So_exausted_from_users
So_exausted_from_users
@so-exausted-from-users
2 months ago
41 posts
Time..
And respecting the fact that some people you will always love no matters what.
My estranged husband walked out and has put me through extreme mental abuse. Even the judge who oversaw the separation paperwork said this is one of the worst cases of domestic abuse she has ever seen. The strange part is that the majority of abuse all started after he walked out.
Now this man is my soulmate and just cause we are no longer together doesn't mean that we are still not soulmates. We have 2 beautiful children together and spent 17 years, 16 married together before he came home for summer holidays (at times he works out of town for long periods) to tell me he wanted a separation. This news distroyed me. He was my best friend, my other half, my everything. I went into shock that evening. From there over the next year and the abuse I came close to a mental breakdown. I loved this man so much, he was my everything and I was willing to do almost anything to get him back however I realized that there were major issues between us and the more time away from him I could now start seeing the mental abuse he was using in hopes I wouldn't take him to court to get support from him. I originally decided that it if we were able to fix things he would have to attend counseling. The abuse was easier to see when he was hurting the kids than when he was hurting me.
It took about a year before the abuse became to much and I realized that this person I never wanted in my life again. It took a few more months before I came to terms that I will always love the man he was and I will never stop loving that person.
As they say, time heals all wounds and I started to heal. I will never allow him back in my life but I will always love a part of him.

I know that this is an extreme story but u have to give yourself permission to grieve, that it is ok to still love them forever but they won't be a part of your life.

Time is your enemy and your friend.. as frustrating as it is to hear it does help. Find a class or something interesting to do so u can focus on that for a little bit of time.

I wish you luck
TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 months ago
448 posts
I can relate. Met someone, love at first site, all the synchronicities, dreams etc. I was originally really hurt and disappointed that more never came from it, and eventually contact starter to become far and few. I reached out a few months ago and he responded, but I think that was the time I actually felt it was time to let him go.

With what @so-exhausted stated, I agree with is "time." I think your soul may also know when it's ready to cut the chord. I still think about him from time to time, but the longing, urge, missing is no longer there. I did one night after that lost contact, b4 bed pictured our chords cut and I could see him floating away. B4 I could never do it, it was to hard. Guess it may not have the right time.

This man and I shared several lives together, which makes sense why I fell in love at first site. But my guide also told me earlier this that him and I wouldn't be together in this life and a greater one is coming. It took me months to accept that and I finally have. Honestly, it was hard for me to see what was better than him, but I'm trusting that.
I'm grateful now that I was able to meet him in this life, is how I see it. I've also been able to finally at a point in my life be OK and accept I'm single. Everything I'm planning and doing is without a partner in life, and when a new one comes....hey he can enjoy the ride of life with me :)
So_exausted_from_users
So_exausted_from_users
@so-exausted-from-users
2 months ago
41 posts
Ironically a lot of my good friends are male even though I am female. When a guys heart is really involved they can't just move got. They break down and cry and hurt just as much as we do.. The difference is society has taught them not to allow their emotions and they are supposed to man up.
Even with the guy I am with we have some issues and he tries to pretend that our seperation doesn't effect him but when I finally got him to open up he admitted that when he thought he lost me he had a nasty depression that took over him. Luck enough we between being an empath and the bond we share I could feel he needed some help so I reached out to let him know I am still here.
Being able to finally talk to him about everything we understand so much more and realized that even though he needs the space we still both need each other in our lives.
We are back in separation but I know he is in so much pain from it and the way it happened. We will figure it out one way or another over time.

I know that this is a girls view on a guy feelings but an open conversation between us I have learned so much about a guys Thoughts.

Good luck with your healing

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