Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
last year
780 posts
@alexisw
First of all...welcome to the EC! I hope you have found a place where you can be real
What @sensi-sante mentioned about being a cancer in the family is oh so true! Toxic people will create toxic atmospheres any place they go. Like an energy vampire, they will suck the good energy out of everyone and leave nothing but hurt in their path. Your empathness had picked up on this...hence your dislike for her. It is sad that we can be an early warning system but one that no one seems to heed advice from. Below is a link that will perhaps give you some pointers on how to proceed in this touchy situation
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/9-ways-smart-people-deal-toxic-people/
Additionally, if you don't do it yet, I suggest that you get grounded and centered. Shield yourself as well to prevent her garbage from seeping into you (which sounds like it already has) There are a lot of different techniques to doing this. Check out Elise's Empath Survival Guide for starters
Blessings
updated by @cat-whisperer: 05/13/17 06:59:01AM
Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
last year
977 posts
Hi....you may also need to detach her energy link/cord from you...you can also detach it from your brother...when we encounter people we link or connect to them via an energy cord...the energy cord allows us to exchange information without speaking and we as empaths are quite good at interpreting those cords....so...she attatched to you when you 1st met her and her energy is not compatible with you...so you can remove that cord anytime you want...that should take care of some of the energy transference....just have a 'feel' round your energy and see if you can find it...there are a few methods of cord cutting on the net...so just Google cutting energy cords and something should pop up...that's my preferred method of dealing with these kind of pepole. ..cut the cord on a regular basis until she's gone....
Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
last year
977 posts
That cord will also have 'roots'...you should remove those as well....you should remove them from your mom as well...once they're attatched they get into EVERY nook and cranny...once she's gone for good...you should remove her cords from everyone in your house...you energy should even out after it's gone...
LoconnorO
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
last year
168 posts

This almost sounds like a narcissistic relationship... I wouldn't know unless I saw it but if she's bringing up problems about trust, she's obviously projecting the worst side of herself on someone else. I know how hard this is going to be before I even recommend it so I understand if you don't like what I'm going to say, but I believe she was put in your life for a reason. It sounds like she's broken and confused with her life, and as hard as it will be, I suggest allowing her to get close to you. Keep your guard up, and keep the focus on her, not you (tell her small details but don't get too personal if you can help it). Focus on her and try to set aside your feelings for her. Just let her talk to you about her life and things and see what she really needs. Everyone acts the way they do because of their past, most people don't know how to let go and live openly without restraints from guilt or things they haven't moved past. Just slowly get closer, you'll find her motive, but don't do the easy things and use it against her, help her out and be someone she can talk to. You have an amazing chance to do some good for someone, here.

Now on the other hand, if it gets worse, don't be toxic towards her and always be kind, but definitely keep a barrier up. Don't "avoid" her, but when she talks and you feel like she's lying, ask about it. Let her know you see right through it. But don't pry around if you choose this route. You'll end up hurting someone else and that is always the wrong thing to do, no matter who you're working against. Stay true and stay positive, and if she chooses to stay on a darker path of selfishness and lying, then eventually she will feel unsafe there.  But for the record I think this is a chance for you to help someone else and really build yourself in the process. 

Anyway you choose best of luck and blessings to you!

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