Hi, I am new to this, I think I am an empath, I get headaches (or more like tension in my head) when I'm around certain people and my mood can be deeply affected by others especially by people who are in pain or anxious. I live with family but everytime I come to the apartment we live in, I get depressed, I feel hopeless, like there's no point to anything... I could be doing fine before I get home and then all of a sudden, depressed. Can a space do this? How can I stop this happening?
Can a space affect an empath?
It is less likely to be the space of the apartment itself as someone in a neighboring apartment.
The best solution is always find what works for you.
Some material for you to get you going...
- Elise's Empath Survival Program.
- Donna Eden's Zip Up Technique (at 7:15 in the video)
- the Tools for the Empath group
- Light Projector: http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/trevor-lewis/blog/1711/thriving-as-an-empath-the-light-projector-exercise
- "we suffer as empaths when we are only in receptor mode, we thrive as empaths when we step into healer mode". The technique in this paper is my own favorite for reasons that will be obvious when you go there. I personally use this technique every day and many of the people I have shared this with have had a lot of success with the exercise contained here. The main principle here is that it is about reversing the flow so that instead of from-them-to-you it becomes from-Source-through-you-to-them. Try it every day for a week (preferably multiple times a day) and you WILL feel different!
- Chakras for Empaths http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/trevor-lewis/blog/1915/working-the-chakras-for-empaths
Keep asking for help!
To add to what Trevor said, I find that people radiate the most energy. But sometimes people also leave an energetic imprint on a place that lasts for sometime. I have entered houses where the prior owner had since moved out after their teenager died suddenly and I could pick up on the heaviness and sadness. The same for houses where the prior owners were going through a divorce. And this is also why many people get an uneasy feeling where there has been a murder in a property. It leaves a lasting imprint.
But your headaches are normal for an empath as your mind is reacting to the emotional overload. I also get a heaviness in my chest when dealing with intense energy. It is completely normal for you to take on the emotions of those around you. And as Trevor said, it may be someone in that building and not in the immediate apartment that you are visiting.
When you are a newly realized empath you are receiving an overload of energy. The key is to reduce what you take in to a level that you can handle. A lot of empaths call this lowering the volume. Trevor gave some great links to start with. In them you will learn how to ground out the emotional energy that you take in. And that is very important.
Cool, thank you so much for your advice. I think it may be that my family has been going through a hard time recently and because of some recent difficulties in my life I no longer have the strength to support them as I might have in the past. I will read and watch what you've provided, thanks!
And on that note, you may find the people closest to you transfer the strongest low energy to you. It's due to your strong bonds to them. It can seem like a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, your family probably knows you as a good listener and someone who they feel better and have happier moods when you are around. But that energy you take away has to go somewhere, and as an empath you are a sponge. So as you help them feel better, you sponge it up and feel worse.
This is where grounding comes in. As an empath you have to practice self care and ground out what you take in. Check out those links to learn more. And then feel free to post questions so that we can further help.
It is a wonderful book for the newly discovered empath with lots of great tools and advice. Even after one read, it’s a great look back for reference guide. Not one that you would read and just put away.
I think I might be a little late to this, but I have had a similar experience in my home. Now I don't know how your home and family is, emotionally, but if they're like mine and don't along, your body can start reacting that way through association with negative events alone. I know that's been the case for me, and I tend to avoid my family, even though the only way to really solve the issue is spending time with my family, its horribly exhausting and I've given up because something happens and then everything falls apart again (My parents aren't happy with each other and that "energy" or anger and deep-rooted unhappiness has passed to the children, so everyone seems miserable, constant yelling and fighting).
If your family isn't anything like that, you could be picking up emotions from maybe a neighbor or neighboring family who are unhappy. In my experience, things usually stay to rooms, or specific objects, but I've never lived in an apartment to know if I can feel a different families state.
The last thing I could think of for you is maybe if you're comfortable, when you get home all the stressors from the day "hit" and really take their toll. If that's the case then I've heard grounding techniques work really well (they don't work for me unfortunately, but I still recommend trying them)
There are also physical elements like maybe mildew or something that you could look into, you'd likely be more sensitive to those things as well.
I will be honest, every family has some sort of issues, minor or major, but if that might be the cause for you and you're able to, I'd recommend finding a way to either helping the people you're closest too to calm down, or to find a way to just ease the situation the best you can. If it still continues, hold out til you can find a place of your own, some things are simply bigger than us. When people's ego's come into play, ambition and pride can stop any external factor from really helping, it'll take a personal change in individuals.
Best of luck to you!
I agree with you 100%. I built my home on vacant land about 17 years ago in an area that was uninhabited. But we have had a ton of spirit activity over the years.
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My area was once a native american summer hunting ground hundreds of years ago. There were tribes that would travel here in the summer and live and hunt for months. So I would imagine there were some deaths and burials nearby. But my family and I never see native spirits. In fact, the vast majority of spirits that pass through our home are wearing modern clothing from the past 1-2 decades. We rarely see the same spirit twice and I am starting to wonder if we have some sort of portal nearby that is bringing these spirits in. But that's a whole other story.
It can be hard to tell whether it's the space itself or another person residing in it however. My empathic issues skyrocketed after moving from my house with two roommates to an apartment building full of people.
I also for some reason find myself happier and more comfortable and contained in rooms with slanted ceilings or otherwise asymmetric architecture. Something about boxy, square rooms seems to collect and condense energy in a bad and annoying way.
Try bringing some "happy" energy to the space- put on some music you love, open the windows (only for a few minutes if it's chilly!) and clean/dust. Light some candles or incense or go with some room spray if that's more your jam. I also find that rearranging furniture helps clear out some of the nasty energetic gunk in a room.