Are We Rare?

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empphire
@empphire
6 months ago
19 posts

I've been finding many articles on empaths, and have seen over and over again that empaths make up probably about 5% of the population. Does this seem accurate? I'm asking because I'm wondering how likely it would be to stumble across another empath and possibly become friends with one. Sometimes I think my relatives might be showing signs of empathness, but they choose to push down these traits and beliefs, and instead embrace science and ideas they understand like labels such mental illnesses and depression.  

None of the friends I have show signs of being empaths either. A couple of them I've wondered about because they are very compassionate......but I believe they are just compassionate hsp, and do not think that they are empaths xD

Do most empaths usually end up finding other empaths and hang out with them? I feel alienated from mostly everyone I know because they don't understand how I feel, and can't or don't want to see how I view the world, especially in terms of feeling a connection beyond the physical world.

I am very grateful for this community and the support that comes with it and consider everyone here a friend! :D  But have wonder what it would be like to talk to or have another empath as a friend I can meet up with physically :)


updated by @empphire: 09/28/17 09:02:29AM
RyuukoGo
@ryuukogo
6 months ago
110 posts

On dating sites I have "found" 5+ other Empaths and for the past 2 years I have been FB friends with one across the country.In public I may have come across a few other Empaths...but never went up to them to start a conversation.I am not sure if I would want to hang or be around one...the one's I have communicated with had a rough life and have trust issues especially with men.

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
6 months ago
271 posts

First of all, being an empath is not a straight "yes/no" condition. It is a continuum, shades of grey from one end of the spectrum to the other. Secondly, global consciousness is evolving rapidly right now so the rate at which people's empathic abilities are showing up is increasing. This means that what used to be true as a percentage is now old news.

I've posted elsewhere about Asheville, NC. It is an exceptional town. I am now mixing in circles where the empaths are the majority - literally! Admittedly, I am running my own empath meetup groups and socializing with many dozens of healers. That percentage certainly isn't true of the town as a whole. There is still a mainstream community in town. However, the other aspect worth sharing here is that  I am getting better all the time at spotting empaths out in the mainstream world. I'm learning to spot the clues in conversation quicker and I am picking up the intuitive clues just from tuning into their energy.

Point being is that in this town it is becoming safer and safer to embrace being an empath. As that happens, more people will be talking about this and it will be easier to find each other.

A recent quote from Caroline Myss (bestselling author of "Anatomy of the Spirit") "Being an empath is the new normal." 


updated by @trevor-lewis: 04/16/17 05:19:55AM
JoniG
@jonig
6 months ago
33 posts
I am finding more people opening up to their abilities too 😊 Ashville, NC? May have to plan a visit? Am being drawn South, wasn't sure where...love the love letters from The Universe 💜 I have understanding friends but, no empath connections openly yet.
Angel
@angel
6 months ago
603 posts

My thoughts are along the lines of Trevor's. I'm not a New Age follower, but the New Age belief has opened up the idea's for Lightworker's when they made known their own Lightworker's that they call "Indigo Children". The only difference for me is that I think Lightworkers, (and this is a VERY broad term), have come from many different places and sent here for a particular reason during this specific time frame, which is probebly why their is an influx of Empath's. I believe it's been a long,long time since we have had this many Empath's/Lightowrker's on the planet during the same time period. This usually happens when the earth is going through a transition and the extra light energy is needed in order for the planet and it's occupants to evolve into the next phase.

There are alot of different theories about this and most of what you will find will be more New Age, and this may be a great place to start your search. For me, I feel this influx of Lightworker's are coming from all of the place, the higher realms, the Angelic realms, other planets, like a Universal beacon was sent out to everyone saying " send in your troops!" I do believe this probably started in the 60'sor 70's, like they believe when the "seeds" were sown. What I did notice is a huge mystical energy that poured in during the 80's. This energy is pure energy and not really programmed so it could be used however people chose to use it. The New Age and alot of higher spiritual groups came in and used this energy to draw in more light energy, but I also noticed alot of lower energy groups such as satanist and just humans in general also using this for their things. Satanism started making way, gangs started growing, the use of Ouija boards were at an all new level and bringing entities from all different types of realms. Magickal practitioners, our "powers" were heightened during this time so the mystical energy was being used for all kinds of things! But that mix of uses often also creates an inbalance. It was a time when the veils were at  it's thinnest and the doorways to all the worlds were practically wide open. This allowed more Lightworker's to pass through, but it also allowed other entities the same privilege. Then the 90's came, the doorways closed and the computer age gave way to all new level. Even though technology turned into an all new high, mankind in general, I don't think were or are ready for it. We got the internet and this opened the doorway for alot of great things, bringing this planet  more global, but on the flip-side, mankind as a whole has plunged itself into a very dark place because of it. People spend more time gossiping on social media then spending time with friends and family. The are loosing jobs because of the addictions the internet brings. Marriages and families being destroyed, due to rumors, cheating, porn addiction, facebook, gambeling, gaming,  anything that can create an addiction. This has desensitized the planet as a whole. People have talked about a new dawn, a new era, and I believe this will be true later on, but I feel we are in our dark hours before the dawn right now. And once all the Lightworker's leave, the planet will plunge all over again, resetting itself and forcing itself to go back to their roots. Things are inbalanced right now, where darkness over shadows light, which is why I believe we are here, not to just bring in light and shift the pendulum to all light, but to bring in enough light to create a balance of the two so man kind can choose and have a fighting chance. I believe the seeds we sow while we are here, will mature when we are gone and this will be the hope that will be needed in order to push them into this new era.

Again, though, this is simply my theory and observations and you probebly won't find this anywhere, but if you do research on many different areas such as "Indigo/Crystal Children" , "Lightworker's", " Earth Angels", "Empath's" , this ay give you more information and a broader spectrum to come up with your own conclusion and purpose for why you are here. If you want to look further into my theory, you can also look more into the darker areas of paranormal activity, ghost sighting, satanism, witchcraft, mediumship, and even religions. You can also research statistics on both the helpfulness and destruction of the internet to get a baseline of where people are at in general and it's overall usefullness towards evolution or devolving. There's may different ways to take this subject, and all these tools are useful, but your truth may help surface through research, but it will mostly be within.

I hope this is helpful and I wish you many blessings on your journey :)

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
6 months ago
479 posts

@empphire:

I've done some research on this topic and I often see the 5% of the world are empaths statistic. However, while 5% of the world may be empaths, I think it's probably far less than 1% that know it and utilize it. From that standpoint I think we are rare. But there does seem to be some sort of awakening going on where people in fairly large numbers are recognizing their empathy. It almost seems like more empaths are being "switched on". 

The empathic ability does tend to run in families so you may be absolutely correct by taking a look at your relative’s behavior. But it can be tricky speaking to people about what some people may label as a taboo or fantasy subject like empathy. There are a handful of people in my extended family who I think may also be empaths but they are so religious that they are currently closed off to it. I'm very selective with who I share my empath identity with as a lot of people I know would laugh me out of the building. From that standpoint it has been hard to meet others.

I will say that while I really enjoy the empaths I have met on this community, the ones I have met in real life have been tough to be around. I think we all are just trying to figure all of this out, and we all carry our own daily anxiety and feelings that we absorb. And when being around other empaths I can get really drained from their energy and issues. But maybe that was just my tough luck.

I will say that quite a few cities have empath groups that meet weekly or monthly. You can probably search for that online and try to join one that is local to you.

Deborah Craig
@deborah-craig
6 months ago
73 posts

@angel, I thing you have  shed much light  about what the 90's were about,and I agree, because that's what I see...I never allowed Ouiji boards in my home!  My feeling about this Ouiji board ,I had gut feelings from a teen,stay away from them!....

Deborah Craig
@deborah-craig
6 months ago
73 posts

@angelThis is is the first time I have heard of Indigo Children...Looked it up and as far as gifts,they sound to me as empaths'....What is the difference?  Also when reading about them that they were born in the last 10 yrs ago they are to me described as Milleniums..i.e.,self entitlement,etc....I happen to have a millenium ! Milleniums are born from 1982-2000....

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
6 months ago
151 posts

I think most people are sensitive to people's energy, but they don't feel it, the feel their emotions in response to it. I've only recently found this. Empaths I do think are very rare, but it is also common for people to call themselves Empaths who don't fully understand it (not saying you aren't, I'm aiming this towards some profile's I've seen on Social Media lol). You might want to look into MBTI, take a test on 16personalities.com and that might help you out too. Some Empaths fit in very well, but it sounds like you're more introverted, so MBTI might help you out more. But in my experience Empaths are truly uncommon, and in the "real world" of jobs and school, people find some of our abilities extremely odd. When I share things through my Intuition, people don't understand it, even friends, and then you're looked at weird when you're right. But don't look at it through ego, it's extremely easy to do so. We are here to help others as well as ourselves. Don't fall into people-pleasing, but don't become selfish with your gift. You have an opportunity to do some good, and you learn stuff in the world of people who aren't empaths everyday. Never turn down a chance to listen. I hope this helped, but yes, in my experience, we are extremely rare. 

Angel
@angel
6 months ago
603 posts

  I wouldn't worry to much about specific time frames,labels, ect  everybody comes up with different ideas and I usually take it as such, ideas :) There does seem to be a broader timeframe associated with the recent decades of mystical energy and newcomer's, but they have been showing up probably since the beginning of time, so this timeframe I don't believe is when they (we) arrived, but more of an increase, a huge fluctuation then before which is probebly for a reason. 

  People always use names, labels, ect that usually conform around a specific belief system, but who's to say that the new comer's didn't come from all over and the information just hasn't been published yet? I recently figured out which realm I came from and it doesn't really fit what I have read. Close, but no cigars :) I think we look to much towards external information for answers, and not enough from within. There is SO MUCH out there and the universe is so vast, people have been arriving and awakening for quite some time now. Unfortunately, we search books, religion, the web for answers, but all the answer's we find, at one point, came from someone's "within". It's not going to be an identical match because that is their experience and their knowledge, your's might be different and the only place your going to find that perfect fit, is within. Your soul knows where you are from, it carries that with it from lifetime to lifetime. You may be a starseed from some planet or star in the galaxy, or you may come from some tribe that noone has every heard of because noone can remember because they are to busy trying to find themselves through someone else's memories. I would suggest you use their knowledge as a guide, but for the more deeper knowledge concerning who YOU are, look within.

The differance between an empath and a starseed,indigo, or whatever? Empath is the sensitivity to psychic energy and a mode of channeling that energy. Starseeds,indigo's, ect, are a group of people have this ability for whatever reason :) Empath's fall under the bigger term "Clairsentience" or the "clear feeling" of the psychic world.

Anyway's, this is my take on it.

empphire
@empphire
6 months ago
19 posts

Thanks everyone for the responses! 

I keep trying to learn more on empaths through the web, but everything I find now is just a repeat of what I found before. Maybe its time to hit the books :)

Thanks loconnoro for the tip on MBTI personality test. I haven't taken it in a while, but doing it should help me. I remember taking it a couple of years ago and that I wouldn't be ranked strongly to either side in any of the categories, and would therefore switch a lot between the personality types as I took the test a few times including being introverted or extroverted. However, I do consider myself very introverted, so it is definitely possible that I am just a really sensitive introvert, regardless of being an empath or not :)

I've also been looking into people known as indigo/crystal children, lightworkers, etc. While I may or may not be one of them, I do think it's very interesting to see who else is on the planet!

empphire
@empphire
6 months ago
19 posts

@loconnoro

Thanks for the advice, I just took the MBTI test at the 16personalities.com, and i got: Mediator (INFP)

Introverted 60%

Intuitive 69%

Feeling 69%

Prospecting 57%

Turbulent 51%

But...I don't know, maybe I should just retake it again, because I feel feel like the description of a "mediator" fits well with me....but so do the other personalities like defender (ISFJ), Logician (INTP), debator (ENTP), consul (ESFJ), etc.

For a lot of these question I found it really hard for me to choose between agreeing or disagreeing and maybe that's why this tie I got mediator, but could just as well get another type if I did this again? Do you have any advice on if this usually happens?

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
6 months ago
151 posts

@empphire

You might be INFJ. I had the same issue, INFJs are one of the hardest types to type, and they're also the rarest type on the MBTI list. Theyre so hard because they usually feel like multiple different types fit them... I would recommend at least looking into it...

But if you do, don't get sucked into a label like a bunch of other people do. it is only a label, one that is meant to help you understand yourself better. 

lightstorm
@lightstorm
6 months ago
12 posts

I have noticed that us empaths have a knack for finding each other, even without meaning to. I am a very recently aware empath (literally in the past few weeks) and 2 of my best friends are also empaths, though both have been self-aware much longer than I have. 

empphire
@empphire
6 months ago
19 posts

@loconnoro

Thanks for the tip! Looking into these things is pretty interesting! Hopefully I won't fall into the trap of "labels". I know how conflicted I felt when answering the questions in the personality test and how easily my answers and therefore "results" may sway if taken again. :)

@lightstorm

That's pretty interesting! I still have no idea if I or the others around me are empaths or not, but the couple of people I enjoy hanging around the most are the ones with similar....vibes as me. 

Stills
@stills
5 months ago
13 posts

I think everyone who has empathy is a potential empath. The difference is empaths have acute knowledge and vision of what they are feeling at any one time, so we are able to disect a feeling and say to ourselves 'that's not mine, it's that persons'. Most people are so cut off from their own emotions that they'll never truthly know their potential. They can feel other peoples feelings and simply think it's their own. I see it all the time.

In my opinion Empaths are simply emotional scientists with a clear and functional working knowledge of the emotional vibrations in and out of their bodies. Our emotional bodies are the same as everyone elses, it's just our inner vision and emotional translation is alot better than most.


updated by @stills: 05/13/17 03:17:34PM
Rene''
@rene
5 months ago
1,194 posts
I think we are rare. If you sit and listen to someone long enough, their true nature or ego will show though. I have been wrong so many times about people.
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
5 months ago
479 posts

@rene

I find all the different personalities of people I meet very fascinating. Particularly narcs and sociopaths. Quite often those people are pretty obvious to define in minutes. My radar on that sometimes goes off just watching them from afar. But others are very adept at hiding who they are. Like you said, after some conversation things can be revealed. And I always say you really find out about a person when they are angry. Their shields are down completely and you see the true person. 

empphire
@empphire
5 months ago
19 posts

@rene and @hop-daddy

I totally agree! Usually I try not to judge anyone on their first impressions and try to see the best in them. However, as time goes by, people "true nature" definitely show through.

@stills

Thanks for the response! I too sometimes wonder if everyone with empathy....which I think is mostly everyone, are have the potential to be empaths. Its interesting how you said "The difference is empaths have acute knowledge and vision of what they are feeling at any one time, so we are able to disect a feeling and say to ourselves 'that's not mine, it's that persons'. Most people are so cut off from their own emotions that they'll never truthly know their potential. They can feel other peoples feelings and simply think it's their own."

I thought that other people had a good idea of what they were feeling, and while empaths felt deeply, empaths are the ones that confuse other people's emotions as their own.

But maybe thats an "INFJ" thing. Thanks again @loconnoro for the advice to look into INFJ stuff. It was very informative, reassuring, and well, provided much food for thought :D

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