Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

sorry to hear about your troubles.

Yeah, in my experience emotions can be sticky things! My mind can often resolve a situation quickly, but getting the emotional body to follow suit often takes more time....

A few things:

- I have long ago decided that I do not want to suffer anymore - full-stop! Andy negative emotion I have I had over to the Divine for healing, or ground them off, into the Earth!

- What really helps me relationship wise is to have realized that I am individualized divine Spirit. As such I am whole. I do not need anyone, anything to 'complete' me. I am single, but happy that way, as no more desperation to need to find a soul mate to be 'complete'... If you do not feel your wholeness - you could use an affirmation/ prayer like - 'I Am whole! I am complete! I am beautiful! I am individualized Divine Spirit! And I thank the Divine for perfect healing help to fully feel this!

- What we are is eternal! Yes the illusion of ageing in these bodies can be very convincing, but if you e.g. close your eyes and concentrate on your Soul Star (2 finger width above your naval), you might feel your eternal nature better!

- Use decording exercises with your Ex. I.e. cut all energetic cords. His energies are likely still feeding off you suffering (for/ about him), so cut those connections. Several times if need be! You can also use a simple prayer, such as - 'I forgive myself, I forgive him - I let go in love and I thank the Divine for perfect (relationship) healings! Amen!'

- If you have not already read up about narcissists, sociopaths, brainwashing and mind control. Not all might be relevant, but finding out of the 'psychology' of such a bad relationship can help rationalize things.

- From what you describe - You are very strong to have survived all this. He sounds like a very confused man, perhaps you should rather count yourself 'lucky' that your paths diverted, than feel jilted?

I'm sure you'll get there

Love and Light!

Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
I often wonder what it feels like to be in love. Oh yes, I have loved and still love but I have not "loved" like you do this man. Even though he's not worthy of your love , you love him to pieces. He has done everything but put a sword though your heart, and you still love him and see hope. Now, your trying to put yourself back together without him. Two years has slipped by and you haven't moved on. I don't think he is the problem here anymore. He is your daughters father and you will forever be connected to some degree but it's time to take care of yourself. Get MAD, it's ok to be mad as hell. He can't do anything about it now. He's gone. Then, forgive him, not for his benefit, but for yourself. Until then, his memory is going to haunt you. I have a friend that is going though what you have already survived and I just want to shake her and tell her" look at you, your beautiful smart and deserve so much better than that "! And you do too. No one deserves this. But revenge isn't an option , it's a waste of energy and time cause there is nothing you can do to hurt him like he had hurt you Except to forgive him and walk away. It's not that he has won, refuse to play his game anymore. Your daughter is watching you and how you are handeling this situation and you are her role model. Let her see, it's ok to walk away from a awful situation. It's ok to clean a chalk board and start over. She is your and his daughter and is not going to be used as a go between to hurt each other.But this is only a logical opinion because I have not walked in your shoes, but I have felt deep pain and that's not a good feeling. Not for so many years. Bless your heart. The only way I see is to cut them cords of contact. And then cut them cords that binds you to him. Tell your daughter you are in a state of healing and you don't won't to hear anything about him and you want her to respect your wishes , only take his calls if it has somethings conceding your daughter. Anything else, hang up. Don't open his emails, delete them. Do not respond to his kindness on his good days. He has made his decision and there is no going back or changing it. Take care of yourself. Love and light.
Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
I'm still waiting on thishttps://youtu.be/Ll2H3TIt0PE
4peace
@4peace
2 years ago
187 posts

Hi Hon, I totally agree with Goodenergyhealing. Your ex is a narcissist through and through. They are attracted to empaths. Definitely cut cords.

You are so much better than what you think you are. I'm almost 50 so I understand the whole getting older thing. But I also think I'm getting better too :) My body may sag and droop, but my mind is awesome, even on those days when my back and knees are killing me :)

You need to learn to be comfortable with you. You do not need this man. Say to yourself "I am free! I can learn who I am now!" Learn about something new, take a class or pick up a new hobby. All the affirmations mentioned above are really good, so do those too. Learn about and practice loving and healing yourself. It's a lot easier said than done, but it can be done. You deserve it!!!

Peace

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