Meeting new people
updated by @tigerlily: 05/24/17 03:02:50PM
Yes, it use to happen a lot. I think it has to do with the boundaries we set and the beliefs we carry about what our roles are in the world and in our relationships. If you believe that your role, as a empath, is to "save" people (and you'd have to examine yourself for this idea) then you'll attract people who want to be saved. But a big chunk of it goes back to you and what your beliefs are.
You're not a bad person for saying no to the savior complex.
I can definitely relate to all of what you've described with people.
Envy happens when someone you consider to be on the same page as you suddenly seems to be doing better and that's what happened with your friend. You seem happy and confident when in the past perhaps the both of you were not. Your perception of life being somehow unfair gave her perception of life validation because you were both on the same page.
You other friend who exploded on you, you're right she didn't need to explode on you. But she did it because she doesn't trust herself enough to make her own decisions. She wanted you to tell her what to do and you refused so she snapped because she was scared of losing the person who makes decisions for her and is scared she'll now have to make decisions for herself and what if she's wrong? who's to blame then?
Friends come in time. When you let one go, new ones come along and as you evolve, sometimes so does your circle.