I just wondered cos im so far deciding to stay single in my life rather than go searching for love. I found im just wanting to work on myself at the moment and work out alot more about my highly sensitive personality and my newly descovered empath place in the world. I was already doing so much work on myself and discovering so many things i wouldnt have discovered if id been with someone i dont believe.
I personaly feel i have too much 'stuff' to be getting into a close personal realationship. That coupled with i dont know what i want from someone else. And i have a very complex physical illness and mental things in tow. I feel it would actualy be very foolish to become involved with someone right now.
But there is someone i met through a forum. We have been speaking on the phone and im fond of him already. But if anything were to happen it will be a long way off in the future. I dont think he is in any sort of rush to start something. But there has been flurting.
I feel truely that i am better off alone. There is not the same constant stress like if you are with someone. Ive not learned to negotiate the emotions of other people yet to successfully be able to be around another person. I can just feel too overwhelmed by another. Ive often thought if i ever got a long term partner and we wanted to live together. I would ask him to live in the annex in my garden rather than live with me in the main house. Cos i would like to not have to see him everyday!!.
I am just a very self sufficent and solitary person. I get strength from being alone. That doesnt mean im anti-social i have friends and i see my dad three times a week. I would even like to make some more like minded friends That live in my area or even just online people. But i for now dont know how to be in a relationship with someone else. ive been single so long ! Its been 15 years since i had a boyfriend and im only 37. Ive had alot of personal problems that have led me to turn to myself more and more. And had illness problems as well so have adapted to be by myself. Now i cant imagine being with a man.
Anyway my question to you all is if you are single is it out of choice? Have you chosen it for your sanity or just cos you fancied being alone for awhile.
updated by @lilly: 09/04/18 08:44:02AM