I understand your situation. My sister has been in on again off again relationship, and has alienated her family. Partly because he does the typical abusive SO thing and tries to isolate her from her friends and family, and partly because she has lied so many times, had so many opportunities to get away, and keeps going back by her own choice.
I don't know what to do. There has been so many times I have wanted to do the big brother thing, but I would end up in jail. If you feel threatened or harassed, I would suggest turning it over to law enforcement. You should not have to put up with that as a person, from anybody, for any reason.
You are not evil. You are letting somebody else's emotions control your actions...something we should be used to. You are being a friend, a decent human, and a protector for those that you feel can not protect themselves. Don't feel bad for feeling those things, but be smart about how you let those feelings control your actions.
I don't get it either. My sister knows she deserves better. I had to step back and let her decide that she is going to want better. Everything I did, she seemed to just absorb the attention but took no action on her words. She has had plenty of people willing to assist her out of the situation.
I worry that it is a negative attention is still attention thing. Sometimes a loving significant other will not give you as much attention as an abusive S.O.. They are constantly in everything....so they must love you right? They just have this one thing wrong with them, and it is only because.........he's going to get help.
I dunno just a theory.
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