Im new so thought id say a hello to everyone and introduce myself. Im Paul, 32 years oldand I live in the North East of England (UK) and onlya couple of weeks ago discovered im an Empath. All of a sudden memories from as long ago as being a small child started flooding through my head which suddenly all made sense. I always knew I was different but I just couldn't pin point why and assumed everyone was like this and just dealt with the world better than I did. I was never great at meeting people in the dating/relationship world and when I was 26 had a rebound relationship. I felt such a strong connection to her but in hindsight I guess the feeling was from the hurting she was feeling inside. Anyway it didn't work out and it destroyed me and I suffered from depression for a few years, again in hindsight I may have taken that on from her. Ever since I now noticed iv just had short relationships with narcissists the most recent being in Feb this year which I took very slow and I think dodged a bullet when she went off with another guy I guess someone more of a push over and with more money/status etc. Anyway, after that I couldn't get my head how I felt (which at the time I didn't understand but had learnt to trust) that she felt in her heart feeling for me and yet went cold and disappeared.To understand this and search for answersI searched psychology articles and information looking a ego which eventually lead me to narcissist and discovering she was well and truly one of them. In these articles I kept coming across the term "Empath" which eventually I looked up and BINGO my life finally made sense. Im happy I have this gift and found out I have it as I can now understand and start to learn how best I can use it, although I already know myself rather well and understand what my general strengths are.
This created a questions to me, how long did it take everyone to finally come to the knowledge they are an Empath??
And also im clearly not great at relationship which I now know is because of the Narcs I always attract, the question is, do you ever meet others which are not narcs that give that same strong feeling of a connection. Its such a great feeling but if its just due to their internal hurt and my internal wanting to "fix" them then I need to stop looking for that feeling and try a new technique to find someone meaningful in my life?
updated by @whity84: 01/10/17 07:08:12PM