Last year I found out that the man I married and had been with for 14 years had gone on a Russian dating/marriage site and met a woman and started on online relationship with her then eventually ended up physical. I found out by accident when I picked up his phone and saw pictures of the two of them together on a trip he told me he was going on that was business with his job. When I confronted him about it he laughed in my face and said he has been dating her for over 2 years and that he wants a divorce from me and so on. Then he tells me that he broke it off with this woman after a few months of having this discussion with me and agreed to work on our marriage but he had lied and was lying to both me and this woman. On top of all this while he was still married to me carrying on this "relationship" with this Russian woman he was also having internet sex with other women. I finally filed for divorce but recently withdrew it telling him that I'm not paying for the divorce and since he committed the adultery he can pay for it out of his own pocket. He tells me that he is in a hurry to get divorced from me so he can bring this woman over here for good and marry her and make her legal.
This has all be very painful for me to deal with and what makes it even harder is the fact that he packed up what he could in his car and we lost our house to foreclosure and I was forced to move out and am now living in my dad's house which is a very depressing negative scene and my spouse drove to Florida where he claimed a job awaited him which by the way he no longer works at and that woman just so happened to end up there with him for a week before having to go back to Russia. When he lost that job he ended up over at my daughter's home asking to stay at her father in laws who lives next door to them and the man said yes so now my spouse who betrayed me is living next door to my daughter and interacting with her and my grandkid's and my daughter knows full well what he did to me and the pain he has caused me but yet she allows him in their lives and has recently told me to not contact her anymore cause she don't want in the middle of this but yet she would call me talking to me about what he's doing and saying down there including that she was allowing him to sit in her home on his computer talking to this Russian woman.
I now have no relationship with my daughter as she has apparently chosen this man over her own mother and prior she would sit on the phone and tell me I should be glad to be away from him for doing what he did to me and that "just sit back mom cause Karma will get him" and so on but now defends him and accuses me of being hell bent on destroying his life instead of worrying about my own. She tells me to get over it and move on with my life but knowing he is down there with them it is so hard for me and making matters worse is she chose him over me and defends him and seems to treat him like he did a good thing by causing me so much pain.. I just dont' know what to do or how to feel about this whole situation. I have no support system here physically so I'm trying so hard to cope with all of this on my own. The only thing I really have going for me is my job and even that is hard some days to deal with when I have the issue with what my spouse did to me and that my own daughter has betrayed me..
updated by @jodi-hill: 05/27/17 03:28:49PM