Male friends falling for me
Both I can sense have an attraction towards me, and both know I'm not interested in them that way. I also found out that recently both have a liking towards me so my gut feeling was correct. This isn't the first time I've had this with male friends and probably not the last. I feel like cutting both out of my life. To me I feel if they are friends they should be happy for me, and not say negative things about the guy and I also learned to not tell them anything anymore. I cannot have another failed relationship because a new guy goes running for how my friends are.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/08/18 06:16:27AM
Sorry you're in this predicament, Tigerlily. Honestly, it's not good to keep people close to you who sabotage you. Sometimes we must evaluate our life and decide what to keep and what to recycle. I really wish you the best with your decision and choices. I am sure you will (and do) make the ones that are right for you
Sorry to say, but based on my experiences you will most likely have to cut them both out of your life eventually. Saying something negative while making it sound positive totally makes sense to me. I knew a guy who used to do that all the time.. I think he tried to be a friend and be supportive but in the end his feelings for me would get in the way of that. It always made me feel like he was only trying to be a friend to get close to me in hopes that one day it would be more. I didn't cut him out of my life, but I did like you and stopped talking to him about new guys that would come into my life. So the friendship eventually died a natural death because of it.
isn't this what is generally referred to as gas lighting?Loaded statements? saying something that is negative in a positive way in the hope of not being faulted or called out on it? Dangerous stuff that one, can do a lot of damage and have the receiver questioning themselves so very much!