Being afraid to stop absorbing the energy of others

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Cinnamon Mystic
8 months ago
2 posts

Hi, I'm relatively new on this forum and I'd like to ask an empath-related question. I realised that I'm an empath about a year ago and I've started working on myself since some time now, using different tools to get centered in myself, and identify when I'm absorbing other people's energies. The issue is that I noticed that I have this huge fear to disconnect from other people's energy. It's like I'm afraid that I'm going to disappear, or to become completely isolated. 

Has anyone ever experienced something similar?

Thank you.

updated by @cinnamon-mystic: 08/09/17 01:42:02PM
8 months ago
33 posts

I understand somewhat what you are talking about. I took for granted & thought that everyone felt things the way I do. But, when I have a serious head cold or when I was younger and tried pot or other mood altering things...I feel totally disconnected & in my own space only. It is terrifying & I am VERY uncomfortable with it! I think that controlling your energy yourself would give you the freedom to go back to the way things were if it were too uncomfortable? I have never been able to disconnect enough voluntarily to feel angst, only relief!

8 months ago
783 posts
HI...I tend to look at it this way....when I WAS connected I wasn't myself...I was taking on other peoples' emotions...even experiences....I didn't know who I was....not at all....the scarey part was when I started to disconnect I HAD to get to know myself...find out who I was...what I was capable of...everything that I thot I was...wasn't the truth about energetically is the start of knowing yourself...facing yourself without the input from other ppl to taint your view about in fact your FINDING yourself by disconnecting....what you are loosing are the lies and misconceptions you receive from others while being tied to these will never loose family or friends...but how you view yourself without their input at the energy level will alow you to see yourself for the 1st time...we can never disconnect for good...not even at will always connect to ppl you socialize with at the energy level....taking them off AFTERwards so you can continue to be yourself is really not that scary at all...once you get to that point in your mind...there will BE no fear....I LIKE being
8 months ago
19 posts


I've recently found out that I am an empath and have been hearing about and looking up things people do to help live and thrive as an empath. Of course, this usually means to stop being overwhelemed with emotions by putting up a shied, and this is what I think you mean by "stop absorbing the energy of others."

I have to say, that I am very scared of this to for a few reasons.

1) There are times when I have (accidentally) cut myself from others emotionally, after feeling completely emotionally drained by others. This is what lead me to believe I was a sociopath or something before I learned the term empath, because I thought I wasn't feeling real emotions when they were just mine. I felt very empty, and I would wonder if events A, B, or C would happen , how would I feel? And each answer was the same: I would be ok with any option, even though I knew the out comes would be very different as it would affect OTHER people very much and in different ways. This made made me very uncomfortable, because I feel like no normal person would go through this.

2) There are many times I've discovered that I use my empath abilities to unconsciously bring people near me. I now know that I am able to feel what they're feeling or want as a friend, and amplify that emotion back at them, which makes it sometimes easy to meet people, and makes me happy to be around them if i think I am helping them. Without feeling this or reflecting what they want back (someone to laugh with, advise them, or just sit with), I am scared I will lose the connection that brings me close to people.

That being said, I have realized that I need to find a balance between blocking people's emotions out and letting them in. Blocking people out has lead to the problems stated above.

But I believe that this fear is a result of not knowing myself in the first place. If I don't block out other peoples emotions, I realize that I am not myself, and makes me feel distant from others. If I block them out, I realize that I am distance from others. Therefore, I need to learn how to be myself, and let people be drawn to me for being me.

8 months ago
1,194 posts
Hello. I was that way at one time. It was like I needed the connection as bad as they did. I was so use to helping others that I was letting them drain my energy. I liked to feel wanted though. But it got to be too much. I was way off balanced and I had to cut them free. And guess what.. they lived. Lol. And now I feel so much better. I now set boundaries with people. I help as mush as my energy allows without draining myself. We can not help others heal if we are broken ourselves. Our mental health comes first. Just saying.

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