you make a valid point on how he could be past life related. Or it could be the empath/narc dynamic. I wouldn't dismiss past life as I have recalled a few of mine. And have a story for the books on one, who I suspect is gifted himself but in hiding with wanting to fit in this world etc. Sometimes it's their energy your soul recognizes or their eyes. I recently am smitten by a man on the train by his energy alone. When I did manage to lock eye contact with him, I noticed he is familiar. I don't know him but fell in love. I get goosebumps and butterflies just looking at the back of his head, lol. I've tried asking my guides who is this person and have asked for dreams, and all I get is Irish. I do have a past life in ireland as a high born. But with normal everyday life, people say talk to him. My coworker can't believe how shy I am about it as she said I seem to have no problem talking to random people. True, yes. But what they don't know is how sometimes I am. In a meditation last week with a group he came to me in it with a flower, which I learned in research is a thistle and scottlands national plant. Who knows, maybe I was married off to a Scottish man for an alliance. Haven't gotten much else from that life.
If this man is a past life love, with narc tendancies today. I'm guessing he has alot of karma to clear and making him the not as nice person as today. I work with a narc that I have now recalled two past lives with. As you can imagine it's been a tough year. He bullied me in one life, and slit my throat in another for speaking back to him. But, this is something I cant really share with to HR for his harassment and putting me down any chance he can get. One day I just unleashed on him and I got in trouble, but luckily I had documentation to back it up. I still have trouble trying to communicate with him as its hard to speak, hence throat slashing. So I wear a lot of amazonite to work on days I wake up "feeling" I need it. At first I felt the stone choking me and I had to take it off. When I wore it again it wasn't as bad and that's when it popped in my head of the throat slashing dream. Now I barely have that choking feeling. Seems to help