I've been doing some thinking as always (eye roll), but I I'd like to ask, being in a relationship with someone whether we ourselves are complex ones to deal with or our partners, have we ever tried to 'change' one another for the greater good? What methods? What outcomes?
So I read up on a book I heard of many moons ago, whatever the message of the book; is this where we go wrong? Taking advice from people who are inexperienced in the vastness of complexities that aren't usually addressed? When people talk, especially when they've specialised in a field, they talk to the majority, not the minority, it might work for some as every individual is unique so is every relationship.
It's impossible to incorporate everything in a specialised field to reach out to meet everyones individual growth be it in themselves or relationships.
Empaths have a unique gift, they are able to understand themselves better than others, and equally understand others sometimes better than themselves.
Once we can come.out of the self healing phase when situations don't go the way we Antipated, we can reflect, how did it go wrong for them? And how did it go wrong for me? What did we over look? Or what did we underestimate? Did we not think from a broader perspective? Did we not use our rational and logical to perfective how it might make us or them feel? The art of empathy. Just because it's failed in some ways does that mean we can't use alternate approaches like reverse psychology?
What I'm getting at is, when we're with someone whom we want it to work with, taking account of our own flaws and mishaps, it's impossible to get the somewhat narcissit partner to co-operate, whether sympathetically, by understanding, moral ethics and cultural/religious/personal dynamics or empathically i.e.e the gift of intuition.
I have a case involving a couple individual people I know, (I'm not in profession, I contemplate on everything, everyone I'm connected to, to open up my own narrow minded thinking).. anyway, I acknowledge I ramble and some take offense, it's like I try to learn from my mistakes and try to get better at them, so I intended not to suggest anything where it's not wanted/needed..
What are people takes on what they've learn from theirs relationships either successful or failed?
updated by @spiritualskies: 04/13/18 08:39:05AM