updated by @heather6: 01/11/17 05:30:05AM
Well I recently learned that the part of the brain that experiences physical pain is the same part that experiences emotional pain. So I say, confront the person like you're ripping off a glued-on bandaid (which I know is what it can emotionally feel like). The sooner it's over the less long you'll have to worry about what will happen.
I'm the same way - I hate confrontation/conflict of any kind... I suppose it's worse for me when I don't see it coming, when it comes from someone else. But either way it's hard! I once had to force myself to wake someone up from a nap (who I knew was in a bad mood) because she was going to be late for something. It was awful and it took me at least, like 10 minutes to build up to it :/ Also, I had to make a difficult phone call recently, so when someone dialed the number when I wasn't quite "ready" (to get me to stop procrastinating), it turned out to be a good thing. I think we, being empaths, just have to do this for ourselves when no one else is there to push out on "on stage" so to speak.
I feel your pain... Love & light to you, too Hope all goes well..
I find unless people have motivation they are easy to shy away, when put into situations as such, for one i'm happy you understand the reverse emotions, however, the feelings of pain, guilt, or fear are the only catalyst for love, respect, and hope. That you may feel their pain, however it is your burden to share the lesson, considering their false thinking and resulting pain is also affecting others now as well, by being selfless and strong and dealing with the pain yourself, you may help them resolve their pain and the resulting pain to others around them, you are not just helping them, or hurting yourself, your helping human consciousness as a whole and it is the work of the angels. Welcome to the club, find the harmony in perfect disarray and you will find yourself, all else follows with ease. Hope this helps...