Sending you all the positive energy I can <3 I wish I had more.. I'm dealing with similar difficulties. & depression. In other words, you're not alone
Looks really aren't everything. Sometimes movie stars even can seem "ugly" when they're playing the role of a villain. The most ugly-sounding person that you talked about is that guy who gave you a dirty look. That's highly unattractive to treat another human being that way. I'm really sorry you've been treated that way!
I think you may be right about people avoiding empaths. People are afraid of what's "different" but in the end confidence and kindness always will be some of the most attractive qualities, no matter what.
Hello adda, I was going to reply to you yesterday but your situation got me to remembering things that happened to me and it started to make me upset. I feel better today and I really wanted to send you some positive energy. In short, years ago, I was excluded from my sisters wedding party. I was told by my sister and mother " you do not take a good picture". But I went and sat among the other guests. Just recently a women came in my office to get her mail. She made a point of coming around to face me and make a strange comment about my hair. I did not pay much attention to it. Thank goodness. I just figured out when I was coloring my hair that she was making fun of my roots. So why do they do this...because it makes them feel good. Something I can not understand but it makes them feel good.
This is a wonderful place to get some great advice, hang in there!
adda2300, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I was once told that I was ugly, all the time I like you had low self esteem and the guy never took a second glance at me. it wasn't until years and years later that I learned that the reason my sister told me I was ugly was that she was jealous of me. she told me I was really pretty in highschool but she told me I was a fat ugly cow because she didn't want me to be happier then she was. I also found out that some of the guys form my high school the reason they wouldn't talk to me is they though I was out of theirleague. being depressed sucks, but at the same time vanity sucks even more.I understand that the message now a days is your have to be beautifulto be accepted in society but that isBull sh*t.If your not happy but bitter that will show,and the natural beauty wont shine.I'm going to share something with you, when I was depressed and hated my life andhow I looked. I started to distance my self from everybody and every thing. then I was doing some historyresearch and I started to get a good feeling in my heart. I then realized that it didn't matter what other peoplesaid to me or about me I decided not to care. I didn't want negative emptions in my life. I wanted positive and good feelings. so I stopped talking to and hanging out with people who were bad influences in my life and foundpeople who were nice and kind. as for thepeople who don't like you its their lose not your, you don't need them anyways. if someone cant love you for you theoh well
I hopeyou nothing but good thoughts and happy days
I agree with what everyone else is saying. You are NOT ugly. Those people that are treating you like that are being ugly. NOT you. I've always had issues with self-esteem as well and I'm starting to gain more confidence in myself. It's a practice. Tell your self everyday that you love yourself. Explain why. Make a list of the reasons why you are beautiful. Trust me, you have plenty of reasons. We all do. It'll be hard to find them at first because it's not something you're used to doing but those reasons are there.
Here's something I do when someone tries to make me feel bad by making a nasty comment or whatever. I'll say: "Awww thank you so much!" As if they paid me a compliment rather than an insult. I'll say it with genuine enthusiasm and a smile and it completely throws them off! It's pretty funny actually.
Really, if they feel the need to insult/make you feel bad, it's a compliment. They're taking the time to do so because for whatever reason, they feel insecure about themselves. That's why they feel the need to make others feel bad. To make themselves feel superior. They almost need to do that to feel good about themselves because without it, they don't feel anything. They thrive on it. So don't give them the response they are looking for when they act this way. It will make them face themselves in the ways they are trying to avoid. Let them feel ugly. Let you feel beautiful. <3
Sending lots of positive loving energy to you! Things will get better.
Imagine you were born socially beautiful
How nice is must be to know that everyone in your life loves you because of your surface beauty, that your accomplishments are as hollow as your head, and how nice to have everyone competing for your attention, so they can be seen with you and show you off like the trophy you are. How nice it is to go through life never knowing the struggles of true intelligence and achievement, how nice to get better service because of your body than human rights....
Being beautiful on the outside curses the person to be empty on the inside....
They are used and abused everyday and don't even know it....
Are you saying you would rather be ignorant to truth?
You are beautiful, in mind body and soul, the opinions that you are not represent the shallowness of those around you, and you don't need them in your life anyway
Believe you are so much more than that, because you are.... Beauty is a curse
I apologize, what I mean is social standards for the superficial definition of beauty... that is not real IMO, it blinds us from the true nature of life. I absolutely agree with you Karen.
Weight loss commercials, acne commercials, teeth whitening, hair products, makeup, lingerie.... everything is thrown in your face to spend money trying to be beautiful on the outside.... and you apply these products, and gain nothing in your mind or soul....
Appearances are important, yes... But looking the part, and looking hot/sexy etc.. are not required
I agree that beauty is not a curse. Beauty and ugly are both opinions. We all have a right to have an opinion but I think people should keep their negative opinions to themselves. People need to respect others. My beautiful ( on the outside) sister would tell me constantly when we were young how ugly I was. In my opinion, she is ugly, inside and out, for telling me that. She has "issues" yes but that does not give her the right to say negative things.