Trying to stop the empathy
I feel like I'M FINALLY taking care of me and falling in love with myself again. I have energy now to work out, dress up, put on make up, eat better, do things around the house, and want to go out. I feel like I'm glowing again, and I must be because I'm getting lots of compliments from people.
I know my coworkers feel more stressed more than ever and still want to vent and push things off on me, but I'm getting good at the "no" and the boundaries. Lot of my friends barely talk to me anymore as they have nothing positive to say.
I seriously never knew how good it feels until now. Yes I miss helping, and still can feel their pain or sorrows or stress and it hurts. But I feel "healthy" again.
So now bigger question, why do I still "feel" bad for not helping? I mean, I seriously haven't felt this happy and healthy in years.
updated by @tigerlily: 11/07/17 05:55:30PM
There are many characteristics of light, and here is one that I have observed: like electricity, light follws the path of least resistance. In other words, light loves to flow. An empath who is openly condusive to light will find that a lot of light will flow through them. The amount of light that flows through them is related to the amount of light they in turn give out. So there is a balance here, but not as in a see-saw kind of balance, but a spinning gyroscope kind of balance. With time and practice, giving and receiving light becomes the same. Giving, and receiving emotions become one. To give is to receive, and to receive is to give.
So, now, something more practical. In the field there is really not much time to think so being prepared is important. As such, practice is key, meaning, the more you do it, the better you will be at it. Let's say you are with some people who are projecting 'negative' energy after you responded to them. Perhaps at this time it's good to remember the feeling that everything is alright. It might help to imagine that everything's ng is alright and really feel that feeling. At this point, its quite alright if it feels fake. Just fake it til you make it, hehe. Actually, what's happening is, as you are projecting positive energy, these people are perhaps also projecting their negative energy. Cleanse, with the feeling of 'its okay', and/or any release technique and priject the positive energy again. You might notice that this time, the negative energy might have dissipated somewhat. By simple repetition, eventually the energies will have dissipated comfortably.
Keep in mimd a few thing though. Firstly, never aim to chajge anyone, that really isn't our job. Whether they want to vhange is entirely their choice, we merely help provide an atmosphere that supports positive change. This is providing space for change. Secondly, always look after number one. This may sound selfish outwardly, but really it means we focus on making ourselves better, on keeping our vibrations positive and not on changing anything outside ourselves. As you know, we have little control on exterior things. Yet our own vibrations, that is 100% within our power, plus it's 100% our responsibility. So, gently maintain focus on where your power is. Thirdly, know that it is very much a game. Life is a serious game, so take it playfully and seriously at the same time. Thoroughly enjoying the game is the best way towards victory.
So, apologies for the long post, but really do give this a try. I'm curious to hear feedback and perhaps one or two war stories.
*small note, some of the bad feelings can also come from subconscious beliefs that we acquired throughout our lives. Not to worry, these are conveniently cleared as we play the 'game'.
First of all, why in the world would you want to "stop the empathy?" It is not something you can just shut off. Have you tried to dam a rapidly flowing river? Believe me I tried before for my own sanity/boundaries/self-preservation/etc. It did not work because it is a current that can never be broken... it just builds up over time when trying to dam it up. My advice to you is to allow the empathy because it is who you are. Just see it as a looking glass into the world of another. You can decide whether to act on what your see or not. We experience many personal worlds (the paradigms that others live within despite a greater connection we all share). Though, what makes us separate is the awareness we have. It is up to us how to proceed with that awareness. It is not something we can just shut off like a faucet. It is always there reminding us what we are. Embrace what you are... a Psychic Empath. It is what makes us uniquely separate from the rest of humanity. WE CAN NOT HAVE A GREATER GIFT.
Gifts can be curses under the wrong circumstance. It is all too easy to understand why someone would want to stop it. I myself got myself in deep water from mine. Part was the boundaries and part was a very spiritual path supported by the most outrageous synchronicity that many said it must be a "God thing". It happened in a way that many found hard to believe for how things unfolded, yet opposite of what was needed. It would have been better to never have been in tune in some ways for something to happen that ended up spirit shattering. That show about the psychic who helped Phoenix police had years of trying to suppress her own gifts as much of it tormented her. Much of this can be a double edged sword and when the reverse side cuts it can cut deeply. For myself i recommend people be very careful as if they get themselves into water too deep they may just drown. Discretion really is the better part of valour sometimes and with this it is best to be careful. I hear all you say and think what you say would be very much for the best - in a perfect world. Sadly, we are in a world where we can get squashed if not careful and a gift can end up being a curse if we do not have the right people around. We can not have a greater gift? We also can not have a greater curse. It all depends on so much else that is beyond merely us. Please be extra careful when diving in deep waters. There may be sharks there and the water may be so deep we can not swim back when we are tired and need relief. Just some words from someone who is broken so much it is hard to put these words. I got in too deep. My life has been broken. I don't say this with any intent of demoralizing anyone as much as saying be careful out there.
updated by @raindancer: 06/19/17 11:18:42PM
That, and maybe there is the boundary thing too. In life sometimes the user will seek out the most giving people and burn them down. With them they bring their energy too. When this happens it becomes more impossible to those who show up in good faith or those who are lost wanting to find their way. There are those who are lost and just need someone to help them find their way. There are those who get others lost. It is that second type who can be sharks. Regarding the spiritual part, I tried to set up protection yet ended up having everything come at me. Maybe it is a matter of knowing our limits and keeping to those and then extending beyond those only as we heal and have better influences around us - influences that give us strength to face that which is not so healing. My way of saying not to jump into the deepest waters until we have the full deep water gear (good friends, our own healing, good life circumstance being the deep water gear). If we get into the deepest spirituality it can trigger that which is not healed in us or if we have people close who are terrible influences they can push us beyond what we can deal with. We need to be ready for the deepest waters and have the right spiritual gear regarding influences around us i think. Hope that makes sense.
updated by @raindancer: 06/20/17 04:49:11PM
I've been in those deep waters many times, and this past time around that gave me the health scare, I felt I was dying inside. I started noticing some signs and followed them, and that's how I feel I was able to come back above water and breathe. I feel I was being told my gift was being misused by people hence the signs. If that makes sense. I am tired all the time now, but a good tired where I need sleep and wake rejuvenayed. Not like before.
Right, I believe we have healing ability definitely. But I know when I started protection aura, others did not feel comfortable to be with me. I saw a change... yes.
some believe we actually do not drain we just copy their energy. But, I agree they love resonating.
some believe we actually do not drain we just copy their energy. But, I agree they love resonating. Here is one interesting phenomenon called 'sympathetic resonance'. I found some believe being empathy can be just to have 'resonance'. Yet, the thing is if we do not have the vibration inside, we do not even resonate...; but if we have it, even though we don't want, it just starts to vibrate.
Several times in a day, I do a brief cord cutting meditation with angels and ask them to create a boundary that requires permissions to get into my personal boundary. I allow only positivity.
Scary fact for me is this...
I started exercises to remove negativity from me and do permission meditation.
Tigerllily, i wish i had no clue of what you mean. Sadly, i realized how much smart than we humans little fire ants are when it comes to things of which you speak. Fireants? Some who give are used up and burned down by those who then run to someone else to burn out. I am sorry if you have been through this in any way. Fireants really do have an instinct of shared cooperation much more. HUH??? What are you saying Raindancer?
Okay, when young i remember being in Houston and walking through flood waters. If you have been to Houston you will understand this is not rare. However, when seeing floating stuff be careful where you walk! I saw what i thought to be a bunch of wooden floating stuff and walked on through it. OUCHHHHH. I was being stung all over. I realized then the stuff was actually fire ants. They were holding to each other and staying afloat and looked like a bunch of stuff just being washed by the rain. I realized somehow they were floating when apart they would each drown, this by spreading themselves over the water. Being too young to know what surface tension was, i knew somehow they were doing this and they were doing it automatically.
In nature, when one fire ant would drown by itself, they hold to each other and float atop the water distributing themselves out over the surface. The water molecules cling to each other just enough to cause some surface tension, which the ants are able to use by holding one to the other in a huge cluster. They survive the storm by holding together. Do you hear what i am saying?
I talked about being caught in deep waters. Problem is, too many were piling on for you to keep them from drowning. What about your own air? Fire ants save each other, working together so that all will survive. Think about how poor people are at this before any of us think we have the right to judge that species by their tiny little brains. When times are tough, they don't pile on to one. They survive together.
They do not drown because they help each other! Maybe you need some "fire ants" in your life so to speak. I hope you understand how i mean. During tough times we all need people we can stay afloat with rather than people who only hold to us to keep them from drowning. We are best when we all work together to keep each other from drowning.
I wonder if your own health is a metaphor that applies. You were kept under the surface fighting for your own air when you needed others who could keep you afloat too. I hope you find those who are best for you in this way. We all need people who can help us, even the empaths.
Who is to debate this wily and more wise little creatures on their wisdom on how to stay alive together when the waters are too deep?
Wishing you floating buddies for tough times
I've seen a few different therapists recently to just get opinions, and each one talks about the negativity in my life. To stop worrying and stop helping others, and to focus on me. I feel my power of positivity and joy being stripped by a current that I can't escape as others keep holding on to me like the fireants to save them. Only they will be the first to let me drown if they can. Feels also like those that need help are just bwing put in my way that I can't avoid. Normally I can hold and not need anyone and be fine. But lately I feel like I need someone. All that stress, negativity just builds inside, I feel like I'm a vortex in my head spinning and need someone to stop me. I don't like this and normally turn to physical activity and nature to release. However, this past week, it feels like they are pulling me to them and I'm trapped. Make sense?
When people toy with your emotions, that will certainly leave you in position to be drown, metaphorically speaking of course. When others simply are not helping you to stay afloat in life, that is metaphorically them leaving you in position of drowning. We all need love and support. The fire ant thing i found as a metaphor for how people should be and from hearing you talk it sounds like you do not have enough "fire ants" in your life. Yes, you do need someone. Maybe you need a few who remember to not let you drown in life. That is the whole thing about "fire ants". It takes more than one. It takes a colony or "it takes a village" if putting it that way. I hope you find the right others to help you be able to care and give in ways where you are not run dry and left unable to swim in life. We all need that. If right now too many are pulling you in in ways you feel trapped, you need things to even out so that all are able to float together. I wish this for you as it sounds very much needed right now.
, well, actually, there is a clear explanation about empath and how we can live with it. Emapth ability is not actually healing someone else, just copying others' energy, according to him. Nothing about others. We never be able to blame others who have lower vibrations in that it resonates to our lower vibrations and if we do not have it, we don't even copy them as there is no way to resonate any vibrations that does not have the same frequency.
On chapter 4, the entire session is about empath (I think he is an empath as well). To be honest, the entire contents are actually designed for someone like us who can feel energy and almost essential to us.
I've heard that psychic institute teaches the similar but this course materials are so good that I recommend you.
Empath ability in this sense, it sounds like to eliminate fear, which is 'ego' in order not to resonate someone's ego and empath can still sense them but don't need to merge with the lower vibs. It sounded like empath ability is just like a guide that bring us to higher vibration which ultimately reaches to enlightenment. When I started this energy clearning, karma cleansing, etc, I chatted with a psychic and she said me 'what did you do?! your energy is such high! please tell me your secret'.
During the jorney, I realized that clearing lower vibs deeply related with our thoughts, and words which also stems from our past traumas and briefs. What we speak out is such powerful that you keep saying positive words until it comes to your life even though it's a lie. In doing this, you dress yourself with the highest vibration as possible and heal all of your fear and your needs will meet.
Love and light, Tigerlily! Dont' feel bad as that is a lower vibration and don't protect yourself but create a clear boundary that requires 'permission' with a rose symbol on it.
*I was intuitively writing this so I think someone needs this info... I'm sure it will help some.