Don't feel worthy
updated by @windwolf: 05/23/17 02:08:41PM
The challenge here is distinguishing between the emotions that are truly yours and the emotions that you are picking up from the people (especially the one particular person) you are focusing on.
The biggest challenge that we have as empaths is taking on others' emotions and then thinking that those emotions are our own.
"You begun to hurt because ..." they are hurting themselves!
Does this help?
I feel I'm in the same boat..
I told my guy that (romantic kind) 4 months into the relationship, and he seems a bit more distant than usual, and I'm starting to feel pretty bad as a result. Which then turns into anger sometimes.
Kinda just floundering around a bit at the moment.
I am going to throw in another perspective here (and since I do not know you, I cannot say yours will be for the same reasons!).
I used to get that answer a few times in my 20s. Looking back now I understand why. It was usually in the context of romantic entanglements. Back then I was a hopeless romantic, any new guy I met and liked, I straight away (in my head) got married to, bought a house, a dog, maybe adopted some kids etc. If anything that must have created a really suffocating energy. I put those guys in a relationship cage without giving either of us any decent time to get to know each other, learn about each other's faults, desires etc. I know I am not the only one doing this, and it is basically the reason why I would pretty much not date anyone in their early 20s now. Guys in their early 20s often fall in love really quickly, and then if it does not work out, one is left with having to 'break their heart'.
Someone telling you that you love them - romantically or platonic - can convey the feeling of responsibility. You are now responsible for living up to that love, and if that love is not unconditional, you are responsible for not disappointing that love! And not many people are able to truly love unconditionally.... And many people do not have all that much energy, after using so much on just keeping a roof over their heads, to have to be really careful not to hurt someone's feelings.... Add to that that many people have hidden guilt that makes it hard fro them to even accept unconditional love....
Also some people are not too good with words. I heard somewhere that there is three types of people - those who love words (you tell them you love them), those who love deeds (you show them you love them), and those who love touch (you touch them to show your love). I am definitely the second one, as I have had too many people tell me nice things, but not be able to actually follow through in deeds. To me deeds count more.
So being am unconditionally loving being on this planet can be tough. One can be rejected many times for various reasons. But if we keep on channeling positive energies in, and help remove negative energies - things change over time. I have had many lonely years since I became spiritual, but things are improving. As empaths we have to built our lives like a house, with bricks of love. And most places the ground is unstable, so we'll have to drill deep foundations into the ground first, to be able to built in the first place. All that takes time and patience. But we are not alone ever, we can always call on spiritual, divine solace and company....
If you are not already, perhaps mingle more in spiritual communities. E.g. empath groups, meditation groups, shamans, yoga etc. Meetup.com is a fab website for that. Even in those groups it might take some patience and time, but people should be more sensitive already, have access to more energy etc....
And always remember - non-spiritual people are often even more lonely than spiritual people. They might look together from the outside. It looks like they have a great live, many friends etc. But often the connections in their lives are very shallow. There is so many games and masks. If I ever become envious or jealous, I look at their feelings and motivations. Usually they are the ones that end up looking lonely and empty, so I send them loads of healing....
Love and Light!
Truly loving someone unconditionally means too though that we allow them to find their own path! To accept help, ours or otherwise, or to battle by themselves. Sometimes the greatest thing we can do to help - is to let them be! It is a free will system after all. It is gets easier, I find, when remembering that life is eternal. Sure it is hard to see people we care for suffer, but all suffering is finite, and our life time, compared to eternity is very brief. All beings find back to the love that is ALL, and that they ARE eventually. If they screw up life with the current body, there is countless opportunities of having happy lives with other bodies...
Your love might be unconditional, but with most humans putting conditions on their love, it is understandable that people might take their time in vetting if anyone's offer of help is truly unconditional. And if they do not currently have the time and energy to vet, they might feel it is safer to reject than to accept some potentially tainted help....
Love and Light!