied to the feelings you pick up, this is your connection point. The stronger your desire to connect with it, the stronger your abilities develope. And excercise I used to do to develop my clairvoyance was I had a deck of angel cards. I would have the cards turned over so I couldn't see the picture and I would "feel" the colors of the card. Through this feeling, I could also see where the colors were. For example, I would feel the colors, gold, blue and green, then I would be able to see where on the card the colors were located. This allowed me to train myself to use my abilities together. But without that feeling, I can't do it. I would suggest you do something similiar. It can be a card deck and testing to see if you have felt and see the right colors. If you use a spirit guide,angel, you can also ask for their help and while your connecting to the card, you can ask your guide to tell you what color it is. This will help you with the caliraudience, since many time this abiltiy is done through an outside source. This will also help you to learn your guides voice so if there is any other entity that comes through, you can ask your trusted guide to tell you who they are, what they want ect.
Another thing you can do is to find a historical picture online. Something somewhat famous but you don't have a history on. Look at the picture and write down anything you feel, see, hear, smell, whatever. And write down the order you get them in. Then look it up and see what you got right. Do this often, because it will help you better understand how your abilities work in you. You'll notice when the visions come stronger, or when it changes to hearing things. The one thing you will probebly notice is the constant emotional feelings you get as the rest of your abilities change in and out. Or you may find they are literally working all together and your experieincing it as if you were actually there. By writing it down and breaking it down piece by piece, you will be able to go back and notice patterns, and these patterns show you how all of your abilites work together. Though accuracy will play an important role later on, right now, it's a matter of learning to connect and how YOU connect to that energy. And it may be as simple as, I don't like this feeling. Ok, how does that picture make you feel. It makes me feel sad. Like crying sad, grief or deep pain? you keep asking yourself questions and write down your answers, because this will help you connect on a deeper level. The more you do , the better you connect. You will also be able to see deeper on what exactly you are connecting to. Chances are it will be a feeling or a pulling towards something before you go deeper into it. And that would be your empathic abilities.
I know, I'm writing a book, sorry Hmmmm, I'm sorry, but if your wife also an Empath? For some reason I got that she is also an Empath, very sensative and connects to people's emotions. Ok, reading done,haha.
As far as your ability to protect your family, I'll give you some advice that I learned and used. First, I'm a magickal practioner, so I am a firm believer in energy! Everything is made up of energy and what programs that energy is our belief in it. You said your using protection stones. My question is did you pick out the stones, and did you pick them out because they told you to online or through someone else? If so, take some time and hold the stones. What do they feel like to you?Is it something that represents protection to you? If not, then they won't help any. If your looking for things that will protect your home, it has to be something that you view as protective. It's not the stones energy that protects you, it's your belief in it that activates and programs the stones to protect. If you hold them and your not feeling protective energy, then use them for whatever energy you are feeling off of them. Some people use salt around their home because they believe it will create a protection around their homes. But if someone dumps a bunch of salt around the house without believing it will protect, then it won't. So find things that represent or make you feel protected. I swear, if a rubber ducky represented protection to you, then it will do that. But most people don't use them because it doesn't represent protection to them. If it's prayers and sage, then use that. If it's angels, call upon them every night. Evenn though protection isn't full proof, it defiently helps. For me, I visualize a bubble, and electric bubble, like an electric fence. I visualize it and I can feel the protection. I often visualize it (program) it on overkill, but my belief in it works. Let me put it this way, my daughter when she was younger was a transmedium. There was a female spirit that entered her and the spirit literally described by energy field and wouldn't get to close. Other proof is when I kick them out. I learned it's ALL about energy. If you are kicking out a spirit, if you get mad at them, they will feed of of this anger,if your scared, they will feed off of the fear and your going to have a fight on your hands. The more grounded and neutral you are, the less energy they have to feed off of and leave much easier. It's hard, so what I do is focus on a white light coming from above. I channel this light to come through me and spread out, after a place aprotective bubble around me. To me, my belief in this light and that shadows can't be in the light, this energy pushes them away, and then I tell them where to go and how long to stay. This is a part they don't show you on tv ghost shows. Usually, it's a big brawl between them and an entity and no matter how many scriptures they recite, it takes hours to get rid of them and then when the people start getting tired, the energy has less to feed off of until there is nothing left. They end up leaving waiting until the energy is regenerated and come back with a vengance. Or if they are kicked out of the house, they usually lye in wait for a short time and hitchhike back in. The reason is because noone told them where to go and how long to be there. So, always keep everything light, and be specific on what you are wanting, tell them where to go and for how long.
Now keep in mind, because your and your daughter, and I think your wife, has abilities, you will have entities coming in and out probebly for the rest of your life, but what makes it tolerable is to protect your home, your family the best you can and don't let them freak you out. I found that alot of times they will come, I will hear them or feel,see, them and I kind of ignore them and send them away. Alot of this is done through a quick visualization and end of problem. This takes time,not because it's hard to learn but our brains have a way of doubting what you can't see,doubting if what we did is effective. This is why I also add a visual that uses like a type of energy blast to get them out and then tell them where to do. I have done this for so long, it's second nature to me. The more you do it, the more confidence you will have in your ability. But lways keep this in the back of your mind...energy. You are made of energy, your thoughts, your emotions, your words, action, everything is made up of energy. And it's through all of the above that programs that energy. Spririts are also made of energy and that's why it does work. Your basically working on a more basic platform, on this platform everything is one because everything is made up of energy. You working on the most basic building block of all life,including spiritual. Like the wind, you can't see it, yet you know it's there. Energy works on the same concept. If you remember this, your belief in the protection you do will be more effective.
I know this alot of information. But I hope it helps.
p.s., If I'm right about your wife, you should have her join. We'd love to have her!