updated by @krosskelt: 09/21/17 12:46:19PM
Spidey sense being pinged
updated by @krosskelt: 09/21/17 12:46:19PM
updated by @womanwhowalks: 09/21/17 02:27:30PM
That is all some great advice. Thank you for sharing it with us. It is just going down the list of family and friends to check on that is off putting. Sometimes by going down the list "are you okay?" I run into some distractions from the initial ping.
I have some decent cord cutting techniques that work for me. I've been dealing with these situations for well over 20 years. I used to have issues with sense of self, not knowing what was my own and what came from outside. I use techniques, where I inspect each questionable emotion now, and am able to identify if it is mine or not, much easier than when I was a teen or in my twenties. I'm also usually able to tell when somebody is siphoning my energy, so I only allow people to remain corded if they do not. (or if I've decided
There are certain people I like to leave cords to though, my wife, kids, and a few select family and friends. Of those people only a couple know that I call myself an empath. Those couple I've explained and demonstrated my abilities to them enough where they should understand. Until a couple years ago I admitted this to nobody and tried to deny it to myself. So interactions that could be purposefully trying to use it is still fairly new to me. I have had people accidentally abuse it in the past and had to be cut.
If it is what I call a real emergency, they may not be an ability for them to call me. Like my grandmother who lives in the country by herself, or my sister the drug addict that may not have minutes on her phone. These are reasons I leave cords to them. Somebody else might tell me what happened down the road, then I will feel like I slacked off on my duty. I feel they should only try to purposefully use it in an emergency, they can call or text me for casual "I need a shoulder."
I was just trying to decide, if I found them abusing it knowingly, would I talk to them about it or cut the cord completely. Worried if I talk to them about it, and they were doing it unknowingly, they might figure out how to do it purposefully. Decided if that was the case they are not a friend and the cord should be cut. It turned out not to be who I thought though, and I had already checked on the other person that knows so the search continues.
Unless your sister does not have any minutes on her phone, and you have no friends or family that live close to check on her.