used to be a bit scared of going to sleep too. Some night used to be quite stressful - loads of heavy dreams. Still a vivid dreamer, and it is rare that the energy in a dream is refreshing and pleasant.... the worst hours are the morning (say from 6am onwards), and if I get up before 11am, there is a fair chance of me getting up and carrying heavy dream energy with me most of the day. If I just sleep through that heavy energy patch, ignoring my dreams best I can - my day is likely much more cheerful )
I have found too that there seems to be such a thing as empathic dreaming. Had this dream about a cemetery 5 years ago. I remember the energy being particularly miserable. I have trained myself to forget my dreams asap (as, as mentioned, I do not like being stuck with heavy energy, and attempts on dream interpretation a few years prior usually ended up being demotivating, rather than inspiring....), but that dream I know stuck more. I woke up and found it weird having dreamt of cemeteries, as it is not a normal 'theme' in my dreams.... I forgot all about it again though till my massage/ healing client that afternoon. He was a first time client, so I really did not know anything about him (except phone number, first name and profession). Half way through the massage I was suddenly stuck in the cemetery dream again, i.e. I felt the energy of the dream, and remembered the dream. It lasted a few minutes and then everything proceeded as normal. There was no communication with the client about this.
After the massage the client thanked me for the massage and we had a little chat. He said he had been seeking a more healing massage as he had had a recent close loss, i.e. his mum. About 6 months prior. And then he said he is still dealing with the grief, and dreams about cemeteries almost every night!!!
The same thing happened about two weeks on with another client. I.e. I remembered the cemetery dream energy during a treatment, and he mentioned a recent loss after his treatment.....
I think in about 9 years of doing massage and healing full time, there has been a handful of clients only that admitted recent loss and grief to me, and usually not when they are there first time, but after a few sessions and more rapport and trust has been built up.....(NB most my clients are male, and they are often less chatty and spiritually inclined than women...)