The Empath Blues: 4 ways to relieve Emotional Fatigue

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EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

From my Blog. Enjoy!

sadDo you suffer from the Empath blues? Impaired Empaths have a high risk of experiencing "unexplainable sadness". Constantly feeling the negative emotions of others can trigger a form of emotional exhaustion where nothing feel good anymore. Here's how to spot and alleviate "emotional fatigue".

According to wikipedia, "decisional fatigue refers to the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual, after a long session of decision making". This concept has been studied extensively in psychology where people who have to make a lot of decisions as part of their daily job, like judges for example, become worn out over time and tend to make poorer decision later in the day. The mind becomes exhausted and has a hard time evaluating trade offs, a critical skill in decision making.

In a similar vein, Empaths can become overly activated by the constant emotional information that they have to process. This is especially true for Impaired Empaths who have a hard time regulating the influx of emotions they pick up from other people. Overtime, their ability to appropriately respond to emotions can become erratic, leaving them feeling powerless and depressed.

Under a spell of the Empath blues, you might start to feel sad without knowing why. You are also more likely to feel depressed later in the day, waking up fine in the morning but experiencing a decline in your positive emotions as the day goes by. The Empath blues is typically temporary but can become chronic if left unattended. Please note that anyone who feels depressed over a long period of time might be suffering from clinical depression and should immediate seek medical help as well as therapeutic counseling.

So what can you do when you find yourself in the throes of the Empath blues? There is a very common misconception that the remedy for emotional fatigue is to try to be "happier". Meaning that you should try to think positively, even though you feel utterly crappy. Have you ever been with someone who was trying to cheer you up while you felt sad? Despite their best efforts, you kinda want them to shut up and go away.

This reaction makes perfect sense when you consider that alleviating emotional fatigue requires emotional quiet, which is the absence of strong emotions. Feeling happy is a strong emotion and strong emotions, whether positive or negative, are exactly what caused emotional fatigue in the first place! Not only that but trying to cheer up on the spot takes a huge amount of effort when you are feeling sad. You're trying to jump from one end of the emotional spectrum (sadness) into the opposite end (happiness) while being exhausted, so you're more likely to fall flat on your face mid jump.

Most Empaths are not familiar with the state of emotional quiet required to address emotional fatigue. They are so used to feel tugged in all kinds of emotional direction that feeling nothing is often equated with feeling dead or empty. They wonder if something's wrong. And yet, this is no different than sleep for the body! We need down time where we let out body, mind and emotions rest.

Fortunately, Empath are often very intuitive beings. They feel drawn to what is good for them. That's why if you're an Empath you'll probably recognize some of your own urges in the 4 most effective ways to relieve emotional fatigue.

Empath gardeningBeing alone: Empaths need time by themselves where they are less likely to be tuning into the emotions of others around them. It doesn't mean you're anti-social or that you don't like people! It just means you need to refuel before going back out into the world. Make sure you have plenty of alone time when you're doing something that is not emotional, such as knitting, gardening, cooking, etc. I like to play video games on my computer, which requires strategy but has no emotional triggers. Be creative!

Empath in natureBeing in nature: Many Empaths report feeling most at peace in nature, among trees and in large bodies of water like the ocean or a lake. With good reasons! Trees and water provide a natural "white noise" when it comes to emotional vibration. It's like wearing a noise canceling headset to drown out the emotions of people. I walk 5 miles a week in the forest around my house which rejuvenates and energizes me for the day.

Khole Rock Climbing Series A 42Being physical active: Physical activity can provide a great buffer against emotional fatigue by taking your focus away from emotions and into your own physical body. For our purposes, the physical activity needs to be challenging enough that it requires your full attention. Rock climbing and yoga are my favorite activities to get emotionally quiet.

Buddha GardenMeditation: Meditation provides a powerful way to guide your focus away from other people. This can be very challenging for Empaths who tend to always tune into others. It can feel unnatural or difficult at first. But being able to create a quiet space within, whether by focusing on your breath or by following a guided audio meditation, can give you the space you need to rest both your mind and your delicate emotional system.

in love,

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D.,
Professional Intuitive
http://www.EliseLebeau.com
Heal. Learn. Grow.


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/10/17 08:43:36AM
Dice
@dice
4 years ago
284 posts

Thank you for this Elise. This is wonderful information and reminds me that I need to make time for me to have consistency in my life. I have battled depression my whole life and have managed to pull myself out... the last few months have been a challenge.

Thank you again,

Candice

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

Depression is so common among us, even if it's often not "our" depression. I hope you can find something in there that helps :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

You're welcome, i'm glad you like it! I'm lucky to have very bossy spirit guides who remind me of this stuff all the time but it does need to be repeated a lot (at least for me :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

I love that feeling when you "resonate" with something in a way that reminds you of what you know :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

Timing is everything ;) I'm glad it's helpful. Keep in mind that it takes time to get back out to feeling yourself (just yourself, I mean). But if you keep heading in that direction, you can't miss it!

Angel
@angel
4 years ago
607 posts

This is awesome and so true! I get depressed sometimes and all I want is to be left alone and listen to music. Depending on the music I listen to will depend if I get sadder or feel better. Your absolutely right, the music with no words or strong emotions work so much better. Getting out in nature with Loreena McKennit on my MP3 player always lifts the mood :)

This is a great post! Thank you so much for sharing it with us!!

Blessed Be,

Angel

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

Loreena is also on my playlist!!! We should make an Empath friendly playlist lol!

Nea
@nea
4 years ago
201 posts

Great list and advice Elise :)

May I add that I think that eating well and taking care of yourself by making sure you get all the nutrients you need also helps. It really helped me when I stopped eating sugar all the time and started eating better. I didn't get as tired as fast, even though ofcourse I have to do the other stuff too. Also, I think it's individual what a person will feel best eating, but being healthy is a good start I guess. :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

I love perfect timing :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

So true. I also noticed that I fared better in general when I keep the sugar levels low.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
4 years ago
414 posts

I love your vision for living by the ocean! I moved myself from Montreal to a more serene Pacific Northwest setting and I love it!

Nea
@nea
4 years ago
201 posts

Oh yes, sleep - I love to sleep. My job just has so weird times, and I am generally bad at getting to bed on regular times...I just know I feel better when I sleep often - I really would love to sleep mid day too, if I could. ;)

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