updated by @fiddlehead: 01/22/17 11:48:40AM
Sorry to hear you have this negative person at your job. I had to share my office with a lady that has a huge cloud of negative energy around her. It was terrible, so drained me. I put on my desk small containers of sea salt and black salt, and one with some crystals ( quartz and amber and rose quartz). Acting busy was good for avoiding conversation. What also helped was telling myself, you are there, and I am here, with a wall between. Current status, she transferred to another office.
Hi Fiddlehead, and greetings and salutations to my Empaths friends!
It's been awhile since I've been here, but this is one discussion that drew me in, and I am going to add my two cents worth, if you don't mind. My experience with negative-nelly's has taught me to realize that some people who are constantly complaining, ( not all mind you)
don't want to change. I myself call them, Energy Vampires! I have an older sister who has been like this her whole life! And I totally relate, pertaining to being drained, when in the company of those who spew out negative comments, ect... Conversing with the Negative-nelly's, is especially draining when, regardless if you're talking about everything uplifting and inspiring affirmations! Sadly, she's not the only one I have in my family that I consider Energy Vampires... I must leave the room after a while and go somewhere, ALONE, and charge my battery.
Bottom line is that the Energy Vampires suck the life force out of you and I allowed that too many times before I said, Enough is Enough! No more will I allow you to suck my life force out of me, and I drew the boundary lines, between them and myself! I love my family and friends, but I am doing it at a distance. Sad thing is I ended up with the short stick most of my life, before I decided I wanted my life back! The most important and blessed part is that I can move away and into a home of my own, and not be around all this negativity!!! Fiddlehead, my dear friend, only you can make that decision as to how you handle this situation and I truly believe that you have within you the power to rise above this situation! Be blessed my friend, be blessed!!!
Greetings Fiddlehead! The word Negative-Nelly is a word I remember from the time when I was a little girl... Hearing my mother and aunts talking about the"ones" who complained from the time they got up in the morning to the time they went to bed! Lol I too would be loaded with guilt when all my attempts to help those who walked through their life in a cloud of darkness. Till I realized that some people don't want to be helped, because they're perfectly fine where they're at... my heart would break with the sadness. For years I allowed myself to be used, oh sure they'd reassure me that they are just venting and unloading and they appreciate me for listening to them. Right! Not until I learned that every day was a day of venting and unloading. Drained, so very drained and I knew I had to save myself from their black hole of doom before I too would be sucked in by the vapidness and drown, never more to be functional.... continue to be a blessing to others with your gifts and try to find your way to go in life, without the Energy Vampires sucking your life force out of you! Hopefully you'll be able to draw that boundary line and say, Enough is enough! Good luck, my friend!
Be blessed in all you do in life honey!!!
You're a wonderful, beautiful person who has been given a special gift in life and I know that you are going to go far and help so many people who are going to appreciate you and all that you have!
Be blessed my friend!