It seems your post is missing some details for me to really understand your situation. Do you give advice that they take that then backfires? Or do you give advice that they mostly ignore and then things blow up on them? If it's the later then I would say the old "you can't lead a horse to water, but can't make him drink" situation. Some people ignore advice and signs and insist on doing things the hard way. I've dealt with this myself where a person is making all the wrong choices leading down a path of self-destruction. That's the unfortunate path they choose. You can't force their choices if they block your advice. And sometimes you just have to let them fall before they will listen to you and their own signs.
It's always interesting to me how many people won't listen while they are falling down. They will only listen when they have fallen, and are wounded and weak.
, one particular case, I was given a one sided story so inevitably I advised accordingly, as time went on I got both sides, what ever I could offer to the best of my judgement for both, (I could only advise 1 for confidentiality purposes) they would inquire from other sources only to abide by what suited them (conditioned by negative emotions/thoughts).. and this applied to both involved.
something strange happened though in regards to this one, it came to the final straw and I'd given up helping as it felt like the natural thing to do, as I was absorbed in they're energy, I pulled they're soul apart from the person they were connected to, and the rest feels as though it's now in gods hands to take care of?!
The 2nd case, it's in progress, they tend to come round but it's strange links with destiny and future?!
The 3rd, I feel like the people involved 1 in particular, is like I'm a puppet being pulled and swayed as my guides and saintly ancestors/ god see fit, if I make mistakes I learn from my own karmic lessons..
I've learnt though with certain kniwings if accept them as they are they tend to pass me like a vessel and once I come out from they're energies I can make prayers and help in whatever constructive ways possible, usually try with subtle hints here and there..
But I do agree with what you said in reference to the horse saying. I just get really anxious because ofcourse people like to learn the hard way (myslef guilty of this too at times) I go into fear because I just feel underequipped where knowledge and understanding in this could potentially benefit, yet I lack it so I fear the worst for myself when it reaches this point..
Thank you for Ur reply x