I agree with Rene it takes the comfort of yourself within your own skin to be able to deal with the responses from who you decide to tell
My `self discovery` would have been great to have been able to express why I could no longer work with a certain individual - To have been able to say - I am an empath and am absorbing this person - He is making me both mentally and physically ill would have been brilliant - Of course this would have made me look `unstable` and somewhat `kooky`
To be given the opportunity to explain what an empath is, how it works etc is hard - If you want to tell someone then it is best that, that someone is with an open mind and who will not mock until you get a full grip on it all yourself - I have, at present, not really felt the need to express myself empathically anywhere but, here because I find that I need fully understand myself first
Your question - Would it hurt you, telling someone and making them promise they would not tell but, then they do to someone you do not want to know?
I guess the betrayal of the person having promised but ignored would hurt - The person who you did not want knowing (obviously for a reason) may mock?
There is no `bad vibe` if that is what you mean? Not unless you get stressed or really upset about it all - truly though there is no need - Again, as Rene says - It is not about others thoughts - What goes on in your head is all that matters - People will think what they think regardless, when you allow what they think to take up your thoughts is when it serves no purpose
A lot of people are ignorant to a lot of things - That does not make them bad, just unknowing is all
Jessvet, Yes it would hurt me. I agree with both Rene and karma. I would like to talk about being an empath but I feel people, at least the people I know, would not be open minded to listen and understand. That is what is so wonderful about being in this group, a place to talk and share.
I cannot really answer tat question, as I would not tell anyone to not tell anyone (anymore). Maybe I had learned to stand up for who and what I am, when I came out as gay (years before my spiritual coming out) . Realizing that I am an empath was just another facet of my being that I became aware of. That said it took me years to be firm in my diagnosis that I am an empath. Being an empath goes against so many other spiritual teachings - which usually tell you that you have to take responsibility for all your emotions, and that they are all self-generated. As such I observed my feelings and thoughts for years, before I was firm in my diagnosis of being clairsentient (the term empath I only found later on). It is all in a book now I have written too, so there is no way to 'hide' it anymore.
So I do not know your life circumstances, there might be reasons why you do not want to be 'open' about your abilities (heck, I would not run around screaming I am gay in a homophobe country either), but it does sometimes also pay to have a closer look at the reasons why we do not openly admit to all facets of our being - and get rid of any unnecessary potential shame...
Love and Light!
hmmmm....a few thoughts on this: I told one close friend and he was mostly neutral, not really discussing it further or agreeing/disagreeing. So with that friend i just let the topic die out and did not persue it further . Online, thru 3 different facebook friends (2 ive known since grade 4 (40 year ago) and the third person went to highschool with me but we never knew each other) went much different. The first two female friends actually responded by telling me they themselves are empaths! So we discussed thru FB chat are experiences and similarities and concluded we are indeed empaths. The third female mostly ignored my conversation about me being an empath. She never knew me at all, only that we went to the same high school and that we just recently chat thru facebook about life, but have never met in person. A little while ago she said to me ''I think i might to be an empath''.....but as i do not really know her and it has only been facebook text chatting/phone call texts (no in person interaction ) i will give it time to meet in person and i will know if for real she is or not. For the most part, my answer here would be that majority of people will think we are a flake or a bit of a weirdo/nutcase if you confide in them we are empaths....the only ones who will respond positively are those with an open mind or empaths themselves. Be braVE and speak to somebody you think you can confide in....just realize you may not get a positive response but that is OK, you will not die from it...dont make it a bigger deal then needed.