I am currently trying to rid myself of a covert narcissist. Seems empaths are quite susceptible to abuse, but especially we who were raised by similar personalities. I only say that to say to you, don't rush and don't worry. I'd much rather be alone than in a relationship that steals my energies and wounds my soul. It's easier to wait than to rid yourself of the damage that can be done in a bad relationship.
I understand the desire. Only too well. Maybe if you send out your wants you'll start getting some open doors that will lead you to where ever he may be. Just remember that you have a wonderful gift in your independence. Never settle - the aftermath is far too difficult and takes away a piece of you.