It seems your post is missing some details for me to really understand your situation. Do you give advice that they take that then backfires? Or do you give advice that they mostly ignore and then things blow up on them? If it's the later then I would say the old "you can't lead a horse to water, but can't make him drink" situation. Some people ignore advice and signs and insist on doing things the hard way. I've dealt with this myself where a person is making all the wrong choices leading down a path of self-destruction. That's the unfortunate path they choose. You can't force their choices if they block your advice. And sometimes you just have to let them fall before they will listen to you and their own signs.
It's always interesting to me how many people won't listen while they are falling down. They will only listen when they have fallen, and are wounded and weak.
updated by @hop-daddy: 04/21/18 05:32:35PM