Trying To Interpret Feelings At A Funeral

Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
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I was at a family funeral this week and had some interesting feelings that I wanted to share and reach out for comment. We were celebrating the life of my 98 year old grandmother who just passed. Due to her age and declining health, it was not a tragic event. We all saw this coming. In fact some of us were relieved for her that she died as she was pretty far gone mentally and is now in a far better place. But there was still some sadness and tears from her immediate children. 

We had the burial service out at her burial plot. And we all had the unavoidable situation of standing on the graves of others while at her service. She had bought her plot some time ago and there had been a lot of burials since that filled up the immediate area. I have to tell you, I do not at all like standing on the graves of others. It gives me the creeps. But at the start of the burial service I was hit with some pretty intense anxiety. My chest was super tight, my face was flushed. I was having trouble breathing. And I was pretty worried that I was going to have the embarrassment of a full blown anxiety attack. Luckily, the priest projected some levity and positive energy to all of us. And some funny stories in remembrance of her were told. That brightened the mood and my anxiety passed. 

Several years ago I was at a very sad funeral of an 8 year old boy that died. And the immense sadness that I picked up at that funeral was unbearable. He had died tragically and I have never since felt so sad and so low in a group setting like that. But I didn't have any anxiety, just deep sadness. At the funeral of my grandmother I just felt an intense anxiety. I wanted to throw these questions out to all of you as I'm starting to wonder if my empath radar needs to be tuned? Do any of you ever pick up on sadness in a group setting that comes through as anxiety? I'm also wondering if maybe I was picking up on some energy from the dead in the area that caused my anxiety? In any event, thanks for helping me figure out what happened.


updated by @hop-daddy: 08/05/18 10:22:25PM
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
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@hermes:

Thanks for your feedback. After some thought I now wonder if maybe some of the attendees at the funeral were feeling anxious dealing with the topic of death and their own mortality? I wonder if being at the funeral made them think uncomfortably of when they might die and that's what I picked up on? Or maybe you are right and it was feelings from the deceased in the area I picked up on.

Karen2
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Hi hop-daddy....yes you were picking up emotions of people buried at the cemetery....amd quite possibly your grandmother was a bit anxious...they have a new neighbor so they could be a tad anxious...i've walked thru a few cemeteries and they are anything but quiet....the brother of a friend of mine passed away...seems the brother is not quite happy with his placement in the grave site...so my friend has to go out and smudge calm things down....one time I was 'taken to the gravesite of a person I did not know...but it seems this person had been...either living in my former residence at one time or he was in my house as a spirit....probably both...when I stood at his grave site all I heard was foul language....totally weirded me out...but it was the exact same voice I heard in my house...i guess my guides wanted me to meet him in a different place...and the dark energy mass that hung over his site was NOT pleasant....so I spread some ceder on his grave...i can only assume that in life he wasn't a nice guy either...anyway I don't think your radar is off at all...it's just trying to interpret the receiving of energy or emotions because spirit has the SAME emotions as living humans...lol...
updated by @womanwhowalks: 06/07/17 06:19:42PM
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
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I was recently reading an article by this medium who basically states that the spirits of the dead have completely moved on at death. Although I don’t personally think that is true for all buried there. Here's the article:

http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2017/05/do-deceased-people-care-where-or-how-they-are-buried/

But I do have to say that graveyards have always made me feel off and a little dizzy. There must be some sprits left behind that have not crossed over that give graveyards this vibe.

Karen2
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I don't think That's true at all...the dead DO go to their own funeral..and there are other spirit present as well....my Uncle was present at his funeral...a friend of my friend passed away and after he died he asked me if I wanted to go to his funeral...he was looking forward to it...lol...and he's still present when he wants to be....i've heard my Grandmother at family gatherings...etc....i had a spirit in my house who invited me to visit his grave....i got there and he said Oh...you came...and I visited and sat with him for a bit....i had no idea who he was....never met the man...but his spirit is still around and he seems happy...just because their body is no longer functioning doesn't mean the essence and spirit of the person no longer exists...or has 'moved on'...
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
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@hermes:

Another great perspective from you. Although I would say that in this life, things do need to fit into our perspective on reality and time in order to have meaning. There is here and there is there in this life. We just don't fully understand where there is until we get there. It’s a bit of a science riddle. And yet I completely get what you are saying. It reminds me of the movie Interstellar movie that came out a few years ago that tried to show the viewer that time is relative.

I usually agree with most of what Erin Pavlina writes. But on the subject of gravesites, it didn't seem to resonate with me as true. Maybe it works like that some of the time. But as Karen said, there are plenty of examples to the contrary.

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