Feeling a little down and confused...

LoconnorO
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
3 weeks ago
168 posts

Hello everyone! I felt like making a post both to start a conversation and maybe for some advice. 

First, for the conversation part. I went to my aunt's and uncle's house in Pennsylvania, and I've had so many good memories growing up at that house. I think my favorite part of being there is how "clear" the energy there is. Both my Aunt and Uncle are in a great relationship and work hard to keep it up. It feels so comfortable to walk into their home and feel at ease with the place, mostly because it's so calm and there's lack of tension. It's so relaxing to go there, even surrounded by family. But the problem for me was coming home. My home is so tense, and the rooms are stained by all the tension. I didn't realize it, but the atmosphere of the house is so chaotic (even when I'm the only one home) and it feels almost like walking through water. I'm ready to leave home to say the least (College student staying at home). Does anyone else experience environments like this? What are some of the words you use to describe environments... like "heavy", "loud", "dense". I would love a story or two that stands out when you read this.

Second, I would love it if someone would share something a little deeper, something that can help me grow more I guess. I'm really struggling with certain things and I'm conflicted on where to go in life.

I guess I'm looking to read what people have to share the most. I'd also invite anyone who wants to to start a conversation as well. I'm in an interesting mood and will likely enjoy talking with whoever needs an ear for the next few days (or longer, who knows). 

Thanks in advance!

michelle
@michelle
3 weeks ago
63 posts
Okay, I'll give a go at a different thought. How many here think it's up to everyone else around them to clean up their own energy? Especially when they may know nothing about subtle energies that surround us?

My other question is how many of we empaths add to the pollution our own environs with our reactions to others tensions? Most likely this won't win the popular post award, but really folks, there's alot of poor me attitudes around here.
I'm here to say man up or woman up, whatever the case may be.

Have any ever heard the saying,
"You make yourself and others suffer just as much when you take offense as when you give offense."
Harold Sherman on
Self-reliance

I remember literally feeling a shift in my being when I realized that my father, and later on my mother, are just people. That we hold our parents and others to unrealistic demands that we can't even hold up to ourselves. Parents/family members/others all have their own tensions to deal with like maybe money problems, betrayal, fatigue, exasperation, jobs they hate...I hope you get the idea.

So my advice is that we clean up our own energy fields so that we are not adding to an already polluted mental environment on Earth.

We would not have been endowed with these gifts if it was thought that we were not strong and would crumble under them. Own your gifts and see where they can be put to good use. How can we call ourselves empaths when we don't have empathy for the burdens that others bear? And, possibly, could we ourselves have become a burden to others around us through our own self inflicted pity of no one understands us?!
LoconnorO
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
3 weeks ago
168 posts

How does one clean someone else's energy out of a place they live in? I can't control other people's emotions... Although I do agree with taking power over your life and not walking around with a "poor me" attitude. However, there are some situations beyond anything you can control, that one must simply leave. @michelle

michelle
@michelle
3 weeks ago
63 posts
@loconnoro
Take it upon yourself
To clear negative energies from your parents' home. Below an article geared toward empaths and HSPs for clearning negative energy. Note that the author also advises to be aware
of any of our own energies we might be adding to the environment.
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20 Effective Ways to Clear and Proctect
Against Negative
Energy

August 14, 2015

By Banu Sekendur

Guest writer for Wake Up World

We live in a world of duality, as it is intended to be. This means that there is good and bad as well as right and wrong. This yin-yang theory exists within and without. The reason why the earth plane is a great school for a soul’s expansion is this very reason. If there was no duality, there would be no pain, no joy, no variety and no growth.

This basically means that there are people and energies that we encounter who offer us the lessons we need while we walk our path here. At times, this fact simply points to learning how to work with, clear and protect against negative energy. I find it to be a lot like a video game, actually. Maybe earth life is our Dungeons and Dragons field. We get better at the game as we keep playing it.

Though this article is mostly for HSPs (Highly Sensitive People), empaths and intuitives, it applies to everyone walking on this planet. Anyone can be effected by lower energies, especially during times of high-stress and transition. Sometimes we attract, receive and absorb lower energies from people or in our environment. This is part of the game and going through those experiences help us expand as individuals and souls. That’s the story I am sticking with anyway. Your guess is as good as mine, since we all experience amnesia as we incarnate.

What Are Some of the Signs That You Have Picked Up Negative Energies?You may get dropped calls, or a sudden, passing static on your phone while speaking to someone at a location where you don’t normally have that experience.You may start feeling depressed out of the blue (!) and you’re not clinically depressed.Suddenly, you can’t log into your bank account (or any other online account) and keep getting an error message even though your internet connection seems to be strong.You get extremely tired all of a sudden and feel the need to take a nap even though you are not sleep-deprived.You feel resistant to helping yourself, or giving yourself something you know you need (i.e. You may resist eating when you are actually hungry).Your throat feels sore as if you’ve caught a flu virus (sometimes that is how our body reacts to the lower energy).You lose your house keys or your wallet, lock your car keys inside your car, or have something you value stolen.An email you sent out does not reach its intended recipient and hours later you get a mailer daemon message.All of a sudden, your mind starts spinning on negative thoughts about someone or a situation of the past (which you had done inner work on to clear), etc. No matter how hard you try to wave them off, they stick to you like chewing gum on asphalt under 90 degrees.You engage in behaviors that are against self-love,  such as spending money on unnecessary shopping, when you don’t have the budget for it, etc. This is especially valid if it is out of character for you to do so.

The possibilities are endless, so ultimately it’s up to each of us to recognize and make note of these patterns, as they are personal. It took me several years to recognize what happens to me when I am effected by lower energies. Experiencing a combination of these on the same day, or in a short amount of time — especially if they are not regular occurrences — can help you see what is happening. It becomes clearer as you learn to tune-in your awareness.

Once I recognize that I have picked up lower energies, I use several of the methods (described below) together, to clear my mind, body, and energy field of this lower vibration. No one deserves to plug into your energy, and you have the right to command that they leave you alone. The reverse is also true, even if it is unintentional.

Here are 20 Techniques That Work to Clear Lower Energies, Especially If You Combine Several of Them:1. Set a strong intention to clear these energies

Place both hands on your heart and say your intention out loud. You can write it on a piece of paper and burn it in addition to voicing it. Repeat your intention a few times. We gain and lose a lot of power from our throat chakra. Use your voice for clearing and protection.

2. Yawn away the negative energy

Yawning is said to be a great tool for clearing. You may not feel like yawning but if you start doing the yawning motion and acting as if you are very tired and need to take a nap, you may be surprised to find that the yawning continues. You can do this right after you set the intention mentally, and anytime you feel a strong resistance to using your voice to call on your power and for divine help.

3. Play drums or drum music in the background

If you don’t have a drum at home, don’t fret. Youtube has many videos of shamanic, African or Native American drum music. Find one that you like and start playing that in the background while you apply some of the techniques mentioned here. If this doesn’t appeal to you, then go to a wooden desk or table you have and start drumming with your hands.

4. Use a smudge stick

White Sage is the most well-known herb used for this clearing technique, but a bunch of dried Rosemary, Cedar, Mugwart or Sweetgrass (cut from your garden) all work well too — see here. Light the smudge stick and when you have a good flame, blow it out, and using the smoke, start with your body. Circle all seven of your chakras and all of your outer energy field. Don’t forget the bottom of your feet. As you go through each chakra, pull your arm away from that area (as if you’re pulling a scarf off of your neck with one hand).

Once you’ve smudged your body, taking necessary pre-cautions against dropping hot embers as you go, using the power of your intention, go around the entire room (or the whole house) with the smudge stick in your hand still smouldering, making sure you get into all the corners and under furniture. Open one (or several) windows for the smell and the lower energies to leave the space as you command them out mentally or with your voice! If you have money issues (especially if it popped up that day or very recently), clear your purse or wallet with the smoke as well. If your computer is acting up or you’re getting bounced email messages, clear your computer too. Electronics get effected fast and this serves as an indication that you have picked up a negative energy.

5. Say a clearing and protection prayer/mantra

Here is an example:

I, (insert your full name), refuse permission for any living and non-physical being to enter my body, mind, soul, spirit and energy field for intentions that are other than love. I break all contracts, vows and agreements I might have made knowingly or unknowingly in all time, space, and dimension that in any way diminish the fullest expression of my joyful soul essence. I break these agreements from this moment backwards, through every experience of my past, and from this moment forward until the end of all time. I command that these energies and people to leave my space NOW! They have no power over me. I ask for divine protection from these energies, that they NOT return to my energy field in any way, and for any reason. I now build a shield of light around me with this heart intention and my free will. I thank you that it’s already done.

As with some of the other techniques mentioned, you may have to repeat this several times and must say it out loud. You can even place your right hand over your throat gently to feel the vibration as you say this prayer. Feel free to modify this prayer to your liking. Nothing is cast in stone.

6. Use a rattle to break up the energy into a zillion small pieces

Just like the drums, if you don’t have a rattle, put some pennies in an empty plastic drink bottle (or topper-ware) and shake it in a way what feels right to you. It’s more effective if you move around in your space while you’re doing this.

7. Burn lemon or orange peels

Use a cheese grater to get some peels and throw them into a non-stick pan to cook for a short time. Do this as if you’re sauteing onions. The smell is very pleasant and uplifting. It will fill up your space to repel any lower energies that may be lurking in it.

8. Laugh it off

Laughter is not only the best medicine for sickness but it is a very effective tool for clearing lower energy. Joy is the highest vibration there is, so it works beautifully for canceling out lower vibrations. You probably won’t feel like laughing when under the influence of these negative energies. So, pull up some funny videos on Youtube to watch. I have a handful of favorite comedians whose bits make me laugh out loud. Some examples are: Wanda Sykes, Jim Gaffigan, Louie C.K., Chris Rock, Seinfeld, Ellen DeGeneres and Aziz Ansari to name a few.  No doubt you have your favorites too.

9. Light a candle

One candle should be enough (you can light more than one if that feels right) with the intention that the flame absorbs and melts away these lower energies. I use white emergency candles that I keep handy at home for this purpose and sometimes let it burn all the way till it’s all gone. Then I throw it in the garbage. You can also bury it somewhere in your yard. Before buying candles, please be cautious about where your candles are manufactured.

10. Use sea salt

Genuine sea salt can be expensive. I use it symbolically and don’t use a lot of it. It’s all about intention. Placebo effect works for a reason! You can sprinkle some into warm water, mix it well and drink it. Or you can draw a hot bath and put a few table spoons of it in the tub to soak in. If you don’t have a bath tub, you can take a shower. In both cases, set the intention that the water will pull away the negative energy as it goes over your body and into the drain, back to mother earth to be cleared.

11. Create an ‘attractor’ for lower energies

Pour a glass of water and set the intention that lower energies that are in your field will be absorbed by this water. Keep the glass filled with water until your energy feels clear and free. Then pour the water in the toilet and flush it, or pour it out in the yard for the lower energy to be transformed back into love by mother earth.

12. Skip like a child

As I mentioned above, joy is the highest vibration there is. Skip like a child for a minute or longer to counter the depressive or angry thoughts (or the sudden negative emotional state you got into). This is great to do on a regular day when you wake up grumpy or with a bad dream that you can’t shake off.

13. Clap Your Hands

Sound can be created by any tool, including your hands. Clapping works beautifully, especially when combined with singing a fun tune, a joyful song or whistling. Walk around your space while clapping, and you can also skip while you’re doing this. Any (or all three combined) will raise your vibration and repel negative energies so you can be free to experience joy again.

14. Dance it off

I guarantee you, if you dance to “Love Shack” or “Footloose”, it will be hard to keep your negative mood or these lower energies attached to you. This is perfect if you like to dance. Make a playlist for times like these and throw a few of your favorite songs into it to dance to.

A few ideas for protection…

15. Engage with the protection prayer (#5) regularly

Repeat the prayer in the morning an at night (or even in between). Another idea is to hand-write it and keep it in your wallet or the dashboard of your car. You can also write it in the back of a happy photograph of you ( as a child or as an adult) that you keep by your bed. It’s not narcissistic, it’s self-love.

16. Use pine for protection

Cut off a small piece of pine needle branch (size of your hand will suffice) from a pine tree and put it in a vase or a glass of water. Once you’ve done the clearing by using the methods above, set the intention that the pine needles repel and intimidate these lower energies so they don’t come back. If you’re in a vulnerable stage in your life, keep it around for a while. Give thanks and love to the pine for letting you benefit from its protective energy. Replenish the water every other day as a way to care for and respect the pine for its service.

17. Watch your words, actions and karma

This is very important. Sometimes when we are stressed or upset with someone, we don’t pay attention to our thoughts, words or actions, and may send out negative energy to others. It may feel good at the time but it opens us up for lower energies to enter our field. Like attracts like. If you are obsessing on negative feelings or thoughts about someone (deserving or undeserving) and do not exercise your free will to distract yourself from thinking, feeling or wishing badly, the boomerang effect will show up in your life. Maybe not the next day but eventually it will. I experienced this with great regret! The best thing to do is to ask your ‘higher self’ to make you aware of those times when you need to pull yourself up from these thoughts and feelings. This is when you can use laughter to clear them away. What we give out, we receive!

18. Find ways to counter stress

Stress is a part of every day life, but if it is ongoing and you do nothing to diffuse it with relaxation, exercise, dance, art, a fun activity or meaningful connections, you will be more susceptible to discordant, lower energies attaching to you. Do your best to make rest, relaxation, a healthy diet and laughter a priority, even for 5 minutes a day to keep your energy strong.

19. Make figure eight movements for aura strengthening

You can combine this with the drum music playing in the background. Rotate around as you move both arms in a figure eight motion – as if you are an orchestra conductor. Start from the ground and go up as you keep rotating and go back down towards the floor. Make sure you cover all four directions. Do this for at least one minute or longer to strengthen your aura.

20. Adopt a Tree!

Yes, you can adopt a tree in a local park, or on a walking trail – one that calls to you – then make it your friend. Lean against that tree for at least 15 minutes and ask it to pull out anything in your energy field and body that is of vibration less than love. It works! I can guarantee you that if you build a relationship with it, talk to it and give it heartfelt thanks, you will be able to clear away anything in a short amount of time, and leave the tree feeling light, uplifted and loved.

SOURCE:
https://tinyurl.com/yawbnse5
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
2 weeks ago
944 posts

@loconnoro:

You'll be surprised how well saging rooms removes stuck negative energy. Another trick is to open all the windows and doors in a house and let the wind push clean air through for a couple of hours. It breathes new life into the place. And lastly, placing crystals about like amethyst and rose quartz helps promote harmony.

LoconnorO
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
2 weeks ago
168 posts

I'll definitely go through and try saging. I already leave windows open though, I found I love the cross-breeze and it keeps the air from sitting and staying stagnant. Thank you both for the recommendations.

@hop-daddy

@michelle


updated by @loconnoro: 11/28/18 04:10:42PM
TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 weeks ago
457 posts
@loconnoro everything hopdadyy and Michelle provided is excellent ways to promote healthy energy in your home. Please do try them as they work. As I can share my experiences as how effective it is...

I used to live in a bldg in Chicago that was about 100 years old. I didn't like the feeling there, neither did my cat. My neighbors told me how he would cry alot when I was at work. That naturally hurt me to hear he was suffering.

What I learned overtime and stuck too...deep cleaning, high organization, windows and blindes open (yes, I did this in winter a few times), purging items from a rough period in my life, buying brand new furniture to replace from that rough period, purging photos and possessions from ex's, smudging (I used sage and Palo santo), essential oils, white candles, Crystal's, plants, and soothing colors. My neighbor would smudge the staircase from time to time, due to that suffocating energy there.

Immediately everything felt better and my cat was more relaxed and happy again and I didn't hear many complaints from my neighbors after that. I'm sure his energy added to it.

After that, I would smudge as needed to keep it clear. I struggled at first with this until the chakra lady. She told me what to say and how to do this. As she told me my stress in life and corporate America didn't help, dating, meeting negative people, and the energy of the city, were all being brought in my home. It was tiring at first, but needed and become routine. My friend and her husband complimented me a few times when they came over how great it felt and what I was doing. That they started using the sage and palo Santo as well. I didn't use both at the same time. Sage to me was the "deep cleanin" and Palo Santo as maintenance.

Now i live with my parents again as i grew tired of apartments and Chicago city life as i got older. Well, they are not a fan of anything lol. I'm still working to get my dad to let go of all this old stuff and mess in the basement, garage, etc. As well as their negativity to things in life and each other.
All water glasses have bubbles in it,my apartment did not. My Epsom salt clumps together, in my apt it did not. I've even offered to pay for their vacation to get them out so i can smudge this place and light candles, etc. (As my dad can't stand smells) My cat cries nearly daily to go into my room when I'm at work, as I keep the energy cleaner in their with my Crystal's and plants. When I'm home, he's in there all night until I go to work next day. (I keep him out so he can remain active in the house, due to his age or he'll just stay in my room all day. Its helping as he's in excellent health for 16, but I'm beginning to feel bad again for him from how he's behaving recently)

At the advice of someone here from this group, this weekend I plan to start deep cleaning and planting Crystal's around the house, and say prayers. Winter and cold is here and windows remain closed.
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
2 weeks ago
944 posts

@tigerlily:

Well said. I wanted to add that negative entities are attracted to places with a lot of negative energy. They thrive and get energized by the low energy that human's release. They also like dark and dirty places like basements and storage rooms. The reason I bring this up is that sometimes a house has a real low vibe from the people who live there. But more often than you think, there are also unseen things there contributing to the overall mood. That's why saging is so effective. It breaks up the negative energy that clings to the walls that they like to have aroud them. So a good saging breaks up their party. And if you have any dark, dirty, and disorganized rooms, a good cleaning, saging, and opening of the blinds to let light in will transform the energy as well.

Cheshire Cat
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
2 weeks ago
1,378 posts

To anyone who might know,

What can be done about coughing and choking on the smoke from saging? I use cedar, since I have two cedar trees. It is really hard to take, since I already have sinus problems. It is too cold right now to open windows, but I agree that it helps as long as it is not too noisy outdoors. 

I read something this morning about how just rubbing sage leaves between your fingers can work. I do have a Texas sage in my garden, but it has short leaves, not the long ones normally used to sage a home. Do you think it would work just as well?

I've not had much luck with saging or with the stones I use, but I feel our house is unhealthy in some way I cannot perceive yet, since I always feel better when I go to someone else's house and I sleep much better away from home also. Since retiring, my husband's previously good health for his age has fallen apart alarmingly, and I do not think it's a coincidence that he is at home most of the time now. 

Thanks for any ideas. :-)

michelle
@michelle
2 weeks ago
63 posts
For the kind of dark energy @hop-daddy and @cheshire-cat are speaking of, incense of dragon's blood or frankincense is good to keep away the negs after or with a thorough clearing. But I like sage too.

I wonder if incense would be easier on your sinuses, C-cat?

In the past, I've used incense with Gregorian Chanting I had on CD along with rattle shaking, covering all areas/corners/windows/
doorways...indigenous shamans use this mehod of chanting and rattles. I knew a healer that used rattles for clearning energy fields and chakras. You can also lighty tap your skin with a hairbrush to breakup stuck energy in the body.

When I sold herbs and such, I had a couple of Wicans buy drangon's blood for banishment. I prefer using censers and charcoal burners to burn incense and resin on.
Cheshire Cat
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
2 weeks ago
1,378 posts

@michelle,

I read that incense is really, really bad for your lungs and indoor pollution in general. So are all candles except beeswax ones. It does not bother me nearly as much as sage though, so that shocked me. I love the idea of taping myself with the back of a hair brush. That I can do w/o spending cash I don't have. I like the chanting too. I wonder if the Lesser Banishment Ritual wouldn't be as good, since it is recited out loud. I have never tried dragon's blood and will look for it online. Thanx!

michelle
@michelle
2 weeks ago
63 posts
@cheshire-cat
Make sure you use the bristle side of the brush to tap your skin...I think I learned this from energy healer Donna Eden. Anyway, it's all the tiny bristles breaking up the energy and it will feel good. Try using it on the muscles which are over strained from walking with a broken toe for so long.

@loconnoro
@tigerlily
@hop-daddy
And all others: The video below is presented by a Master Energy Healer in my area; she studied directly with Donna Eden.

#19 in the article I posted above recommends making figure 8s in your aura. This is called The Celtic Cross. In the video below, Elaine shows you how to do this at the end. The video is a daily energy workout for cleaning and protecting from other's energies and/or any dark, heavy or stuck energies you might have picked up. I need to follow my own advice and start this excecise up again. It really helps! Weather permitting, this is excellent to do along with barefoot grounding.

DAILY ENERGY WORKOUT W/
ELAINE ALKER EEM-AP

https://tinyurl.com/ya84l32b

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