This really bothers me and I feel very uneasy. Any other man I would just write off. Why do they come back?
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Though we often run into people who we have shared a past life with, it sounds more possible that the recognition you are getting is more on an empathic level level then anything else. Meaning, Empath's are often drawn to other Empath's because we share a similiar "DNA" or "vibe". So, this could be a possibility, however, we also have a tendency of connecting with people "in need". What sucks is we often confuse love with "saving them". You can usually tell because these people often have alot of problems so we become the loving nurturer and they never seem to work on the problems. We give, they take and there is no balance, no equality to the relationship. Sometimes it is a soulmate connection (we have many of them) and we do recognize them on a soul level, but even though we have this instant recognition, it usually takes quite a bit of time to understand what that connection truly is. If we find out they were a lover in a past life, then you will probebly have a pull towards them that is more romantic, but it doesn't mean they will be a lover in this lifetime, as they often travel with us and play different roles in different lifetimes. Soul connections are an interesting topic, especially the initial connection part, but it's also important to read the signs until you have a greater understanding of what that connection really is, in this lifetime.
Like I said, Empath often confuse this instant recognition for love, thinking, ifwe are so drawn together, it's gotta mean something, and it does mean something, but more often then not, it's not love. You already know this guy isn't interested in anything serious right now. It could be that he does have all these deep emotions and it's caring him because he doesn't know what it means either, or maybe he's not ready, or maybe he's got other people on the side and the universe is to save you the grief, IDK. What I do know is to take some time and look at him and the situation apart from the Empathic abilities. Part of being an Empath also allows us to dive deeper into the soul and read the "potential" of a person, the core of who they are, but alot of people don't even go this deep and will often choose to be more their human self as opposed to their higher spiritual self that you see. Just because they have it, doesn't mean they want to use it. Trust me, I learned this the hard way. Once I seperated his soul and looked at him and the situation more objectively, though I know we each have this connection and deep down inside we will always love each other, the reality is, he's a jerk and someone I would never date otherwise. He seems to have issues with women and once they leave the friendzone, and move into GF mode, they become one of many piles of women in his little blackbook that he hooks up with when he has nothing better going on. He knows this and I know this and no matter how strong our connection is, he just can't do it. He can't let a woman get that close to his heart, he can't commit. He just can't do it, but when we're friends, he's awesome, kind, helpful and would give the shirt off his back. Problem is, we can never be "just friends" because the connection is to strong, so our friendship is distant, if that makes sense, but since we've known each for almost 30 years, we can not,not, be somewhere in each others lives. I know he's lost in many way's and he knows this to, he told me, but I can't change him, this is something he needs to do on his own,but perhaps it's that connection that keeps him grounded enough to keep him completely loosing his way. IDK. I had to accept that fate has already determined we will never be more then this, which had left room for my beautiful husband, who I have NO doubt is a true Angel. And I'm ok with this. But there are reasons for these connections, but the only way we can figure out what type of connection it is is to look at the signs and listen closely to what you instincts tell you. Which can be hard, especially when we desire something as beautiful as love. But we have to pull back and look at things on the surface. Do I really want to be with someone who is so back and forth? Is this guy a player which is why he leaves and comes back? Does he have commitment issues? Is he the type of guy I NEED in order to have a fulfilling type of relationship,ect. There is never a guarantee with love but by taking these steps back and seeing them for what they really are on this surface may help you save yourself alot of pain and heartache. Your Mr. Right is out there so don't settle. Over time you will be able to distinguish the different types of connection more easily.
But anyway's, these are just some lessons I learned along the way and hopefully it will help you. I would also research online about soul connection. Just remember that we have more then 1 soulmate and these people often come into our lives for more specific or deeper reasons, but those reasons ay differ then what we originally may think.
@tigerlilly go with your gut ! I know you want to know why,l like I do in anything,but it will drive you nuts! Many times we don't have the answer , although the answer may just surface by itself..Why,in anything I had to let go,I would be spinning my wheels and draining my energy! All I can say is go with your gut as far as anything! Good Luck❤️😀
@ tigerlilly,I think what everyone has shared here is such great info.......I'm at a point in my life, I stay away from over thinking,especially when thee is no answer!😜 We do meet people for a reason,I don't believe in coincidences ,and yrs later it comes out why I met them,i.e.,I met a couple on a cruise,I knew the husband but just met his wife...We hit it off great! Through her she gave me the name if a urologist that did vasectomy reversals after my Dr said Forgetaboutit! Well it was performed and I had a beautiful son born! Here is the best to me out of this,My sister in law had a urologist in the same office at the same time I was seeking out this procedure! It took meeting a friend on a cruise to guide me there! Iv also met people 2 who were friends in fact...These two girls couldn't have been nicer...after awhile my gut said ,break away from them for no reason I could make sense of at that time, and couldn't up until now! The other day someone said to me after I told the story, shed some light on this and said,you would have been under their control! That makes sense...This was 34 yrs ago when I experienced breaking away from someone for no reason other than my gut!
I don't think I've ever felt a bad feeling from him, but I do feel like he is lonely or empty. As from anything I did learn from him is probably what the dr ordered about stress mgnt. As I'm letting things go, but yet feel it come back I think of him. As for my dreams, it doesn't seem he's been a past lover, but maybe a protector of some kind.
I have had people that feels my energy and falls in love with it. But after awhile, they see I'm an actual human and not a magical fairy, the drift away. Then drop back in from time to time to feel my energy again and leave again. I don't get attached to anyone because of this. When they start telling me after one day that they are in love with me. I stop them right there and tell them, no, that's my energy not my everyday human. Lol. I think when we vibration at a high frequency, we attract a whole lot of people that wants to feel us because we feel so light and full of love.
This may of sounded crazy but I have experienced it too many times for it to be a coincidence.
I did have a dream that man I know came into my house and met my parents , weird dream to me. Well he didn't meet my parents but he did come to my house, like 2 months later. Which I usually don't invite people over, I just meet them out. But his gentlemen charm wanted to pick me up. So of course that dream hit me later in the evening and I thought shit omg. I know he was dating someone and we agreed to be friends, and if he is a soul mate, I'd like to have him as a friend if nothing more comes from it. Although that hard in itself.