I'm no expert, but what I think is this. Your kids came to you when they were hurting. They know you are there for them and trust you. You already are what you wanted to be, an understanding and loving mother. You've already experienced what it's like to have a parent that cannot possibly understand you, and you made sure that your kids never experience that. How awesome is that!!! BTW, I don't think you can be too emapthic for your kids. You can be strong and cry with them too.