Yes. I'd like to talk about my experiences in counseling others. Somehow it is like cheating, but that extra antenna has allowed me to explore deeper into the core of a person. How wonderful and strange it is. The trick, of course, is knowing how to exit and be in the self again. though, I often wonder why (also knowing the answer) I run into developing empaths that don't know they are. Sometimes I find this out later on rather than in the onset. It also poses some blurry lines in treatment course decision-making. Yes they are not going "crazy" - just finding themselves. This can sometimes be a long journey - less scary, though, when going there when not feeling completely alone in the process. Ultimately, however, everyone is somewhere on a spectrum of external energy awareness. Empaths seem to be on the tail end of this.
I agree with . For me, being a social worker would be brutal. I would have trouble functioning with all darkness of seeing first hand what people do to each other and their kids. But if you can manage the stress and bad you are going to be exposed to, I would imagine being an empath would be really helpful. They do say the perfect job for an empath is in helping people.
I have worked with the public my whole life...Just when you think you have heard it all,then! Being a cosmetologist many people have confided in me...In fact many have thanked me for listening or directing them where they need to go.....Then people on the phone can suck the life out of you..A social worker I could not be unless I worked in a department to connect people from a hospital to rehab ..When it comes to abuse of anyone but especially children ,no way can I do that..
I always knew I wanted to work with other people and help them in any way i could which influenced my decision to get my B.A. in Psychology and Social Work. My plan was to be a social worker but after I graduated, this field didn't resonate with me as much. I know many social workers including my sister and they seemed unhappy for the most part and the stories I would hear weighed heavy on me. I wasn't sure if i would be able to do this for a living any longer and my spirituality also started to develop at this point. I was also unaware that I was an empath at the time so I was struggling with wanting to help everyone but also being very afraid and sometimes uneasy around groups of people or strangers. Discovering the word Empath was certainly a life changing moment for me and helped make sense of so many of my life experiences. After doing a lot grounding and shielding work, I felt more comfortable and ready to really put myself out there and start working with people. I now work as a Life Coach which felt right for me since I first encountered the career (also helped that 4 different readers/psychics mentioned that i need to be coaching in my readings lol).
I was a psychiatric social worker, but was in administration, which was my forte (Virgo rising) and I ran two programs that did preventative work with at risk teen girls before they got in major trouble, so I never had to deal with serious abuse problems, etc. Even during my internship, I worked with adolescents with addictions and some kids with other problems easily fixed with behavioral therapy, so I escaped being directly exposed to the evil situations many encounter. I've read the average social worker lasts 7 years before burning out and quitting.
For me, the best part of my job, besides knowing I was part of a helping team, was the totally flexible hours I had. I have 3 sleep disorders, one of which made me a total night owl, and I could not be healthy working typical 8-5 hours. Now that I am old that has switched around, and I can't sleep any later than 5 am if I am lucky, not even with the help of tons of supplements.
The point being that the right job may allow you to give the help we empaths so much need to give, without suffering too much in the process. I turned down jobs that I just knew would destroy me, though I'd never heard the term "empath" back then. One example: working the graveyard shift on a suicide line by myself.
Though I am not frequent on this site, I can tell you that the hotline I worked on was probably the most rewarding experience for me. Not only did it eliminate the visual distractions of counseling, it also provided a more enriching experience of digesting the energy of the callers in ways that allowed me to absorb their energetic presence into my own psyche and, in a way, gave me a valuable moment of their life if only for a glimpse. How wonderful it really was. That energy made me feel alive when experiencing humanity through another's lens of perceptual awareness. Counseling now is only secondary to the hotline years but I still get glimpses of their journey and am able to regurgitate it to help them. It's my secret weapon as an Empath but also as a fellow "human" - whatever that term means now a days.
I am really glad to know you thrived on the hotline! That is a lot of pressure in my book. Goes to show we are all different. I really applaud what you did. I was very afraid to hold life and death in my hands all alone like that. I could still do group therapy, but one on one therapy would be too much for me now, since my adrenals are shot from being so ill with Lyme Disease for so long. I wish you the best as your career goes forward. It sounds like you've learned to release negative energy very well. I wish I was better at that. I've never been able to master any method I've tried and have to isolate to prevent it.
Thanks for the comment C.Cat. The best I can tell you is that I digest other's energy. When I get a glimpse of what they are going through, I absorb it and use the energy as a way to power my empathy even more. Feeling other's pain nurtures me and includes me in the struggle f\of humanity. Yet I know I am different and separate as well. What a wonderful thing to feel alive\. However, somethings were harder to shake off and could not be readily absorbed as I became oversaturated. It is the core of the person that I connected to, not the surface pain itself. That made all the difference. Guess its my clairsentient self.
If you are empowered and energized by other people's "stuff" then you have a really unique skill there. The rest of us just get drained when absorbing other's low energy. Has this always been this way with you or have you learned a technique to transform low energy to high energy as you absorb it?
How do you deal with a classroom? Many of you have degrees which means you've spent years in school on college campuses. I've never been able too. I dropped out of high school, as soon as I could, and got my G.E.D. I went to a community college for one semester, and failed every class. I just stopped showing up to class after awhile. I couldn't focus.
I'm thinking what kind of job I need to be doing. I was a water treatment specialist for about 15 years. I let my licence expire and have trying to get it back, but in Texas they make it close to impossible. Water is life. Good water is important. I felt that I was fulfilling my purpose.
I became a well driller last year. It was the best job ever! That drill rig is a grounding rod. I could lean on it and feel the vibration and send that negative energy down hole. Because of it I know these places where grounding is as easy as walking. The natural gas pipe line is grounded with a graphite grout to prevent lighting strikes. If your close to them you'll know it. The problem I had with the job was the other people around stealing my focus. If I was sharing their focus we were an efficient team, but when I was in charge that worked against me. On my jobs, I would pick helpers that didn't know what they were doing. Anyone with experience had their own ideas about how things should be done. They would interfere with my thought process. You have to focus in the drilling business, otherwise people get hurt, or die.
I was pushed out of that job. It's a competition. We all muscle for rank and recognition. I hate competition. I would rather take a loss and be able congratulate someone else on their victory. I share in it. On a team with a goal I could facilitate the bond between us. Afterward we would relish the victory over the forces against us. The harder it was, the greater the victory. The scars are a testament to our previous successes. That bond is a warriors bond. The next day it would be broken by competition, or time passing, or just the crap that people think we do. They didn't understand it. They were Roughnecks and Yard Dogs, and I loved them anyway. That job just wasn't for me.
I'm not really working right now. I took time off to figure out what I need to be doing. I liked the handyman work, but once again there are issues. I'd like to go back to school and get a degree in criminal justice. I could be a private investigator. I have an internal lie detector, and the ability to learn thing others can't or don't. Being an Empath is useful in so many ways, as long your using it to help others. You guys have found your niche. I haven't.
I want to know this: How do you deal with school?
It sounds like the type of job that fits you best would be doing something outside an office (probably out in nature like what you had with the drill rig). And since you say you struggle with a class environment, I would imagine you would also want to avoid an inside an office job for now.
My son is also an empath and is in high school and really struggled last year with similar focus issues to what you are noting. There is a close similarity between what many empaths go through and what ADD kids go through. Many of our brains are so busy sensing what is going on around us that we cannot focus on the task at hand in a class environment. We were able to help our son improve by having him carry protection stones with him as a way to block some of the energy that was distracting him. And we also had him take some natural focus supplements that seemed to help. He was also not getting enough sleep. And I don’t know if any of you out there have also noticed this, but some of my worst empath days are when I am sleep deprived. So forcing him to get more sleep also seemed to better help him get through the school day.
But I would say in a case when school causes sensory overload for an empath, a nice short cut fix would be to take online courses. That of course doesn't help you get past the problem of being in a group environment that will surely reoccur later in life. But at least it is an option.
As you figured out, I want to be able to go to school with all the other kids. I used to wear protection stones on rings until they eventually broke. I never replaced them. I think I should make some new ones. I'll try it again.
As far as sleep goes, I'm naturally nocturnal. I'm looking into night school.
Of course you do. And truthfully, you won't be able to properly use your gifts as an empath until you can be among huge groups of people. But that will happen in good time. You have to take baby steps and first protect yourself. A couple years back I had a real rough time being around clients and people at work. So I withdrew as best as I could with a lot of telecommuting so that I could hermit a bit at home. I had no control over the strong and intense anxiety that I picked up from everyone and at that time, withdrawing from society was a necessary step while I healed and took time to figure it out. But now two years later I usually don't have problems in crowds. And if I do, I understand it more so I can keep the anxiety at a low level.
A big part of my personal healing and strengthening as an empath came from carrying protection stones with me at all times, and meditating often. When you find the right stone combo for you they will help you be stronger while protecting you at the same time. I did want to note that I don't know if smaller stones that fit in a ring are going to work. I keep stones in a light pouch in my pocket that are each about the size of a quarter.