TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
456 posts

I'm the same way, I put others before myself. I have always felt guilty for putting my needs first. We actually feel others pain and joy and everything else. After going to reiki, chakra balance, and seeing a psychic. All have told me to stop this. :)

Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
No, you being a Christian does not make you a doormat , being a Empath does. Lol. I'm the same way. From the time I get up to the time I go to bed , I'm constantly either running abound helping people or giving them a shoulder to cry on.I have gotten better , I started by stop answering the phone calls or text everyday. I feel like a therapist working for free. I do feel guilty by not answering people but I have to have time to recharge and I love my space from people. Think of it like I do. If you didn't exist, The would find a way to survive without you. They would have to actually take charge of their own life.
TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
456 posts

Maybe that's why I'm single too! This year I've put the most effort into me, and I've actually had more dates but no relationship, ugh. I lost a few friends this year as well because I put my needs first, not theirs.

TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
456 posts
Wow, we both sound alike!! Same age, want the same things. Message me if you ever want to talk :)
Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
I think it beautiful how Empaths goes above and beyond the normal to help and show love to others but I think we do naglete ourselves because we are so busy making everyone else happy that we do let ourself go too much. We forget our own needs. Sometimes people dont won't us to advance because they are afraid to loose our love and help. Just myself, if I come down with the flu it's going to directly affect about 10 people's lives. They would probably lay down and die. Lol. We take on too much responsibility and emotions sometimes and we wonder why we are so tired.My advice is slowly pull away while your still young and try to start your own life.My sister is a beautiful person that had a addiction but kicked it, survived a horrible marriage and divorce. Never had a child but took on a step son when he was 8 and raised him after divorcing his father then loosing him to an auto accident at the age 27. Now...she is in church, she's constantly running around taking clothes donations for the homeless. Finding food for the homeless then find homeless people to give it all to. She also works at a woman shelter in her spare time. She has a full time job and after doing all of this, she comes get me granddaughter for a night on the weekends to give me a break. She is 56 years old. I told her, slow down, your killing yourself. She said I can't because when I do I get so lonly...,sad but true story.
wiseriverowl
@wiseriverowl
2 years ago
32 posts

h1234, I use to be Christian, and I always felt that people would use me for there own means. but as I got older I had a striking realization. People wanted to be near my light, I'm not saying spiritually. In General, I've been told I have a yellow ora. I still to this day have no Idea what that even means.. when I left my beliefs behind, I felt scared and empty.. it was all I knew from a very young age. But I noticed a difference in the way people treated me. I think I pushed my feelings to them. Making people angry at me for what ever reason. I went through a very bad time, but I still would look after my external family. even if they treated me like garbage I would still try and help them. God can only do so much we have to move in the direction he sends us to obtain the grater things in life.

Wiseriverowl

Hope, Love and Light        

Lotusfly
Lotusfly
@lotusfly
2 years ago
410 posts

I suggest writing down the qualities that you want in a man and praying for the man to come into your life. Sooner or later he will. :) 

Like others have suggested, work on you and do things you enjoy. When you're ready, you will meet the person you are meant to be with. :)

TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
456 posts

H1234, never give up on hope and what you want.  It's why I go on countless dates and get frustrated.  I agree that writing down everything you want.  I did this year's ago but fail to look at it more often.  To read it, vision him, and senD out that love.  Someone once told me that I was choosing to be single and what I want doesn't exist.  That hurt, but I'm not going to settle.  I don't know about anyone else, but when I look at couples I can feel the love between 2 people or one who is so in love with the other and it's not reciprocated.  People settle, and well it ends in divorce.  Don't give up, and we are here to listen and cry to.  Shhot, I did that tonight!  :)

Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
2 years ago
977 posts

Hi ....I know exactly what you mean Alison. ...my role in my family is to be none existent. ...seen but not heard.....if I say something at a family gathering I get cold looks and raised eye brows....or just ignored....it got to the point where I was both annoyed at my ex and grateful for him being there to run interference for me....the feelings I get within my family unit made me hide behind my ex...my family LOVE my ex...and would ask him questions and ignore me....and I kept quiet because that was expected of me....now my ex is no longer there so they have to acknowledge me I some way....but it makes me wonder if found a new love would that scenerio continue....I haven't found a guy either.....I would like to of course but i'm also very cautious...and to be quite frank I haven't been looking all that hard...as my gifts are quite strong and I can't abide the dating rules and regulations....lol...I think those are so fake.....lol...to me the dating thing is like lying...and there seems to be so many dumb rules...

Mike Simpson-Rogers
Mike Simpson-Rogers
@mike-simpson-rogers
2 years ago
12 posts

Im always helping others too.  Dec 14 2014 my father in law passed.  I helped clean him, give meds, then at 4:40 am on that day I checked him he was gone.  I did everything as did my husband to help him.  That was hard for me because I could feel his pain.  So I tried to hurry things up so I could goto my RV.

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