Why do I attract crazy? Do you?

TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
445 posts
I feel like I keep attracting people who need help, mentally unstable etc. That when I meet "normal" they carry on in life. This is becoming difficult to make new friends or even a partner in life.I'd like to hear your experiences, thoughts, suggestions, etc.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/06/18 10:38:09AM
Nocturne's Angel
Nocturne's Angel
@nocturnes-angel
2 years ago
928 posts

What do you mean by this "That when I meet "normal" they carry on in life."

Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

hard to attract anyone with good friend potential in London....

But generally I ask that the Divine helps all those that might come to me seeking help, but for whom I might not have the skills, time or energy to help myself directly. Plus if you have problems setting boundaries you can always ask for help with that too! I used to feel guilty if I did not answer each any every help request myself, until I understood that the Divine always has several back-up plans. So if I do not have enough time or energy to help, they find alternative ways to action any help required!

I think for myself it is also important to know that I do my share of helping. I am lucky enough, that I work as a healer and masseur, so I tick some boxes here through my regular work. That way when I do take time out for myself I can relax better. So for anyone perhaps feeling that they don't do enough healing work with their job, looking after a family, or else - perhaps they can think about setting some dedicated time aside to do healing work that satisfies them? Be that e,g. volunteering in a soup kitchen, volunteering in an animal shelter, dedicating meditation time to healing goals, sending distant healing, writing self-help blogs, etc. etc.... And often it is actually about just looking at ones life more closely and remembering all the good work we already do - to keep the 'I am not helping enough' guilt-demons at bay ;)

TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
445 posts
What's worse is when you set a clear boundary with these people, they still over step it. And when you call them out, they get pissed at me. I'm just tired of it.My job all day consists of fixing issues and helping people. Maybe I should have been a therapist, and get paid to help people like this. :)
Bookworm
Bookworm
@bookworm
2 years ago
94 posts
I enjoy reading your answers Goodenergyhealing!Also, I am based in London and always happy to make new friends (can't give any guarantees about being 'normal' though!) :)
Lavender&rose
Lavender&rose
@lavenderrose
2 years ago
82 posts

It seems to go with the territory, attracting the crazy. The main usefulness of this repeat experience is it has taught me to learn about and maintain personal (as well as energetic) boundaries. But it's a repeat experience, hence a repeat lesson. Very tiring...

It's great you can set a boundary! I didn't have any, had to learn from scratch. But it is more about learning your own internal boundaries, I think. Solidifying the right to have them has taken me years of work and relearning by bitter experience what happens when I don't take my own needs seriously.

Personality disordered types see any boundary as a challenge. I have learnt to sidestep them. You lose too much energy trying to get them to see reason and behave decently and accordingly.

TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
445 posts

Maybe we were all born to be "true" therapists. Ones who actually listen and help people through their daily problems. Versus just a therapist who thinks everyone needs to go on medication!

A friend of mine at work said I'm just very easy to talk to you and can just see it in me. Maybe that is a trait we all have. I've set boundaries with people, and they just ignore them, then I get upset because they over step that boundary and im a bad person.

Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
2 years ago
780 posts
Yes, I have always attracted unstable people also. For the most part they either really like me or in some cases they will have major problems with me. For instance, a couple of times coworkers (two different times, they didn't work with me at the same time) would "zero in on me" and try everything in their power to get me in trouble or fired. I would go out of my way to avoid conflict with them but they would draw to me like moths to a flame. I even took one of them aside in private to ask what I could have done to them for the hatred they had for me...she just replied "You know what you did." To this day I still am not sure what set her off. Same with the others...just pure hatred. I pretty much am pleasant and friendly, so I'm not sure what sets these people off.
TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
445 posts
You probably did nothing wrong but intimidate her. I have coworkers like that, and the feelings are intimadating by me.
Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
True, tigerlily
Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
Unfortunately...but I have come to realize, no one is stable. It's just, we as Empaths, get to hear all about everyone's life. It seems that Empaths, after absorbing everyones crazy-drama energy should be the crazy ones but that's not true. We are actually very strong beings if we take care of our selves spiritually and mentally. It seems Empaths fights our battles within ourselves where the "normal/crazy people" fight theirs on the outside and way to often. And if they are having a good day they find something wrong. Idk. Just my own analysis.
TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
2 years ago
445 posts

Rene, so true!!! I've met so many people like that! It's like they can't handle rejection.

Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
I know. I don't mind rejection, I need my "me" time. Lol.

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