Hiy yeah ive found this totaly. Its like i am a magnet for them and i fall for it everytime. I tend to only find people who want to take off me all the way. I find it hard to make other connections other than takers. Ive found online friendships better they cant take as much
I am slowly realising who is and who is not my real friend. I want to stop falling for their sob stories and coming to the rescue and thinking i can save them. I often find that there is no real sob story they are making alot of it up for sympathy. I have one real bad on in my life and she is definatley making it so hard for me to leave. Saying stuff like ' i wish everyone in the world was nice like you i know you wont hurt me and let me down' I
dont know if she actualy means this or its a ploy as to keep me with her. But she is sucking me dry. She never stops taking. I can almost feel her sucking the light out of me. She feeds on her own negative energy. Ive got to get away from her. She is always inviting herself to talk to me everyday and i cant stand it. She wants to take over my life!
This is just one example. For me they always act like the lost one that no one has ever loved. But if you give them any love they wont leave you alone. They latch onto you and keep sucking till they are full and you are empty. They will tell you anything in order to latch on.
It has got so bad for me that im afraid to connect with new people now. Cos it seems i have so many in my life. I dont know how to get rid of them so i usualy just leave them on the edge of my life and hardly ever speak to them. I have isolated myself from people cos of this. It is hard to spot them ahead of time. Its only once they are in your life that they show themselves and im so bad at getting out of friendships. It feels like im breaking their heart!
BUt i think this is just my projection onto them. I hate being abandoned so i dont want to do that to someone else