Roxanne
Roxanne
@roxanne
8 years ago
1,562 posts

Are you saying "the one who loses him/herself to the external". the one who never fully develops their own awareness of themselves, their likes/dislikes etc. That which defines the individual?

I was just thinking about this today re someone I love. Poor soul kind of got lost in an emotional abyss at an early age and just *became the chameleon*. Experiencing the world via other people's value systems.

Is that what you mean? How do we help them *discover their own true self*.?????

Roxanne
Roxanne
@roxanne
8 years ago
1,562 posts

That is very very interesting, and my gut reaction to this is to say that they might become hyper focused on pleasing others. Placing those values above their own (that they lost)

Once you become so focused on others and in need of their approval you could easily lose sight of the *caring aspects* of others and veer into a type of narcissism that is not easily recognized.

The ones that do so much for people, not out of the generosity of spirit, but to hear the approval

"what a great guy Johnny is." "isn't Johnny just the best." There are supposedly 9 different types of narcissism. The chameleon might be one such type that shapes and bends for approval from so many different types of people he actually contradicts some of his earlier *performances* just to keep beat with the new demands.

Jeeeese, I try to tell my children everytime, there comes a time when you have to stop worrying what people think..............I mean really truly free yourself from it. -- But not out of harshnes or disregard. Just so that you may remain true to yourself. And then when you do something for someone it actually *means* something.

That's my thinking anyway. But what do I know....................I'm three sheets over the rainbow.

hahahahahah GOOD NIGHT, BRUCE!

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