Does the word "No" sound like the word "Maybe" when spoken by an Empath

Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
How hard is it for you all to tell someone "no" to minor deviations in your everyday life or plans. It's a real problem for me. Major issues I don't have a problem with. It's the little things that pushy people will ask from me knowing I'm going to adjust my daily plans to accommodate them. And I get as aggravated at myself for not saying no as I do them for keep asking for favors. Example: plans to weed your garden but someone calls and needs a babysitter or for you to go pick things up from store for them because they aren't feeling well. Or to stop everything and listen and giving advice for everyday problems These sound like small simple setback in our day to day life but it will devour our energy because we cannot say no. I dont ask people in my life for help or advise due to the overwhelming effects it puts on me when I am ask constantly to put my life aside and do for everyone else. I know I'm venting and it's my own fault for not saying no but I need "quite "me" time" but it's hard to break this habit and I'm afraid to say no for fear of them not getting the help they are seeking. If I was going to comment on this post I would say "it's ok to say no, they will live though it but when it happens to you , it changes your thoughts. You may say "you should of never started it" but that would of mean not being born because I've always been this way. I was wondering how others cope with this.
updated by @rene: 09/02/18 01:53:53PM
Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
2 years ago
767 posts
I can relate!! It normally goes like this....I will say no, and that is accepted. Then I get the overwhelming feeling of guilt, which then makes me recant my no and do the bidding anyway. Then after the whole scene plays out, I'm angry with myself for not taking care of me first. Several of my family members know this cycle and expect the above to happen, but if I do stand ground, I get the feel that they are angry with me which just makes it worse. I sometime feel like such a pushover, but I guess that is just our nature. I'm getting better at saying no, but it is hard to deal with the after affects of saying it. It usually takes days to rid myself of the guilt, which in turn drains me as well.
Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

have you tried 'revenge healings'? :))) If people put me in a position such as the above, and somehow there is no way to say NO, without being an utter ass - I pray for tons of healing for them! Whatever necessary so that a similar situation will not arise again. And somehow it seems to work (at least in the long run!).

In a way I consider anything that disaffects me as a cry for healing help....

Love and Light!

Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
2 years ago
767 posts
You are not alone Karma. I am also guilty of over using the word :)
Crownite
Crownite
@crownite
2 years ago
106 posts

No. Being an empath doesn't quite justify people pleasing tendencies. Even as empaths we have to learn to speak up and advocate for ourselves and learn good, strong communication techniques and clear cut boundaries.

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