Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

Have you prayed for help? If i have problems with someone I send hordes of angels their way (to them and whichever energies/ being they might be associated with), to either give them Love and Healing until they genuinely change (for the better), or disappear from my life. Make sure you cleanse your energies regularly (if you don't already), ground and regularly cut cords with/ to her. Hope that helps. It can be stressful to deal with a narcissist for sure, but just try to remember that in the long run the good energies always outnumber any negative ones, and we always win ;) Love and Light

Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

forgot to say - it helps to remind oneself too that people like her are usually (on some level) jealous of people like us. We are (on average) the calm, strength, confidence, compassion, insightfulness, etc. that they which they had (ie have lost the connection to inside themselves)... When I think about narcissists that way, all that is left is pity. I am still not going to let them exploit me because of it, but it is a better position to be in than hate :)

Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

just commenting (not having taken offense). I meant prayer on top of all the usual - i,e. reasonably controlling ones thoughts, emotions, reactions and actions usually is still necessary. In my experience narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths are often just puppets, there is a lot of negative energies/ beings behind them, and which are the actual driving force. I know a few narcissists, and sociopaths that really are not intelligent enough to do all that plotting, or controlling and guiding of the energetic havoc they cause - there must be something intelligent behind them. I.e. if such people come with negative energy back-up, it is only fair that we draft in positive energy back-up ;). (given obviously that one has higher believes and is open to ask for spiritual help. And in my experience most believers under-use the help that is available to us, rather than greedily overuse (if there is such a thing)). Love and Light!

Rene''
Rene''
@rene
2 years ago
1,195 posts
All the above advice is what you have to do. She will continue to try to manipulate you though other people but you need to put these people out of your life also or she will still be controlling you though them.You took the first step but still have a long way to go.I have only been in jail one time in my life and it was due to a narcissist. I was a very good friend to her, spent lots of money on her because I played into her pity. As soon as I ran out of money she started treating me the same way. She started restricting her post from me on fb and was saying the awful things about me. One day some one screen shot it and sent to me and I completely cut her and her groupies out of my life. It was hard because I thought the world of her and would do anything for her. She was very upset when she lost all control over me. She would have people call me a say awful stuff to me but I blocked every number that contacted me. After a month she flipped out and came to my house and caught me completely off guard, came in with a steal bar and beat the side of my head so bad it busted my head open. I finally got it away from her and I about choked her to death. The only stop me was the blood pouring out of my hair dripping on her face . I didn't know I was bleeding up till the point. Then I started getting dizzy and let her go. She jumped in her car and took off. I called 911 for a ambulance and the police. I gave them a description of her and the car. The stopped her and brought her back to my house while I was in the ambulance being checked out. An officer came to the door and told me I would have to go to jail also because she said I tried to kill her and she was protecting herself and her neck was red. I tried to tell them what happen and that was criminal trespass cause she came to my house trying to hurt me and assault with a deadly weapon for using the bar. He said he didn't know what happen her so we both was going for a fray She had worked her narcissist magic on them and had them believing her. When I bonded out I went to the court house and put charged on her and got a protective order against her.So. I know this is an extreme example but when you take that control away from them they cannot handle it. It drives them crazy with rage. Don't underestimate their abilities to manipulate others. But stay strong and don't give in no matter how pitiful she sounds or what she tells you or other. I know how hard it is to let go of that friendship but it is toxic. You can not fix her. No matter what she knows or lies she make up about you. Don't respond unless it's with a court order. People is going to believe what they want to believe. As for your kids. Don't let her around them. Period!!! They are your kids. You got to appear strong no matter how weak you feel.
Goodenergyhealing
Goodenergyhealing
@goodenergyhealing
2 years ago
392 posts

like Arielle says - if she becomes a danger, or starts involving the kids - consider a restraining order (you might already, considering that she has threatened to involve the kids? - see what your gut tells you.) . I'd maybe also preempt, and talk to the kids calmly, saying that this woman is a bit confused at times, and might start saying mean things about you, or them, If she does they should just come to you and tell you - you'll deal with it....

Visitor
Visitor
@visitor
2 years ago
303 posts

Adda - your post shocked me so much I had to take a day to think it over. This ex-friend of yours is scary and dangerous. I was in a slightly similar situation several years ago. An ex-boyfriend (I use the term loosely) was trying to get custody of his stepkids, and I knew VERY well that he shouldn't have custody of any kids, ever. You get my drift. It was my word against his, and he had a lot of friends. But I had to come forward and testify against him, because no way was I going to stand by and let him get those kids. Their mother was incompetent, and he was counting on that.

I was afraid he'd kill me, ruin my reputation, etc. etc. Fortunately, it turned out that a lot of people in the community knew exactly what he was like, and came forward to testify against him as well. He ended up losing his job and did not get custody, although he probably got visitation rights (I never found out). I'm obviously alive, although the stress nearly did me in. I protected myself by telling everyone I knew what was going on.

Anyway, all this extra information is leading up to this: A lot of people probably already know how crazy your "friend" is, and they probably would side with you. People are never as blind and ignorant as they seem. She might say whatever awful things she wants, but it won't stick if people know her to be a liar. You might confide in some trusted people - I don't know if they would be friends, parents, counselors, whatever, to cover your butt.

Also, don't talk to her anymore, period. Remove her from your Facebook page and all social media. Don't answer her calls or texts. If she's trying to seduce your boyfriend she is one immature @#$#, and it's likely she's trying to seduce her other friends' boyfriends too. She may be a victim of violent sexual abuse and she's acting out. You really need to cut her out of your life as much as possible and not let yourself react to her insults. Easier said than done, but I've done it, and it works. I've had so many so-called friends (and boyfriends) like that, and it feels so good to just chop them out of my life. When I have time to think back on it, I don't feel sorry for them, and I don't feel guilty. There is a difference between a good person with problems, and a sociopath like this girl.

Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
2 years ago
965 posts
Hi...the only thing to do...and don't ever have regrets...is to cut her out completely....there's only so much one can take of such treatment...and you've had enuf...don't talk to her...cut all energy cords to her...and continue to do so...block her from calling you...pull back completely from everyone you associate with who also associate with her...and cut all THEIR energy cords from youself as well...just walk away...cutting her energy cords to you should calm your energy and fear..being linked to her at the energy level means she can still feed your fear and not be near you physically at all....everytime she send you a text erase it and cut the cord...her texts reattach the energy cord everytime you read it...if you have anything of hers or gifts from her toss em...you CAN take your power back...your much stronger than she is....and the thing is...she KNOWS it...that's why these people do what they do...she's afraid of you...

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