Hi all, My name is Karen and I'm new here. I found this site while trying to find answers to my emotions and my relationship. It is a fairly new (old) relationship. We were a couple in highschool but the VietNam war got in the way. Last year we reconnected. I didn't know it at first but he suffers from PTSD. Diagnosed buy never treated. We have split up one time because he won't seek out treatment and I can't deal with the melt downs. We are going to split again, again for the same reason. It occured to me just recently that my anxiety gets triggered with his melt downs. He is not abusive to me in any way. It's just what he feels, I feel. Like this morning he was having issues and he was literally shaking and not able to deal with anything. I was clear on the other side of the house. I could hear him, but it had nothing to do with me and was not aimed at me but I immediately felt my anxiety go from 1 to 100 and I started shaking. I left the house for awhile and immediately calmed down. Got back, and there it started again. He eventually took and nap and I was fine. Now I'm starting to feel a bit anxious, but also very depressed. I almost want to ask him what he is feeling but I don't want to start up anything. At this point I think it is best if we split. Maybe he will be forced to get treatment (although I'm not counting on it...he and I are both 64). Maybe we can work something out down the road (although I doubt that too...). He knows what happens to him and even says he should never live with anyone for that reason. I have not told him the reactions I get because quite frankly he will probably blow it off that I am crazy.
Well, hoping to get some clarity here and to learn ways understand and deal with the way I react to people in general. I am a virtual sponge.
Nice meeting everone.
updated by @karen: 03/13/17 11:59:37AM