My feeling is that you should probably look up a psychic medium that has a proven track record if you can find one close to where you live that you trust for this kind of information. And otherwise, I would just go with whatever your gut says is right, because it probably is! By just the way you wrote this it seems that you already believe in what your intuition is telling you!
My beliefs are that we all reincarnate multiple, Thousands Probably, times. And that we experience both male and female lifetimes as we continue to grow and learn. And everything in these fields of experience are weird because we are just now beginning to build a frame of reference to these experiences, but we have a very long way to go!